When They Told You That This is Just The Way It Is

They told you it was too late. That healing had to take decades. That breaking generational cycles was “just the way it is.” They told you to manage, to cope, to quiet your truth, to be “realistic” about your relationships, your voice, your wild desires. But what if I told you… The life you’re aching for? The freedom, the clarity, the grounded YES in your bones? It’s not only possible — it’s been waiting for you. ✨ I’ve seen women walk away from decades of people-pleasing and finally hear their own voice like a sacred sound. ✨ I’ve witnessed clients who thought they were “too broken” or “too much” unravel inherited trauma and find their power in the exact place they once felt shame. ✨ I’ve watched mothers, daughters, and partners unhook from trauma bonds — not by fighting, but by finally seeing the pattern, giving it back with love, and reclaiming themselves. This isn’t magic — but it is sacred. It’s the deep systemic, somatic, and soul-level work that unravels what’s not yours so you can remember what is. 🔥 Your inner knowing. 🔥 Your clean NO and holy YES. 🔥 Your ability to belong to yourself, without guilt. 🔥 Your clarity about why you stay stuck — and the permission to step out of it. You were taught that this kind of healing was a mountain. But what if it’s actually a door? 🚪 And all you need is someone who knows where the handle is hidden — because I’ve walked through it myself. Your life is not meant to be a loop. It’s meant to evolve, to breathe, to expand — and so are you. 🌹🌀

Breaking the Chains - - Unmasking the Truth of Trauma Bonds

ColliTalks: Breaking the Chains — Unmasking the Truth of Trauma Bonds Welcome to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations. I’m your Creator, Director, Producer, and Host, Colli Christante — a seer of hidden patterns, intuitive guide, and systemic trauma practitioner devoted to helping you remember who you truly are beneath the noise, the roles, and the inherited pain. In tonight’s solo episode, we’re breaking the chains — unmasking the truth of trauma bonds. These are the invisible threads that keep us tangled in relationships that hurt, patterns that suffocate, and identities that aren’t truly ours. They often feel like love… but are built on fear, survival, and unconscious loyalty 🧬. Together, we’ll explore: ✨ How trauma bonds are formed — and why they’re so hard to leave ✨ The nervous system’s deep attachment to what’s familiar, even when it hurts ✨ The ancestral and systemic layers woven into these bonds ✨ And the path to unhooking from what’s been binding you — with compassion, clarity, and courage This is a sacred unraveling — not to destroy what was, but to free what wants to emerge. Because you were never meant to live in chains. Let’s begin this journey — together. Welcome to ColliTalks.

When You STOP Trying to Fix Yourself, You Start to Meet Yourself

Here’s something that sounds counterintuitive — but I’ve seen it crack people wide open in the best way… When you’re stuck in self-sabotage, systemic patterns, or trauma loops, most of the world will tell you: Push harder. Fix it. Do more healing. Say the affirmation. Think positive. Override the fear. But I say the opposite. I say: Pause. Soften. Listen. Not to the story in your head — but to the voice underneath the silence. Because what’s running the show isn’t just you — it’s generations of unspoken grief, hidden loyalties, and inherited patterns 🔁🧬. When you stop trying to fix yourself, you start to meet yourself. And that’s where the real healing happens. Not by doing more… but by including what’s been exiled. By honoring what your system has always been trying to protect 🛡️. ✨ So instead of fighting your resistance… get curious about it. ✨ Instead of overriding the fear… sit beside it like an old ancestor with a story to tell. ✨ Instead of striving to be better… recognize how hard your system has worked to keep you safe. This work isn’t about doing more. It’s about unraveling the why beneath what you’ve been repeating — so you can finally choose a new path 🕊️. So no… I won’t push you to “just get over it.” I’ll walk you back into the room where it first began — and help you retrieve the part of you still waiting to be seen 👁️🤍. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Your Language Becomes the Cage

“I don’t need that kind of work. My trauma’s not that bad.” Ever heard that voice inside? The one that says: “I’ve already moved on.” “It wasn’t that big of a deal.” “It happened so long ago.” “Other people have it worse.” Here’s the truth no one talks about: Language becomes the cage. The stories you repeat — “I’m fine,” “I’m over it,” “It made me stronger” — aren’t just words. They’re bars. Reinforcements. Rewind loops keeping you inside the same emotional container — never fully free, just better at managing your pain. Continuing to believe that your story doesn’t need to be explored because it wasn’t “bad enough”… is exactly why you’re still exhausted from holding it all together. Why joy feels fleeting. Why deep intimacy keeps slipping through your fingers. The work I do isn’t about reliving your past. It’s about releasing the unconscious loyalties still driving your present. It’s about unbinding you from the language that has kept your truth suppressed and your nervous system loyal to pain you never chose. Systemic trauma isn’t always loud. It shows up in quiet places: 🧬 In the pause before you speak your truth. 🧬 In the need to apologize for taking up space. 🧬 In the smile that hides the ache. 🧬 In the same sentence you’ve told yourself for years: “I’m fine. This is just how I am.” But what if it isn’t? What if you’re not meant to keep managing it… But to finally release it — from your lineage, your body, your story? You don’t need to be in crisis to choose freedom. You just need to recognize when your own words have become a cage. And if this stirs something inside you — that something is your truth, ready to rise. 🕯️🦋🗝️ Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Liberating Your System

If you’ve tried to move forward by staying in your head… you were probably following a pattern that was never yours to begin with. ✨ You’ve done the reading. ✨ You’ve talked it through. ✨ You’ve journaled your heart out. ✨ You’ve tried to “understand” your way into change. But understanding isn’t transformation. And insight isn’t embodiment. Most people don’t realize this: The loop they’re stuck in isn’t because they’re doing something wrong — It’s because their system is loyal to something unseen. Something inherited. Something unspoken. Real change doesn’t happen in your head. It happens when you return to the body. To the places inside you that were silenced, excluded, or forgotten — not because you failed, but because your system was protecting what no one else knew how to hold. In my work — we don’t fix. We reconnect. We reorder the system. We reclaim what has always belonged to you. And when that happens… You don’t just shift your life — You shift the field for everyone who came before you and everyone who will come after. 🕯️ You were never broken. You were carrying too much, for too long, on behalf of too many. It’s time to return what isn’t yours and walk forward in the truth of who you really are.

The Ones Who Win Are the Ones Who Are Ready to Lose Who They Thought They Were

A key trait all my most powerful clients have is this: They are willing to lose who they thought they were. They’re not here for surface-level fixes. They don’t want a shiny mindset shift, a nervous system hack, or a productivity high. They want to go into the bones of the pattern — and listen. They understand that the pain they carry is not just theirs. It belongs to a lineage. To the women who were silenced. To the ones who carried what they weren’t allowed to speak of. To the parts of themselves that were buried under roles, rules, religion, and survival. ✨ They don’t need convincing. ✨ They don’t need a “guarantee.” ✨ They feel the pull because they know there is something ancient asking to be seen through them. And when we meet — in constellation, in field, in story, in somatic truth — they are willing to feel what was never felt. Not because it’s easy. But because it’s time. They’re not asking, “How fast can I be healed?” They’re asking, “How deep can I go into what’s real, so I don’t pass this on?” They come to me when the old ways no longer work. When the loop is loud. When their body is whispering what their mind can no longer override. And together, we do the work that sets not just them — but their entire bloodline — free. Because the ones who find me… Are ready to remember. 🕯️🌿🧬

How I Freed Myself From a Toxic Relationship — and the 5 Steps That Made It Possible

How I Freed Myself From a Toxic Relationship — and the 5 Steps That Made It Possible Years ago, I was entangled in a toxic relationship that was slowly eroding my soul. On the outside, it looked “functional.” On the inside, I was shrinking. I stayed far longer than I should have — not because I didn’t know better, but because of what I couldn’t see: Ancestral loyalty. Systemic trauma. The part of me that believed love meant abandonment of self. This is how I found my way back — not just to safety, but to truth. And it’s the same path I now guide clients through: 🪞 Step 1: I stopped trying to “fix” the relationship — and got honest about my entanglement. I had to see that staying wasn’t just about fear — it was about loyalty to women in my lineage who also silenced themselves to survive. Once I named that, everything started shifting. 🕯️ Step 2: I acknowledged the deeper trauma pattern. Through Family Constellation work, I saw how my nervous system was replaying an old script: “If I can just love them enough, I’ll finally be safe.” That wasn’t love. That was survival. 🧬 Step 3: I worked with my body, not just my mind. Through Specialized Kinesiology,yoga, I mapped the way my body was holding the betrayal, grief, and self-abandonment. I didn’t talk my way out — I released it through my cells. 🐚 Step 4: I included the exiled parts of myself — the ones I had judged and left behind. The part of me that stayed. The part of me that raged. The part of me that begged for breadcrumbs. I brought them in, not out. And I wept. 🔥 Step 5: I re-chose my life. Not as a performance. Not to prove anything. But as an act of devotion to the woman I truly am — and the work I came here to do. That relationship didn’t define me. But it did initiate me. Why does this matter to you? Because maybe you’re stuck in a loop that’s deeper than logic. Because maybe your trauma isn’t just yours. And because no amount of mindset work will free you from a soul-level bind. The process I walked through is the same one I now guide others through in my practitioner training and 1:1 work: 💠 Systemic clarity 💠 Somatic release 💠 Soul reclamation If this speaks to something buried inside you — I see you. And I’m here to walk with you to the other side. You don’t have to stay where it hurts. You can choose something different. And you don’t have to do it alone. 🕊️

🌿 New Episode | ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations 🎙️ EPISODE #2: “The Menopausal Threshold: A Journey Home to Self” with special guest Professor Irmgard Rausche

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🌿 New Episode | ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations 🎙️ EPISODE #2: “The Menopausal Threshold: A Journey Home to Self” with special guest Professor Irmgard Rauscher I’m Colli Christante — creator, producer, and host of ColliTalks — and this conversation is one I’ve been deeply honoured to hold. In this episode, I sit down with the extraordinary Professor Irmgard Rauscher to explore menopause not as a medical event to be managed, but as a profound initiation — physical, emotional, spiritual, and ancestral. We speak of the unraveling, the confusion, the fire — and also the clarity, the return, the reclamation. 🔥✨ Irmgard brings over 40 years of experience working with women and the body, and offers a grounded, wise, and empowering lens on what it means to walk this path awake. This isn’t just about hormones. It’s about who you become when the world quiets and your soul starts speaking louder than ever. 🎧 Tune in now wherever you get your podcasts — and walk with us through this powerful threshold. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

✨ 5 Things You Must Have in Place to Truly Heal Systemically (And Not Just Manage Your Trauma) ✨ Let’s be honest — we are way past the era of surface-level healing. You’ve done the breathwork, read the books, followed the somatic cues. And yet… you’re still stuck in the same loop. 😔 That’s not because you're broken. It’s because you haven’t been taught the real keys to systemic transformation. Here are the non-negotiables if you want to heal the root — not just regulate the symptom: 1. 🪢 Know Your Place in the Family System Until you can see what (or who) you're unconsciously entangled with — you’ll keep playing out someone else's pain story. 🌑 Hidden loyalty is one of the biggest saboteurs of growth. 2. 🧬 Listen to the Body as Truth — Not Just as Symptom Your body isn’t betraying you. It’s speaking what your lineage couldn’t. Through specialized kinesiology and somatic mapping, you can access what's buried — and finally release it. 📡 Your cells remember. And they want to be free. 3. 👻 Acknowledge the Unspoken & the Excluded In every family system, there are ones who were left out, blamed, forgotten, or shamed. Until they are seen and included, the field remains disordered — and that disorder shows up in your relationships, health, business, and inner peace. 🕊️ What isn’t included will be repeated. 4. 👁️ Stop Fixing Yourself — Start Seeing Yourself Most people are chasing healing to escape their symptoms. But real healing comes when you witness yourself with compassion, not urgency. 🪞 You don’t need fixing. You need remembering. 5. 🕯️ Work with a Guide Who Sees What You Can’t You can’t muscle your way through inherited trauma. You need someone trained in systemic trauma, somatic intelligence, and soul work who can walk beside you — without rescuing you. 🌿 Because this isn’t just about healing — it’s about liberation. If you’re reading this and your soul is nodding… I see you. I’ve been you. And I walk people through this work every day. 💫 You don’t have to keep looping. You don’t have to carry what isn’t yours. There’s another way — and it begins with remembering who you really are. 🦋🔥🕊️ Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

No Longer Enough

You may think that healing is just about calming your nervous system. But what if I told you that’s no longer enough? ⚠️🧠 We are in the middle of a massive shift — one that’s exposing the limits of mindset work, somatics, coaching models, and even trauma-informed practices. 🌪️ The truth is: you can regulate your nervous system all day long — and still be stuck in the same cycles. Why? Because what’s driving the pain isn’t just inside you. It’s behind you. 🧬🕯️ Systemic trauma. Ancestral entanglement. Hidden loyalty. We’re waking up to the fact that so much of what we’ve called “healing” is actually just rebranding survival. 😔🩹 We’re soothing symptoms without addressing the root. We’re learning tools but staying loyal to pain that isn’t even ours. We’re doing the inner work — but ignoring the family system we were shaped by. 🪢 Let me be clear: The old paradigm — the one that says healing is just about breath, mindset, or managing your triggers — is dying. ⚰️ Because our souls are demanding more. 🔥 They’re asking us to stop gaslighting our own pain. 🚫 To stop making personal what is systemic. 🕸️ To stop blaming ourselves for being stuck when we’re actually entangled. 🪤 And this is where I come in. I don’t just work with trauma. I work with the unseen patterns that live in your lineage. 👁️ The unconscious loyalties that override your logic. The soul agreements that have kept you playing small, staying silent, and living someone else’s story. 🤐 If you’re still looping, if healing feels like effort instead of relief — this is your invitation to go deeper. ⬇️ To stop patching up the surface. And start healing at the root. 🌱 There’s a new way emerging — and it doesn’t bypass your story. It honours it. 🕊️ It brings order to the chaos. ⚖️ And it sets you free. 🦋

What Your Body Knows - - What Your Lineage Holds

You and I both know that no amount of affirmations, breathwork, mindset rewiring, or trauma-informed language will truly set you free… if you’re still unconsciously loyal to the people, patterns, or pain that shaped you. 💔🔁 That’s the truth too many in the healing space avoid — because it’s easier to focus on tools than to tell the deeper truth: You can’t “fix” a nervous system or soul that’s still bound by invisible threads of generational loyalty and trauma. 🧬🧵 If you’ve read The Body Keeps the Score 📖 by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, or studied the work of Dr. Peter Levine 🐅, you already know: “Traumatized people so often keep repeating the same problems and have such trouble learning from experience. We now know that their behaviours are not the result of moral failings or signs of lack of willpower or bad character — they are caused by actual changes in the brain.” 🧠⚡ I’ve trained with both of these pioneers. 🌀 And here’s what I’ve come to see in my own life and in my work with others: The nervous system holds trauma — But the family system holds the entanglement. 🫀👥 You can do all the “right” things — EMDR, coaching, somatic work, journaling, breathwork — and still feel like you’re trapped in the same cycle. Not because you’re doing it wrong. Because you’re still carrying something that didn’t begin with you. 🧳🧓👩‍🦰🧒 This is the elephant in the room 🐘: Your system is loyal. It will hold your mother’s heartbreak 💔, your father’s rage 🌪️, your grandmother’s silence 🤐 — all to keep you connected. And until you see what you’ve been unconsciously loyal to, you’ll keep circling the same mountain, calling it healing. 🏔️🔄 My work? It’s not about giving you more tools. It’s about revealing the truth behind the trauma 🕯️— and helping you bring order where there’s been chaos. When you do, your nervous system exhales. 😮‍💨 Your body remembers who it is. 🕊️ And you finally start living your own life — not the one you inherited. 🌱✨ P.S. If your heart is pounding 💓 or your soul feels like it's been called forward — that's not fear. That’s recognition. 🫶 You’re not broken. You’re entangled. And you can be free. 🔓 This is the sacred, uncomfortable, life-giving work I walk people through. If you're ready, I'm here. Let’s begin. 🌿🔥

Trying to Think Your Way Out of Your Pain?

If you’ve been trying to "think your way out" of the pain, patterns, or self-sabotage that keeps showing up in your life — and still feel stuck — you’re not alone. There’s a common bandaid being handed out in the personal development world: “Just shift your mindset. Think positively. Say the affirmations. Push through.” 💪✨ And while mindset work can be supportive, here’s the deeper truth no one wants to say out loud: You can’t override ancestral patterns and systemic trauma with a good attitude. ❌🧠🚫 You inherited more than just your eye color or body type — you inherited your survival strategies, belief systems, and even your silence. 🧬👁️🤫 Most women I work with have been conditioned to cope by shrinking, pleasing, disappearing, or over-performing — just to belong, be loved, or stay safe. 🤍👣 They’ve tried all the usual self-help strategies, and still feel broken or disconnected. Why? Because they’re tending to the symptoms, not the source. 🩹➡️🌪️ The real work isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about remembering who you were before you gave up your truth to survive. 🔥🕊️ That’s the work I do. We don’t just talk about the pain — we track it to where it began. We honor what was inherited. We include what was excluded. We bring the unseen into the light so it no longer controls you. 🪞🌿🕯️ When you stop trying to “fix” the limited version of yourself and start transforming the wound where that version was born — that’s when everything changes. 🌹🌀 If that truth stirs something in you… you’re ready. 🤍🌑🌞

A Little Tool Can Go A Long Way

Use This Reframe the Next Time You Feel Like You're "Sabotaging" Yourself The next time you catch yourself procrastinating, pulling back, avoiding the thing you say you want… Pause. Before you label it as “self-sabotage” — ask yourself this: “What part of me believes it’s not safe to move forward?” This one question shifts everything. Because most of the time, what we call sabotage is actually a survival strategy that was wired in long ago. Maybe it was safer to be small than to be seen. Maybe being visible meant being judged — or rejected. Maybe success would have made you different from your family, and connection mattered more than achievement. Maybe “doing nothing” is how you protected yourself from failing… or from outshining someone you love. The key isn’t to shame it. It’s to get curious about it. 🌀 What was this pattern protecting you from? 🌀 Whose voice do you hear when you hesitate? 🌀 What might finally be possible if you could meet that scared part of you with compassion instead of criticism? This is the work I guide my clients through — gently, deeply, and systemically. Because healing doesn’t come from pushing harder. It comes from understanding what your system has been trying to do all along… and then choosing a new way with love. Try this reframe. And watch how your relationship to “self-sabotage” begins to shift.

What If It's Not Self - Sabotage?

What If It’s Not Self-Sabotage? 🤔🌀 So many of the women I work with come to me saying: “I just need to stop sabotaging myself.” “I know what I should do… but I never follow through.” “I always shrink when I’m about to rise.” 💔🌱 And while it looks like sabotage on the surface — missing the deadline, ghosting the opportunity, dimming the light — what’s actually happening is something far deeper… and far older. This isn’t laziness. This isn’t lack of willpower. This isn’t a mindset issue. 🚫🧠 This is loyalty. Loyalty to the unspoken rules of your family system. Loyalty to the women who weren’t allowed to speak, rise, rest, shine, or succeed. 👩‍👧‍👦🕯️ Loyalty to what kept you safe as a little girl in a world that didn’t feel safe. 🧸🛡️ And unless that loyalty is seen, acknowledged, and released, it will continue to override your highest intentions. Because your nervous system isn’t confused — it’s protecting you. 🧬💫 This is the work I do: Untangling the roots. Honouring what was. Liberating what wants to become. 🌿🕊️ So if you’ve been beating yourself up for “getting in your own way” — take a breath, and ask yourself this: Who (or what) might I still be loyal to? 🤲❓ You’re not failing. You’re protecting something that once kept you safe. But there comes a time when the survival story has to give way to a new one. 📖🔥 One where you get to rise — with your whole self intact. 🌹✨

What Did You Tuck Away to Be Loved?

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that being fully ourselves was… dangerous. Too loud. Too sensitive. Too wild. Too soft. Too much. So we tucked parts of ourselves away. To be accepted. To be loved. To belong. Not because we were weak — but because we were wise. We adapted. We survived. We stayed connected in the only way we knew how. But here’s the thing no one tells you: The parts of you that got pushed down are not gone. They’re waiting. Not to be shamed or fixed — but to be welcomed back. This is the sacred work I do with women: Uncovering what’s been buried. Reclaiming the truth. And becoming whole again — not in spite of the past, but because of it. So I’ll ask you this… When did you first learn that being fully yourself came with a cost — and what parts of you did you quietly tuck away to stay safe or loved? (You can share below or reflect privately. Either way, something begins to shift the moment we acknowledge what’s been hidden.) You don’t have to keep carrying what’s not yours. You don’t have to keep living in fragments. It’s time to return to yourself — fully, fiercely, and with reverence.

Healing Isn't A Spa Day. It's Gardening

Healing isn’t a Spa Day. It’s Gardening. So many people come to healing work expecting it to feel like a spa day — relaxing, soothing, and serene. But the kind of transformation I guide clients through? It’s not a spa day. It’s gardening. And not the glossy kind you see in lifestyle magazines. I’m talking about the gritty, knees-in-the-dirt kind of gardening. Where you sweat. Where you dig deep. Where your hands come up full of roots that have been choking the life out of your soil for generations. You don’t just plant pretty seeds and hope. You clear. You compost. You unearth the invasive roots that keep growing back no matter how beautiful the surface looks. That’s how self-sabotage works. That’s how ancestral patterns work. They live beneath the surface. And if you don’t go down and get your hands in it, they keep stealing your light, your energy, your dreams. But here’s the thing no one tells you: Once the soil is cleared, your garden becomes sacred ground. Things grow there that never had the chance before. Joy. Voice. Boundaries. Love. Worth. Soul work. You learn how to tend your inner world with reverence — not perfection. And the harvest is yours. Not borrowed. Not performed. Yours. So if your healing hasn’t “felt good” lately… maybe it’s not supposed to. Maybe you’re just finally doing the real work. Knees in the dirt. Soul in the game. And my friend — that’s holy. 🌿

Let's Talk About What No One's Naming

Let’s Talk About What No One’s Naming. 🕯️ There’s something happening in the healing, coaching, and self-development world that’s quietly causing more harm than good — and most people don’t even realize it. It’s the normalization of surface-level healing packaged as transformation. Quick fixes. Pretty language. ✨ Tools and techniques that dance around the edges of deep wounding without ever touching the root. Programs that promise empowerment while bypassing the very systems, family dynamics, and trauma imprints that keep people looping in pain. And it’s everywhere. People are being sold frameworks for success, wholeness, and clarity without ever being taught how to listen to their bodies 🧠💔, attune to their nervous systems 🌀, or understand the silent family loyalties that keep sabotaging their growth. This isn’t just ineffective — it’s retraumatizing. When someone is taught to manifest their dream life or visualize their ideal self while still carrying inherited burdens, unprocessed grief, and unconscious patterns… they don’t just “fail” to succeed. They often internalize that failure as a personal flaw, reinforcing the very shame they came to heal. This is why I do what I do the way I do it. 💫 I don’t offer surface solutions. I walk with people into the layers that most don’t want to touch — the unseen dynamics, the systemic entanglements, the deep roots of self-sabotage, ancestral wounding, and the parts of the soul that got left behind in the name of belonging. 🌿🧬 Because the truth is: you can’t mindset your way out of a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe. You can’t build sustainable change on top of unresolved trauma. And you can’t fully step into your purpose when you’re unconsciously carrying the pain, fear, or silence of those who came before you. 🕊️ What I offer isn’t quick. It’s not trendy. It’s sacred. ✨ And it works — because it honors the whole human, not just the parts that look good on paper. So if you’ve been doing “all the right things” and still feel like something invisible is holding you back — it’s not you. It’s the system you were handed. And together, we can untangle it. 🤍

Soft Power. Sharp Truth.Whole Life

There came a point in my business when I could no longer lead from the same part of me that had once survived. She—the one who had built offerings from necessity, who moved from urgency, who shaped her value through the lens of what others needed—was wise and resourceful. But she was not the one meant to take me into the next chapter. 🌙 The pivotal shift was this: I stopped building from pressure and started creating from essence. ✨ I let go of forcing, fixing, and fawning—both in my own system and in the way I supported my clients. And I finally owned the truth that I am not here to help you bypass pain or become more productive. I am here to help you return to yourself. 🕊️ This shift required me to burn away the parts of my business that were built on co-dependence, overgiving, and staying small to be loved. I used to teach systems for managing sabotage. Now I teach people how to listen to it. I used to focus on rewiring behavior. Now I guide you to the root, where the wound first whispered, “If I stay small, I will belong.” The biggest implementation I made? I built an entire body of work around the soul’s quiet longing to be free—from generational patterns, from the illusion of control, and from the unconscious contracts that keep us looped in cycles that are not ours to carry. 🔥 And the results? Deeper. Truer. More embodied. Clients aren’t just “feeling better”—they’re reclaiming their voice, their agency, their truth. They’re stepping out of family systems that kept them silent and into lives that reflect who they really are. 💫 If you're in the place I once was—overworking, people-pleasing, pushing to make it all happen—maybe you feel the ache, too. That holy tug toward something softer but more powerful. That whisper: There is another way. 🌿 And I’m here to walk it with you. 🤍 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Guiding Light Behind My Work

The Guiding Light Behind My Work ✨ There’s a quiet vow I made early on that shapes every choice I make in my business — a vow to never chase the dizzying heights of scaling a massive empire or wearing the CEO crown 👑. Instead, I choose to keep my work intimate, grounded, and deeply aligned with my soul’s values 🌿. In a world obsessed with “more,” “bigger,” and “faster,” I stand firmly in the belief that true transformation blooms in space — space to breathe, to feel, to grow without pressure 🌬️🌱. I’m here to honor the sacredness of your journey, not to rush it or fit it into a one-size-fits-all mold. This way of being might not click with everyone — and that’s the magic ✨. Because if you’re someone who feels called to slow down, to honor your truth, and to build something meaningful that’s about depth not just scale, then we’re already speaking the same language 💬💖. When you work with me, you’re not just getting a coach or a guide — you’re stepping into a container where your story matters, your wounds hold gifts, and your transformation is treated like the sacred unfolding it truly is 🌸🦋. This is my promise: to hold space for your truth, to move with integrity, and to remind you that sometimes, the smallest steps carry the greatest power 🌟. Believe Breathe Transform CollitalkS Love and soul hugs

You Can't Heal What Isn't Yours Until You SEE That it Isn't yours

🌿 Popular Belief: “You just need to do more healing work to finally feel free.” 🔥 My Truth? Healing work without systemic inclusion is just another loop. We’ve been sold this idea that if we journal more, meditate more, cry more, process more — we’ll finally get to the root of why we sabotage, shut down, or feel stuck. But here’s the thing no one wants to say: 🧬 You can’t heal what isn’t yours until you SEE that it isn’t yours. Most people are running trauma loops they inherited. They’re holding grief that belongs to a grandmother they never met. They’re abandoning themselves over and over — not because they’re “not healed,” but because they’re loyal to an unspoken family contract that says: ✨ “Stay small so others don’t feel left behind.” ✨ “Don’t want too much — they couldn’t have it, so you shouldn’t either.” ✨ “Don’t shine. You’ll make someone uncomfortable.” I once worked with a woman who had done years of mindset coaching, therapy, and somatic work. She could quote every healing modality out there. But her business still wouldn’t grow. Her relationships still collapsed at the same point. And her body still held constant, low-grade panic. In one constellation session, we uncovered that she had unconsciously taken the place of a sibling who was stillborn — never spoken about, but energetically present. She had been living her entire life trying to make up for a space that was never acknowledged. And her nervous system? It was holding the grief of a mother who never got to mourn. ✨ One session, and she wept with recognition: “It was never mine.” And from that moment on - - her healing started to actually hold. 🌱 So no… You don’t need another layer of inner child work. You don’t need to “get over” your sabotage. You don’t need to push harder on your mindset. You need to include what’s been excluded. You need to see the system you were born into — and gently unhook from the stories that never belonged to you. Self-healing is sacred. But systemic liberation is foundational. This is the work I do. This is the work that sticks. Let’s stop circling and start unbinding. 🌀 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Power of Inclusion vs Exclusion

🎙️ Podcast Episode Intro: Welcome back to ColliTalks: Transformational Conversations, where we explore the invisible threads that shape our lives — and the sacred process of unweaving what no longer serves. I’m your host, Colli Christante — systemic trauma specialist, family constellation facilitator, self-sabotage coach, and a woman deeply devoted to guiding others back to their soul. Today’s episode is deeply personal. It begins with a quiet moment. A little boy — my 3-year-old grandson — standing in front of a wall of framed family photos… And realizing he wasn’t in any of them. He didn’t say a word. But his body spoke volumes. That moment — raw, innocent, and incredibly revealing — became the spark for today’s conversation on inclusion in Family Constellation work. In this episode, we’re diving into what happens when someone is left out of a family system… What it creates. What it costs. And how the simple act of acknowledging, seeing, and including what’s been forgotten or excluded… can create ripple effects of healing through generations. If you’ve ever felt invisible, or like something’s been missing that you can’t quite name — This episode is for you. Let’s begin.

One Small Step ...

You’ve always shown up with your whole heart. Even when no one saw the effort it took. Even when your own heart was breaking quietly in the background. You stayed. You held space. You carried more than was yours to carry — because that’s who you are. I see you. And I know the storms haven’t been gentle. But somehow, you’re still standing — not hardened, but wide open. That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom. In the quiet moments, when doubt creeps in… Please don’t forget your power. You’ve walked through fire — and you’re still here with a heart that can feel. That means something. Maybe it’s time now — to make room for what feels true. To give yourself permission to want peace. To let joy feel safe in your body again. You don’t have to have it all figured out. But you do get to take one small step toward the life that’s calling you. I’ll be here, holding the field, when you're ready to come home to yourself. 🕊️ Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

A Gentle Reminder for Your Heart Today

🌿 A gentle reminder for your heart today… Give yourself extra grace right now. You’ve been carrying a lot — seen and unseen — and still, you rise. Even on the days when holding it all together feels impossible… You are still whole. Still worthy. Still enough. 💫 Take a breath. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to not know. You’re allowed to feel it all — without rushing to fix it. These tender, in-between moments? They hold medicine. They deepen your awareness, stretch your compassion, and soften the edges where new life wants to grow. ✨ So let yourself dream again. ✨ Let yourself feel excited about what’s next — even if you don’t have the map. ✨ Let yourself be loved by your future, not just your past. The next step will come — With more clarity. More light. More of you. And when it does, you’ll meet it with a heart that’s more open, more trusting… More free. You’re doing beautifully. Even now. Especially now. 💛 Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Tired of Disappearing From Your Own Life?

💔 There was a time I didn’t know what was wrong… only that I kept disappearing from my own life. Not all at once. Just little pieces at a time. Every time I swallowed my truth to keep the peace. Every time I put someone else’s comfort above my own clarity. Every time I chose silence over rejection. Every time I called it “self-sabotage” but had no idea why I kept circling the same pain. I thought I was broken. Too much. Not enough. Too emotional. Too sensitive. Not "healed" enough. But I wasn’t broken. I was loyal. Loyal to women in my family who never got to be free. Loyal to my mother, who gave up her voice to stay safe. Loyal to my auntie, who held me like a mother when mine couldn’t. Loyal to the unspoken agreements passed through generations — don’t outshine, don’t leave, don’t want too much. And if I’m being really honest… 💔 I was loyal to men who never truly saw me. Men I thought I could rescue. Men who were emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, or only approved of me when I abandoned myself. No more ambulance chasing. No more bending backwards for love that only wanted me silent. No more performing for approval. 🕊️ And once I saw it for what it was — not weakness, but inherited survival — everything changed. This is what I’ve learned: You’re not stuck because you’re lazy. You’re not sabotaging because you’re stupid. You’re not afraid because you lack courage. You’re carrying a contract you never signed. And that’s where the real work begins. Not in “fixing” yourself. But in unhooking — with reverence — from the stories that never belonged to you. 🌿 This is the work I do now. I guide women through the unseen. Through the systems, loyalties, and survival strategies that have shaped their lives without their permission. I help them name what’s never been spoken. Include what’s been left out. And return to the woman beneath the wound. I created my upcoming experience — UNBOUND — for the ones who feel this ache… even if they don’t have the words for it yet. For the woman who keeps circling the same patterns. For the woman who has done all the healing but still feels heavy. For the woman whose freedom feels just out of reach, no matter how hard she tries. 💌 If you’re reading this and your chest feels tight… if you’ve had a lump in your throat the whole time… if you’re thinking “how does she know?” It’s because I do know. I’ve lived it. I’ve carried it. And I’ve learned how to put it down — and walk forward, finally free. You don’t need more tools. You need to be witnessed. Included. Unbound. 🌀 DM me “UNBOUND” if you’re ready for what comes next. Or drop a 🌿 below and I’ll reach out quietly. I’ll be here. When you’re ready to remember yourself. Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks Love and soul hugs With so much love,

Here's the Biggest Struggle I See Among Powerful, Self - Aware Women

💥 Here’s the biggest struggle I see among powerful, self-aware women… They’ve done all the right things — therapy, breathwork, journaling, boundaries, somatics, forgiveness letters, vision boards… ✨ And yet, they still find themselves looping old patterns. Shutting down in love. Sabotaging just as something good begins. Overgiving. Undercharging. Disappearing. Feeling like something unseen is pulling their strings from beneath the surface. And the worst part? They blame themselves for it. For not being further along. For still “being stuck.” For not trying hard enough. 🌪️ But here’s what’s really going on: They’re not stuck. They’re entangled. With someone in their family system. With an unspoken contract. With an inherited survival identity — the fixer, the invisible one, the good daughter, the strong one. They’re still carrying a burden that was never theirs to begin with. And until that’s seen, nothing truly changes — because the sabotage isn’t random, it’s loyalty. 🚫 What they think they need to do: Push harder Try a new method Fix their mindset Cut cords "Be more consistent" But none of that works when you’re trying to evolve while still protecting the past. 🌀 What they actually need: To uncover and release the unconscious contracts they’ve been keeping with their family system. To stop trying to fix themselves and finally see the root dynamic that’s been holding their power hostage. To do the work that’s less about “doing” — and more about releasing, including, witnessing, and reclaiming. That’s what I do inside my constellation and liberation work. And that’s what we’ll be doing inside UNBOUND — launching this fall. Because freedom isn’t about forcing forward. It’s about finally letting go — with reverence.

Unbound is coming in the Fall

🌕 1: “Being able to move forward is simply a process of…” Being able to finally move forward in your life, relationships, or purpose is simply a process of breaking the unconscious loyalty that’s been keeping you anchored to someone else’s story. Most of my clients don’t come to me saying “I have ancestral trauma.” They come saying: “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of relationship?” “Why can’t I show up for myself when I know better?” “Why do I shrink or sabotage every time something good comes in?” What they don’t realize is: It’s not about willpower. It’s about unspoken contracts with people in their lineage who never got free. ✨ Until that loyalty is seen and released with love… The pattern will repeat — no matter how much healing, mindset, or effort you throw at it. 🌑 2: “For the longest time, I thought my pain was caused by…” For the longest time, I thought my pain was caused by my own limitations. But what I discovered in constellation after constellation is this: I was carrying pain that never belonged to me. My overgiving? My stuckness? My shame? They were echoes of women before me — silent ones. Mothers, aunties, grandmothers who weren’t allowed to want, to speak, or to leave. And because I loved them… I stayed small for them. 💥 When I finally saw the system… I stopped fighting myself. I stopped fixing what wasn’t mine. And I started reclaiming who I actually am. That’s the kind of freedom I now offer my clients. Not just mindset shifts — but soul retrieval. 🌘 3: “What you think you need vs. what you actually need” What you think you need to finally change your life: 👉 Another course 👉 More motivation 👉 A better plan 👉 To just stop sabotaging What you actually need: 🌀 To identify the root loyalty that’s been pulling your choices from behind the scenes. 🌀 To unhook from inherited roles like the fixer, the invisible one, the one-who-carries-their-pain. 🌀 To stop cutting cords… and start including what’s been excluded. Success isn’t about effort. It’s about liberation. And once that happens — everything moves. Optional CTA for each: ✨ If this stirred something in you, I invite you to DM me “UNBOUND.” I’m building a powerful experience for women ready to break these cycles — and come home to themselves for good. Fall enrollment is coming. 🍂

It's Not You - - It's the System You Inherited

🔥 It’s Not You — It’s the System You Inherited A few truths you need to hear if you keep calling yourself “the problem”... 🧬 “You’re not procrastinating — you’re protecting a version of your family that didn’t get the life you’re now creating.” 🌿 “Self-sabotage is never random — it’s a love letter to someone in your lineage who never got free.” ⚡ “Your nervous system isn’t resisting success — it’s resisting betrayal of the system that taught you small was safe.” 💔 “You’re not afraid to rise — you’re afraid of who you might lose when you do.” 🕊️ “Healing doesn’t mean cutting cords — it means acknowledging the pain, including the excluded, and finally taking your rightful place.” 🔥 “You’re not failing — you’re unconsciously staying loyal to the suffering that came before you.” ✨ You’re not broken. You’re entangled. And it’s time to come back to you. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

You Cannot Compete With Your Younger Self

🎙️ Podcast Intro: “You Cannot Compete With Your Younger Self” with Professor Irmgard Rosa Maria Rauscher 👑🌸🌙🔥🌀 Welcome back to ColliTalks: Transformational Conversations. I’m your host, Colli Christante — creator, producer, and guide of this sacred space where we reclaim truth, dismantle the inherited, and walk each other back to soul. 💫 Today’s episode is not just meaningful — it’s personal. I have the honor of sitting down with one of my most cherished teachers and mentors, Professor Irmgard Rosa Maria Rauscher. 🌹✨ I had the privilege of training under her guidance, and her work has deeply influenced not only my own healing — but the very foundation of what I now bring to others. For over 28 years, Irmgard has facilitated systemic constellation work, trained directly by Bert Hellinger, and is the creator of Yoni Constellations — a groundbreaking modality that explores femininity, sexuality, ancestral lineage, and the sacred return of the goddess within. 🧬🕊️🌺 She is a woman of profound presence — a keeper of ancestral wisdom, a voice for soul-level truth, and a fierce guide for women rising through the phases of life. ✨ Today, we begin our new series: “You Cannot Compete With Your Younger Self.” This is a call back to your body. A return to your essence. A remembering of who you’ve always been — beyond beauty myths, aging shame, and survival identities. 🌙🔥 Together, we journey through the sacred phases of womanhood — from maiden to mother, through the alchemy of perimenopause, the fire of menopause, and the sovereign bloom of post-menopause. 🌿👑🌀 This conversation is for every woman who has ever felt herself shifting, softening, unraveling — and wondered, “Who am I becoming?” 💗 The answer: The goddess who no longer plays by old rules. Irmgard’s wisdom is soul medicine. And I’m so honored to share her voice with you — and even more honored to call her my teacher. 🕊️🌹 Let’s begin.

Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Still Circling the Same Pattern? Ready to Get Off the Not so Merry - Go - Round?

🔥 The Real Reason You Keep “Doing the Work” But Still Feel Like You’re Circling the Same Pattern Let’s talk about the most common challenge I’ve been seeing lately in session after session: ✨ High-functioning, self-aware women (and men too) come to me saying: “I’ve done the therapy. I’ve read the books. I’ve processed my childhood. I’ve forgiven. So why does it still feel like I’m looping the same emotional story — no matter how much I heal?” Why do they still: Shrink in the presence of their own power? Feel emotionally invisible in relationships? Numb out instead of setting boundaries? Sabotage just as something finally starts to open? Here’s the truth: ➡️ It’s not that you haven’t done enough. ➡️ It’s not that you need more self-discipline. ➡️ And it’s definitely not that you’re broken. It’s that your loyalty to an outdated emotional system is still running the show. 🧬 What’s Actually Going On Most of what you call “blocks” or “sabotage” are actually acts of unconscious loyalty to someone in your lineage. You’re not just repeating your own patterns — You’re carrying unfinished emotional stories from your mother. Your grandmother. Or a forgotten woman in your bloodline who didn’t get to have a voice, freedom, rest, or love. You’ve unknowingly inherited beliefs like: “If I shine, I’ll be alone.” “If I succeed, I’m betraying someone who never got the chance.” “If I set boundaries, I won’t belong.” “If I receive too much, someone else will suffer.” They’re not thoughts. They’re contracts. Invisible, inherited, and deeply encoded into your nervous system. ✨ So What Do We Do? We don’t mindset our way out of this. We go to the root: 🌀 In my work, I guide clients through: Systemic Constellations to map out and untangle generational dynamics Self-Sabotage Liberation to identify and break unconscious family contracts Nervous System Integration to build real, embodied safety in your truth Because you can’t evolve past a pattern you’re still protecting. And when we finally release the entanglement — The clarity comes. The weight lifts. The relationship shifts. The soul starts to move again. 💌 If this feels like your life… If you’ve done the healing and still feel like you’re living on emotional repeat — It’s time to stop managing the symptoms and liberate the system. Remember: You’re not circling because you’re weak — You’re circling because you’re loyal. Let’s give that loyalty back — with love — So you can finally move forward in your life. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Sunday, June 1st- New Podcast Series on Collitalks Transformative Conversations "You Cannot Compete With Your Younger Self" @ copyright Colli K Christante

Sunday, June 1st- New Podcast Series on Collitalks Transformative Conversations "You Cannot Compete With Your Younger Self" @ copyright Colli K Christante

Still Stuck in the Same pattern - - No Matter How much Work You've Done? Here's Why

💥 Still stuck in the same pattern — no matter how much work you’ve done? Here’s why. You’ve done therapy. You’ve journaled, meditated, vision-boarded, hired the coach, burned the sage, read the books. You’re self-aware. You can name the pattern. But nothing really changes. You feel like you’re dancing around the root, just managing your pain instead of clearing it. And you wonder, what am I missing? 👉🏽 Here’s the game-changing perspective that blows my clients’ minds every time: You’re not self-sabotaging. You’re staying loyal. To your mother’s silence. To your father’s anger. To the ancestor who never got justice. To the system that said: stay small and you’ll be safe. 🧬 What most people miss — and what I specialize in — is this: Most patterns don’t begin with you. They begin in the system. In the unspoken grief, shame, betrayal, or fear that’s been passed down through generations — and now lives in your nervous system like it belongs there. 💥 Here’s the shift: You don’t need more mindset work. You need to see the contract you didn’t know you signed. And when I guide clients through my work — whether it's Family Constellations or my Self-Sabotage Freedom Process — they often realize, "This pattern isn’t mine. I’m carrying it for someone else." And just like that… The grip loosens. The sabotage ends. The energy returns. The freedom begins. 🌀 If you want to break free, you can’t just upgrade your thoughts — You have to liberate the part of you that’s still protecting someone else’s pain. That’s where I come in. 📩 DM me “LOYALTY” if you’re ready to stop calling it sabotage — and finally set yourself free. Because you were never broken. You were just trying to belong. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

When People Ask What's it Like to Work With Me ...

🎭✨ What’s it like to work with me? Imagine deep soul work… with a side of dark memes and a whole lot of liberation. Let’s be honest — doing inner work can feel heavy. But with me? We don’t just dig deep — we laugh, we cry, we swear, we shift. I bring reverence and irreverence into the same room. Because healing doesn’t have to be stiff or sacred-only — it can be soulful AND wildly human. I’ve been told I’m like 🔮 a spiritual detective 🪄 a loving truth-slap 💀 and your funniest dark meme friend rolled into one. We go there. We uncover what’s been hiding in your lineage, your patterns, your bones. We find the invisible loyalty that’s been sabotaging your life — and we give it love, clarity, and the exit door. 🌀 As Gayle said after a session: “I saw things I didn’t even know were blocking me. Now I finally understand why I couldn’t bring my vision into physical reality.” 💥 And L.S. shared: “There were things in me I had no idea were running the show… It’s completely changed the way I look at my family and myself. I felt an enormous weight lifted. Mind-boggling!!” And here’s the secret: It works because we meet the heaviness with truth, safety, and even play. We don’t bypass. We don’t sugarcoat. But we don’t drown in it either. 🖤 I’ll probably send you a dark humor meme after you realize your sabotage pattern isn’t even yours. 🧬 I’ll help you track it back to the system, name it, feel it — and release it. 🕊️ And I’ll hold you the whole way through it. Because this isn’t just therapy. This is a return to your soul. And if we can laugh while reclaiming your power? That’s sacred too. 💌 Ready to experience it for yourself? DM me “SHIFT ME” and let’s get to the root — with soul, with safety, and maybe even a wickedly funny meme along the way.

3 Archetypes I See Most Often in My Work

🔥 The 3 Archetypes I See Most Often in My Work (Which one are you holding inside you?) Over the years, I’ve noticed a powerful pattern in the people who come to me — different stories, same root. Here are the 3 core archetypes I often meet in my work — women and men who are carrying more than their share, trying to fix what was never theirs, and are finally ready to come home to themselves. ✨ 1. The Silent Shape-Shifter You’ve spent your whole life being who others needed you to be. You’re the strong one. The responsible one. The one who holds it all together. But underneath that is a deep exhaustion… and a buried longing to just be. You don’t know who you are without performing. Your nervous system is wired for survival. And the thought of putting yourself first? Feels almost dangerous. What you need: To be witnessed — not fixed. To learn how to create safety in your body, not just in your mind. To release the loyalty to those who needed you to stay small in order to be loved. 🔥 2. The Loud Achiever, Quietly Breaking Inside On paper, you’re doing great. You’re successful. Capable. Respected. But there’s a voice inside that never shuts up. “You’re still not enough.” “No one sees the real you.” You’re burning out chasing validation that never sticks — and self-sabotaging the very things you say you want. What you need: To uncover the root agreement you made with your family system that says: “If I’m powerful, I’ll be punished.” “If I succeed, I’ll be alone.” To unravel those beliefs — and replace them with ones your soul actually agrees with. 🌿 3. The Healer Who Can’t Heal Themselves You’ve done the work. You’re trauma-informed, self-aware, maybe even a practitioner yourself. But there’s still something… stuck. Some grief that won’t lift. Some pattern that keeps repeating. It’s maddening — because you should know better. What you need: To stop trying to outsmart the system — and start feeling what lives beneath it. To see what’s been hidden in your family field — the silence, the secrets, the exclusions. To heal at the soul level, not just the cognitive one. 🌀 This is what I do. Whether I’m guiding you through a family constellation, decoding your sabotage patterns, or bringing ancestral truths to light — my work is rooted in liberation. Not surface change. Not mental gymnastics. But deep, cellular, generational freedom. ✨ When we work together, we: — Identify the invisible loyalty or trauma loop that’s running the show — Bring it into the light with compassion and clarity — Create space for the real YOU to emerge — grounded, powerful, and whole 💌 If you saw yourself in one of these — DM me “REMEMBER” Let’s talk about how to finally stop carrying what isn’t yours… and start becoming who you actually are. Because your truth is still there. It’s just waiting for you to turn around and say: I see you now. I’m ready.

✨ Here’s Exactly What I Would Do If I Wanted to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Feeling Safe in My Own Life Again

✨ Here’s Exactly What I Would Do If I Wanted to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Feeling Safe in My Own Life Again Let’s be real — most people don’t even realize they’re self-sabotaging. They call it procrastination. Or perfectionism. Or burnout. They blame their schedule, their partner, their hormones, or their mindset. But here’s the truth: 👉🏽 Self-sabotage is often just loyalty to an old survival system that once kept you safe. You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re entangled. So if I wanted to stop repeating the same painful patterns and start building a life that actually felt like mine — here’s exactly what I’d do: 🌀 Step 1: I’d stop trying to fix myself — and start getting curious about who I’m being loyal to. Because behind every sabotaging pattern is a silent agreement with a parent, a culture, a system, or a story I didn’t choose — but still live by. 🌿 Step 2: I’d map the emotional inheritance. This is where I’d use family constellations to see what I couldn’t see before: Who was excluded? What truth was never spoken? What role did I step into as a child to keep love close? 🧬 Step 3: I’d work with my nervous system, not against it. I’d stop pushing for breakthroughs from a state of burnout. I’d create safety before I create strategy. Because the body will never let you become someone it doesn’t feel safe being. 🔥 Step 4: I’d bring the unconscious into the light — and break the invisible contract. I’d identify the outdated belief that says: “If I succeed, I betray someone.” “If I speak up, I’ll be abandoned.” “If I’m seen, I’ll be attacked.” And I’d release that bind — gently, somatically, and systemically. 🌺 Step 5: I’d start choosing from the version of me who already feels free — not the one who’s still proving her worth. And from there, everything shifts: Relationships. Work. Self-trust. Peace. ✨ This is exactly the kind of deep, liberating work I walk my clients through. Because you don’t need more hustle, more mindset hacks, or another strategy. You need to feel safe being fully you — for the first time in your life. 💌 If you’re ready for that kind of transformation — the kind that doesn’t just change your life, but your lineage —

The Missing Ingredient Isn't Strategy - - It's Safety

🔥 The Missing Ingredient Isn’t Strategy — It’s Safety. 🧬 Everyone’s racing to fix the problem. Heal the trauma. Call in the partner. Grow the business. Set the boundaries. Find their purpose. Speak their truth. But here’s the thing no one’s saying: You can’t sustain the life you’re trying to create if your nervous system still believes that being fully YOU is unsafe. 💣 Let that sink in. Because most people come to me thinking they need another tool, another plan, another mindset hack… But what they’re actually missing is the inner foundation — The felt sense of safety in their body to be seen, to take up space, to say no, to receive love, to stop performing and start living. And here’s where it gets wild: Most of what blocks that safety isn’t even yours. It’s inherited. Systemic. Unconscious. It’s your mother’s silence. Your father’s fear. It’s the emotional loyalty you’ve carried your whole life without realizing it. You’ve tried to push forward — but your body pulls you back. That’s not self-sabotage. That’s protection. 🌀 This is why nothing sticks. You can script your boundaries, repeat your affirmations, launch the thing, go to therapy… But if your internal system still links success, love, visibility, or freedom to danger? You’ll sabotage it. You’ll shrink. You’ll find a way to stay small — because small once meant safe. 🌿 This is the missing piece. This is what I guide my clients into: A deep untangling of systemic trauma, hidden family patterns, and emotional contracts they never consciously agreed to — So they can finally stop managing their wounds and start embodying their wholeness. Not later. Not when they’ve “fixed” enough. Now. 💌 If you’re tired of skipping ahead and still feeling like nothing is working, DM me “SAFETY” and I’ll share the first step to returning to the truth of who you are. Because you don’t need to do more. You need to feel safe being more. That’s the real work. And it changes everything. 🔥

You Don't Have to Carry it all Alone Anymore

✨ You don’t have to carry it all alone anymore. Let me show you what’s possible when you finally stop trying to fix yourself… and start listening to yourself. Let’s say you’ve spent years trying to be “better.” You’ve read the books 📚 Gone to therapy 🛋️ Journaled, meditated, vision boarded… And yet — here you are. Still stuck. Still doubting yourself. Still attracting relationships, situations, and patterns that feel all too familiar. Still overgiving, overfunctioning, and quietly burning out under the weight of being everything for everyone. You start to believe that freedom — real, soul-deep freedom — just isn’t for you. That you’re too damaged, too late, too far gone to ever feel at peace in your own body or rooted in your truth. But what if I told you that the version of you you’re dreaming of? The one who feels calm in her decisions Clear in her voice Safe in her body And fully, unapologetically herself… She’s not far away. She’s already inside you — buried under generations of survival and silence. 🌿 This is the work I do. I help people — women, men, survivors, leaders, visionaries — liberate themselves from invisible patterns that have shaped their lives for decades. I’ve helped women heal the mother wound that kept them small. I’ve guided men into releasing the shame they inherited but never chose. I’ve witnessed clients who once said “I don’t even know who I am” step into lives of love, leadership, creativity, and calm. Because once you see the root of the sabotage — Once you feel what’s been entangled in your body, your lineage, your choices — And once you release the emotional contracts you never consciously agreed to… You don’t have to fight yourself anymore. You don’t have to guess. You get to live. ✨ You get to parent your kids with presence instead of pain. ✨ You get to love without losing yourself. ✨ You get to take up space without guilt. ✨ You get to rest. Receive. Speak. Be. And the best part? It doesn’t take years. It just takes the right container — one where you are deeply seen, safely held, and expertly guided back to your truth. 💌 If something in you whispered “this is what I’ve been needing” — that’s not a coincidence. That’s your soul knocking.

🔥 Counterintuitive Truth: Stop trying to “heal” your past. Start acknowledging it.

You think you need to cut cords, purge patterns, or fix what’s broken. But what if I told you — the more you try to get rid of your past, the tighter it grips you? 🪢 The industry says: ➡️ “Clear it.” ➡️ “Rewrite it.” ➡️ “Move on.” ➡️ “Manifest your higher self.” But here’s what I tell my clients — and it changes everything: 🌀 You don’t need to kill off the old you. You need to finally see them. Because underneath every pattern you’re trying to escape — The sabotage. The stuckness. The rage. The people-pleasing. The emotional shutdown. — is a version of you that’s been carrying something for someone else. For your mother. For your father. For a lineage that never got the chance to speak its truth. And it doesn’t go away because you work harder or “think more positively.” It dissolves when it’s witnessed. When it’s included. When the unconscious contract gets brought into the light — and your soul finally gets to choose something different. 🔥 That’s what I do. Not surface-level fixes. Not productivity hacks or mindset gymnastics. But real, cellular, soul-level liberation. 🌿 Because this isn’t about “becoming your best self.” It’s about returning to the parts of you that were silenced, suppressed, or exiled — and saying: You belong. You matter. I see you now. And that? That’s when everything changes. If you’ve tried to “move on” and still feel stuck… Maybe it’s time to try something wildly more powerful: Coming home to yourself. — 📩 DM me “HOME” if you’re ready for a deeper way. This work is for humans who are no longer available for half-truths, hustle-healing, or bypass dressed as empowerment.

Let's Say You're The Woman Who's Tired of Pretending She's Fine

🔥 Let’s say you’re the woman who’s tired of pretending she’s fine… You’ve got the smile down. You show up for everyone. You check the boxes — career, kids, relationships, self-development podcasts playing in the background while you fold the laundry and hold it all together. But behind the scenes… There’s a weight you can’t name. A quiet ache in your chest that doesn’t go away. You keep hitting the same wall in your relationships, in your confidence, in your ability to really feel free — and you’ve started to wonder, “Is there something wrong with me?” You tell yourself to “just let it go.” You do the journaling. You affirm. You manifest. But something deeper keeps pulling you back into silence, sabotage, shame, or over-functioning. And what no one’s said — but you feel in your bones — is that you’re not just carrying your own story. You’re carrying your mother’s. Your grandmother’s. Maybe even the pain of women whose names you don’t know — but whose survival patterns now live in your nervous system. 🌀 Here’s what I want you to know: You are not broken. You are loyal. And those loyalties — to pain, to silence, to staying small to stay safe — are exactly what we untangle in the kind of work I do. I guide women like you into the parts of yourself you’ve buried — not to relive trauma, but to reclaim the parts of you that got left behind. We don’t just talk about it. We see the root. We feel where it lives in your body. And we liberate what’s been holding your voice hostage. Because the truth is — Your power isn’t something you need to find. It’s something you’ve been protecting. And when you feel safe enough to stop performing and start remembering who you were before the survival kicked in? That’s when the magic happens. That’s when the sabotage stops. That’s when you come home.

The Identity You're Clinging to is The Cage You Cannot See

Let’s say you’re the woman who’s done so much inner work. You’ve read the books. You’ve journaled yourself into clarity. You’ve attended the retreats, pulled the cards, and whispered affirmations into the mirror until your voice cracked. But deep down… You still feel like you’re performing a version of yourself that isn’t quite real. You’re still bending, pleasing, fixing, or hiding. You’re still making sure everyone else feels safe and seen — but when it comes to you? You feel invisible. Exhausted. Unfulfilled. You want to speak your truth. You want to feel powerful in your skin. You want to be fully expressed — as the woman you know lives inside you. But every time you try to step into that version of yourself… Guilt creeps in. Fear whispers, “Who do you think you are?” And the old identity — the one built for survival, not truth — pulls you right back. 🕊️ Here’s what I want you to know: This isn’t a mindset issue. This is a soul-level identity bind. And until you consciously divorce the version of yourself that was built to belong, You will keep repeating patterns that no longer serve you. What I do with my clients is help them untangle from the inherited stories, the ancestral expectations, and the emotional contracts they never consciously agreed to. Together, we reveal the hidden loyalties keeping them stuck — and liberate the woman beneath it all. The one who’s not afraid of her voice. The one who doesn’t abandon herself for love. The one who no longer needs to prove her worth — because she embodies it. You’re not broken. You’re just tired of wearing a mask that was never made for you. And I’m here when you’re ready to take it off.

Still Thinking You Don't Need Help? That's the Trauma Talking

Continuing to believe you don’t need support is exactly why you’re still trapped in the same emotional cycles that are quietly running your life. 🕳️ One of the most common things I hear is: “I should be able to do this on my own by now.” Here’s the truth: That belief? That’s not your wisdom talking — that’s your survival response. That’s the younger you who had to hold it all together, perform strength, and stay silent to stay safe. 🧬 People often assume my work is for people who are in full-blown crisis. But the clients who get the deepest liberation? Are the ones who seem “fine” on the outside… but know they’re still stuck in invisible loyalty, emotional repression, and ancestral patterns they can feel but can’t name. This work isn’t about fixing you. It’s about freeing you. From the invisible chains that keep you performing, over-giving, shrinking, and second-guessing your own knowing. 🔥 I help women who gave up their truth to be loved, who broke themselves into pieces to belong — reclaim their voice, their power, and their sense of self. You don’t need to hit rock bottom. You don’t need to wait until it all falls apart. You just need to decide: you’re no longer available for the version of you that’s still hiding. 🕊️ Ready to return to the truth of who you are?

"Still Think You Don’t Need Support? That Belief Is Costing You Your Freedom."

Continuing to believe you can figure it all out alone is exactly why you’re still stuck in the same loop — exhausted, unseen, and wondering why healing isn’t working. 🌀 A common objection I hear sounds like: “I’ve already done so much work on myself… I don’t need a coach or support right now.” And I get it. You’re strong 💪🏼, self-aware 🧠, and you’ve probably been the one everyone else leans on. But here’s the truth that might sting a little… Healing in isolation is just another survival strategy. One that protects the wound but never liberates it. 🗝️ You can read all the books 📚 Say all the affirmations 🕯️ Even understand the trauma and family dynamics intellectually... But if your nervous system still doesn’t feel safe being seen — if your body still believes you need to shrink to survive — you’ll keep circling the same mountain. My work isn’t about telling you who to be. It’s about helping you unravel the parts of you that were never truly you to begin with. The parts shaped by trauma, entanglement, abandonment, and legacy silence. 🧬 You don’t need more info. You need embodied guidance. Grounded truth. Sacred witnessing. That’s what I do. That’s what we do — together. 🔥 If you're tired of pretending you're “fine” while secretly unraveling inside... If you’re craving deep, cellular liberation and not just another coping tool... I invite you into a space where your healing is held, not judged. Where your truth is safe. And your power is remembered.

Unmasking Hidden Predators

Welcome to another episode of ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations. I’m your host, Colli Christante — creator, director, producer, and a woman deeply devoted to helping others reclaim their voice, their truth, and their power. Today’s episode is one you won’t want to miss — especially if you’ve ever found yourself doubting your instincts in love, questioning your reality, or wondering how you got so entangled in a relationship that left you drained, confused, or broken. I’m joined by the incredible Donna Andersen — author, educator, and the founder of Lovefraud.com, a resource that has helped thousands of people around the world recognize and recover from relationships with sociopaths and other manipulators. Donna learned about this world the hard way — by marrying a sociopath. Her personal story, captured in her groundbreaking book Love Fraud, led her on a mission to expose the hidden truth about toxic love and to empower survivors with the tools to heal, reclaim their worth, and move forward. In this conversation, we’ll explore the red flags many of us miss, the psychology behind sociopathy and narcissism, the long road to healing, and what it truly takes to trust and love again. Whether you’re currently in the fog, on the other side of it, or simply want to better understand emotional abuse and manipulation — this episode is your invitation to clarity, courage, and reclaiming your life. Let’s dive in. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs https://innerexpression88.podbean.com/e/unmasking-hidden-predators-donna-andersons-journey-from-deception-to-empowerment/

The Hidden Habit That Keeps You Powerless (Even if You Think You Are Healing)

If you’ve tried to reclaim your voice, speak your truth, or finally put yourself first — and still find yourself stuck in the same loops — you were probably making this common mistake without realizing it: Over-intellectualizing your healing instead of embodying your truth. So many women I work with have read the books, taken the courses, listened to the podcasts. They “know” the patterns — narcissistic abuse, trauma bonds, codependency, people-pleasing… you name it. But they’re still whispering when they want to roar. They’re still over-explaining when their body says “no.” They’re still asking for permission — from men, systems, or internalized beliefs — instead of remembering who the hell they are. This habit of staying in the mind — analyzing, consuming, staying busy in survival — keeps you out of your body, out of your intuition, and out of your power. And that’s exactly where the sabotage lives. If you want to liberate your truth — not just talk about it — you have to go deeper. You have to work with the hidden loyalties, the ancestral entanglements, and the frozen parts of your nervous system that still believe you have to be small to be safe. This is the soul work I guide my clients through. Not surface healing. Not symptom-managing. But full-body, lineage-deep liberation. If you’re ready to stop repeating the cycle and start remembering the woman you were before you were taught to disappear… I’ve got you.

Liberate Yourself From the Life That Was Never Yours

✨ A key trait all my most aligned clients have is this: they are ready to liberate themselves from the cycle — not just for themselves, but for generations to come. They’ve reached the point where they can no longer ignore the internal pressure. They’ve played the role, kept the peace, performed the part — and now something in their soul is asking for more. They’re not just looking for surface-level healing. They’re looking for deep liberation. 🔥 These are the women who: — Feel the weight of silence that was passed down — Are waking up to the ways they’ve abandoned themselves to be loved — Know that pleasing, perfecting, and pretending were never their truth — Carry stories that don’t belong to them, but still shape how they show up in relationships They are not afraid of truth. They are afraid of staying in a life that doesn’t belong to them. And they’re drawn to the kind of work I do — systemic healing, trauma-informed guidance, and the reclamation of voice, truth, and soul — because they know it’s time to come home to themselves. If this speaks to you, or you’ve been quietly nodding as you read, then you’ll want to listen in to my upcoming podcast on narcissism, sociopathy, and what it really takes to break free from the conditioning that’s kept you silent. 💫 It’s time to liberate yourself from the cycle. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

How I Reclaimed My Voice (and Help Women Do the Same)

✨ How I Reclaimed My Voice (and Help Women Do the Same) — A breakdown of the healing process that changes everything. There was a time I didn’t know what my truth sounded like anymore. A time I gave up my voice, my needs, and my connection to Source to belong… to be loved… to be safe. And I see this in so many of the women I work with — powerful souls who slowly disappeared behind masks of people-pleasing, silence, overfunctioning, and self-abandonment. Healing this — for myself and my clients — didn’t happen overnight. But it did happen through a layered, embodied process. Here’s what that looked like 👇 1. Naming the wound Before healing, we must locate the pain. For me, it was the mother wound. The unspoken story of my mother, Francis — a woman who gave up her voice to be loved by my father. That legacy ran through me until I chose to break the cycle. 2. Reclaiming the story Through Family Constellations and embodiment work, I began to see that the story I was living wasn’t mine — it was inherited. Unconscious. Loyal. I had to feel it. Witness it. And choose something new. 3. Speaking the truth aloud This is where many women freeze. Saying it out loud — “This is not who I am anymore.” But I teach my clients to speak through the tremble. Because our voice is the first portal to freedom. 4. Reconnection to Source and Self Healing without reconnection is just a mental exercise. I guide women home to their inner knowing — not just to be “healed,” but to feel whole, led, and alive again. 5. Integration through action We don’t just talk about it. We move differently. We make new choices. We stop apologizing for existing. This is where my clients rise — where they begin speaking, setting boundaries, creating, and leading with unshakable truth. 🌹 This is how the wound becomes the gateway. This is how we reclaim our lives — not through force, but through remembrance. And I don’t teach anything I haven’t walked through myself. If this is resonating, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to untangle the knots by yourself.

5 Must - Knows to Reclaim the Woman You Were Born to Be

🔥 5 Must-Knows to Finally Break Free and Reclaim the Woman You Were Born to Be 🔥 You can’t lead a new life while abandoning your truth. Most women I work with have learned to survive by silencing themselves. They traded their voice for safety, love, approval — often starting with their mother. But wholeness doesn't come from being liked. It comes from being seen — by yourself first. The root isn’t your relationship — it’s the hidden loyalty buried in your lineage. You think you’re stuck because of your partner, your job, or your lack of confidence. But what’s actually keeping you bound is an unconscious agreement to carry what isn’t yours. I help women uncover and include these generational patterns so the cycle finally ends with them. You can’t cut cords with your past — but you can reclaim your power from it. This industry loves to preach “release it,” “clear it,” “cut it.” But what if the very parts you’re trying to disown are the gateways to your freedom? My work invites you to see, include, and acknowledge what has shaped you — not to keep you stuck, but so you can lead, love, and live in the now. You must go beyond talking about your wounds — and step into your leadership. Many healing spaces unintentionally keep women circling the same pain. My work doesn’t just hold space for your story — it activates the part of you that knows how to move forward with it. You are not broken. You are becoming. Your life is asking you to take your place. You need someone who’s lived it — not just learned it. I don’t do anything with my clients that I haven’t lived, walked, and bled through myself. From watching my mother Francis give up her truth and voice to be loved, to healing my own mother wound through family constellations, I’ve made it my mission to help other women stop abandoning themselves. ✨Your liberation isn’t just possible — it’s necessary. 💥Because when a woman comes home to her truth, she becomes a force that shifts everything. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

And so ... How is the "Just Move On and Let Go" Working for YOU?

✨ If you’ve been told “Just move on and let go”… let me show you why that’s on its way out. There’s a deep shift happening in the healing and self-development world — and it’s about time. Women are waking up to the truth that bypassing our pain, cutting cords, and “letting go” isn’t healing… it’s abandonment disguised as empowerment. 🔥 The new wave of transformation is not about severing ties with your past. It’s about seeing, including, and acknowledging what shaped you — so you can lead, love, and live fully now. I work with women who’ve been silenced, who’ve swallowed their truth, and who’ve given up parts of themselves — just like their mothers did — to feel loved and safe. And they’re done pretending that a quick mindset shift or surface-level practice is going to bring real freedom. This shift matters because true healing doesn’t come from rejection. It comes from reclamation. It comes from knowing that you are not broken — you are loyal. And those hidden loyalties? They can be transformed. 🌀 You may think your exhaustion, your stuckness, your people-pleasing are the problems. But what if I told you they’re symptoms of deeper soul entanglements — ones you inherited, not chose? I don’t guide you to disconnect. I guide you to reconnect — to your truth, your Source, and the parts of you that have been waiting to be welcomed home. This is the shift. From cutting to integrating. From bypassing to belonging. From surviving to leading. And I don’t offer anything I haven’t walked through myself. 🕊️ I broke the pattern that lived in my lineage — starting with my own mother, Francis, who gave up her voice and truth to belong. Now I help other women rise — not as who they were told to be, but as who they really are. Ready to explore this work and rise with me? Drop a 🔥 below or DM me “SHIFT” and I’ll share what’s possible for you inside this sacred, transformational journey.

Welcome to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations — the space where we explore what it means to return to your truth, reclaim your voice, and transform the stories that have shaped you. I’m your host, creator, director, and producer — Colli Christante — a trauma-informed holistic expert, family constellations practitioner,self sabotage coach and devoted guide for women ready to break free from the patterns that have silenced them for far too long. Today’s episode is a special one. It’s raw, intimate, and deeply personal. In honor of Mother’s Day, I’ll be sharing my own story — my journey with my mother, Francis… the pain I carried, the truth I uncovered, and the healing that came through family constellations and years of soul-searching. This episode is for every woman who has felt the ache of disconnection… who has longed for a mother she never truly had… and who is ready to reclaim her place, her power, and her peace. Let’s begin. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

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Harsh Truth: Healing Isn't Always Gentle - - It's Grief Work in Disquise

🔥 Harsh Truth: Healing Isn’t Always Gentle — It’s Grief Work in Disguise You and I both know… The personal development world is obsessed with the light. Love and light. Manifest and move on. High vibes only. Vision boards and vagueness. But here’s the harsh truth no one wants to say out loud: ✨ You cannot heal what you refuse to grieve. Most women aren’t “stuck” because they haven’t journaled hard enough or saged their house. They’re stuck because they’ve never been shown how to honor their grief… their rage… their heartbreak. They’ve spiritualized their pain. They’ve intellectualized their trauma. They’ve bypassed the actual wound in the name of “positivity.” And yet — they still feel like something is missing. Because something is. This industry sells the high. But what I help women reclaim is their depth — and that means going back to where they first abandoned themselves. ⚡ Your inability to speak your truth? Not a mindset issue. It’s a loyalty to the women in your line who silenced themselves to survive. 🌊 Your constant burnout? Not poor time management. It’s the invisible labor of carrying generations of unmet needs. 💔 Your struggle to feel “good enough”? Not a confidence issue. It’s the echo of your mother’s unspoken grief — still living in your body. I don’t do anything with or for my clients that I haven’t walked through myself. And I know this is what breaks the spell. Because this was my mother’s truth. Francis gave up her voice, her truth, and her connection to Source in order to belong. To be loved by my father. And I unconsciously inherited that survival strategy — until I broke the cycle. Now, I help women see, include, and acknowledge what’s been silenced, so they can lead, love, and live in the now — no cord cutting, no bypassing. Just truth. 💥 The world doesn’t need more “high-vibe” women. It needs whole women. Rooted women. Honest women. Grieving, rising, sovereign women. That’s who I serve. That’s who I help rebirth. And if you’re feeling the pull — you already know this message was meant for you. 🕊️

The Real Reason Your Healing Isn't Working (and What to Do Instead)

💔 The Real Reason Your Healing Isn’t Working (and What to Do Instead) If you’ve tried talk therapy, journaling, or cutting cords with toxic people — and you’re still carrying the same weight — you’re not alone. Most women I work with have done all the things: ✅ Read the self-help books ✅ Said the affirmations ✅ Attended the yoga classes ✅ Tried to “just let it go” But deep down, they’re still locked in a silent loyalty to pain — especially pain that was passed down from their mothers. You see, there’s a bandaid that so many spiritual women are taught to use: “Just forgive and move on.” But what happens when your nervous system won’t let you? When your body remembers what your mind tries to forget? When silence feels safer than truth? Here’s the truth: Most women aren’t broken — they’re entangled. They’ve inherited the unspoken trauma, grief, and sacrifice of generations of women who had no choice but to survive by disappearing. They gave up their voice to be loved. They gave up their truth to belong. They gave up their dreams to be a “good” daughter, wife, or mother. ✨ This was true for me. My mother, Francis, gave up her voice, her truth, and even her connection to Source to belong… to be loved by my father. And in doing so, she unknowingly passed that pattern down to me — until I chose to break it. But healing doesn’t come from cutting cords — It comes from seeing, acknowledging, and including all parts of your story, even the ones that feel too messy or “unspiritual.” 🌹 Use this reframe the next time you feel stuck in resentment, guilt, or silence: Instead of asking: ✨ “How do I forgive them?” Ask: 💥 “What am I still carrying that was never mine to hold?” That’s where we begin. I don’t ask my clients to do anything I haven’t done. I walk this path with you — not above you. And as I expand into workshops this season, especially around Mother’s Day, I want to call in the women who are done trying to fix themselves and are ready to finally free themselves — in body, soul, and lineage. 🕊️ If this stirred something in you, you’re not broken. You’re remembering. And I’m here to guide you back to your voice. The one that never left you — just waited for the right moment to rise. 💬 Tell me — what are you still carrying?

Your Confidence Isn't Missing ... It's Hidden Beneath Hidden Loyalties

✨ When people come to me looking for clarity, confidence, or the courage to take the next step in life or business… What they typically don’t realize they need is to finally see and acknowledge the hidden loyalties, emotional entanglements, and unresolved pain they’ve inherited from their family system. 🧬💔🌑 They think their problem is: — Not feeling “ready” 🤷‍♀️ — Fear of failure or visibility 😨 — Trouble trusting themselves 🤔 — Lack of confidence in their voice, offer, or direction 💬🚫 But what’s really going on? 💥 They’re unconsciously loyal to the suffering that came before them. 🪶 They’re carrying emotional weight that isn’t even theirs. 🔁 They’re repeating patterns not because they’re broken… but because they’re bonded. You’re not stuck because you don’t know what to do. You’re stuck because your nervous system believes that healing, success, and joy — would mean betraying someone you love. 🧡🕊️ And until you see that, no amount of mindset work, business strategy, or manifestation hacks will get you free. 🔒➡️🗝️ 🌿 I don’t teach people how to cut cords. I teach them how to include, acknowledge, and honor what’s been abandoned — so they can lead, love, and live in the now. 🌺👣💞 And I want you to know this: I do not offer anything to my clients that I haven’t walked through myself. 🙏💫 This is not theory. This is embodied. My work is born from my own healing, my own breakdowns and breakthroughs. 🌊🔥🌈 If you feel like you’ve “tried everything” and still end up back in the same cycles, it’s time to look deeper. 👁️🧭 This is the work I do — and it’s the kind of work that sets your soul free. 🕊️✨ Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

What Parts of Yourself Had to Die in Order for You to be Loved?

🔥 What parts of yourself had to die in order for you to be “loved”? Was it your voice? Your truth? Your boundaries? Your joy? Most of us learned early that in order to belong, we had to betray ourselves. And now, as adults, we call that betrayal personality. You think you’re just “low maintenance”… But really, you were taught not to have needs. You think you’re “independent”… But really, you learned no one would come for you. You think you're just "a hard worker"... But really, you've been running from the pain of being unseen. 💥 Here's the kicker: The very identity that helped you survive is now the same one blocking you from thriving. But what if your nervous system could learn something new? What if you could include all the parts of you that were exiled… without burning your life down? What if “healing” wasn’t about cutting cords, but about reconnecting to what’s real? 🖤 I don’t do surface work. I work with the soul of the system — the invisible loyalties, ancestral grief, and patterns of sabotage that have you stuck in loops. So let me ask you again: What part of you are you still sacrificing to stay loved, safe, or chosen? And is it finally time to break the contract? 👇 I’d love to hear your answer.

The Harmful Healing Industry Lie: "The Work is Never Done"

🚨 The Harmful Healing Industry Lie: “The Work Is Never Done” Here’s the biggest trap I see in the healing world: 👉🏽 The idea that healing is a never-ending journey. If you’re still triggered, stuck, tired, or doubting, the assumption is you must need more healing. Another retreat. Another program. Another rabbit hole. You stay busy “fixing” yourself… While the industry keeps making money off your belief that you’re broken. But here’s what no one tells you: Healing isn’t about endless digging. It’s about finally seeing what you were never shown. It’s about including what’s been excluded. It’s about acknowledging the deeper truths buried in your lineage, in your body, in your story. The danger of this lie? ✨ It keeps you in survival mode — thinking you need to earn peace. ✨ It traps you in identity-based healing: “I’m healing from XYZ” becomes a full-time job. ✨ It bypasses the invisible contracts and hidden loyalties running your life from the family field. What people think they need: ❌ To cut the cords. ❌ To be “better healed.” ❌ To prove they’re spiritually evolved. What they actually need: ✅ To be gently guided to see, include, and acknowledge what’s been left behind. ✅ To let the hidden stories rise to the surface, so they can finally be witnessed — not erased. ✅ To come into right relationship with the past… So they can lead, love, and live fully in the now. This is what I do. I don’t teach endless healing loops. I guide you home to what’s been waiting to be seen — and I do it through systemic trauma resolution, self-sabotage recovery, and family constellations work. You’re not broken. You’re bound. And freedom doesn’t come from cutting away the past — it comes from welcoming it back into wholeness. 🌀 When you remember who you were before survival taught you to forget — everything changes. Ready to meet yourself there?

Guiding Principle: I Don't Build From Survival. I Build From Soul

✨ Guiding Principle: I don’t build from survival. I build from soul. For a long time, everything I created — relationships, work, even healing — came from a place of survival. Hyper-independence. Perfectionism. Pleasing. Proving. Producing. 🔥 That version of me knew how to achieve — but didn’t know how to receive. She could hold everyone else — but not herself. And her business? It was driven by “not enough,” “too much,” and “don’t mess it up.” Until I burned it all down. Walked away. Sat with the wreckage. And chose to rebuild from my nervous system, from my lineage, from my soul. 🌿 Now my business is built differently. I refuse to bypass the body to chase the bag. I won’t sell a quick fix when I know the roots run deeper. I don’t coach for compliance — I guide for liberation. And I don’t push people to hustle — I help them unhook from patterns they never chose. This guiding principle matters because you can’t build a life of freedom from a foundation of fear. And if your business, your purpose, or your healing path is still being driven by old trauma coding… you’ll burn out before you break through. Or worse — succeed and still feel empty. In my world, we rewire the root. We slow down to break cycles. We honor your nervous system. We call your soul back into the room. And then? We build something that actually feels like YOU. This isn’t for everyone. But it is for the ones who are done performing healing, and ready to embody it. The ones who want their business to feel like truth — not trauma. ✨ If that’s you, welcome to the revolution. Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks. Love and soul hugs

🧠 Popular belief:“Mindset work is the key to breaking through self-sabotage.”⚡ New paradigm:Mindset work is out. Nervous system + ancestral trauma repair is in.

🧠 Popular belief: “Mindset work is the key to breaking through self-sabotage.” ⚡ New paradigm: Mindset work is out. Nervous system + ancestral trauma repair is in. If you’re a high-achieving woman trying to “think your way out” of repeating patterns… here’s why mindset work is the last thing you need. 🧩 Because no amount of affirmations will override a nervous system wired for chaos. No vision board will protect you from the unconscious loyalty you have to your mother’s suffering. And no self-help book will break the generational pattern if your soul still believes that betraying your lineage means losing love. 💔 💥 Ever wonder why people keep doing the exact opposite of what they say they want? They’re not lazy. They’re not broken. They’re LOYAL. To unspoken family trauma. To childhood survival codes. To pain that became familiar. To success feeling unsafe because it means leaving someone behind. 🌀 I once worked with a woman who had done all the coaching. Inner child work ✅ Journaling ✅ Money mindset masterclasses ✅ But no matter how much she earned, she sabotaged every launch. Why? Because in her family, women who made money were shamed — or isolated. Making money meant becoming “other.” Becoming “alone.” And unconsciously, that was a death sentence. Once we mapped the family system and brought the pattern into the light, she wept. And her body exhaled. 👉 “I never realized I was trying to stay loyal to women who suffered.” That was her moment. And her launch tripled the next month — without a single new strategy. ⚠️ Here’s the real issue: Most mainstream coaching still treats sabotage like a mindset problem. But the root is deeper. Soul deep. Systemic. Generational. And unless you heal that, you’ll stay trapped in the loop. 🔥 My work with systemic trauma, family constellations, and sabotage isn’t about fixing you. It’s about freeing you from the invisible contracts keeping you stuck. Forget about rewiring your mindset. Start re-aligning your soul. 🕊️ You’re not broken. You’re just wired to survive. And now it’s time to remember how to live. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Reason

There’s a reason I do this work. It’s not just passion. It’s personal. It’s survival that turned into soul purpose. I was the woman who did everything right on the outside — Achiever. Strong. Capable. But inside? I was a tangled web of inherited pain, buried rage, and silent sabotage. I didn’t know I was living out the grief of women who came before me. I didn’t know the reason I kept choosing struggle was because struggle felt like home. That I was loyal to pain that wasn’t mine. That my nervous system confused safety with chaos. Until life cracked me wide open. The ending of a long relationship that mirrored my childhood wounds. Health challenges that screamed what I refused to hear. A betrayal that forced me to stop performing strength and finally feel. That’s when I found Systemic Constellations. It was like someone turned the lights on in a room I didn’t even know I was trapped in. I could see the patterns. I could name the loyalties. And — for the first time — I chose me. I stopped trying to fix myself and started listening to what my soul had been begging me to hear. And that’s when everything changed. Not overnight. Not cleanly. But truthfully. Fully. And forever. This isn’t just work to me. This is devotion. This is how I broke the cycle. And why I help others do the same. Because there’s nothing more sacred than watching someone remember who they were before the wound. And there’s no greater freedom than realizing you were never broken — just carrying what wasn’t yours. This is why I guide others to freedom from self-sabotage, inherited pain, and disconnection from soul. Not to make them “better”… But to help them finally come home. If you’ve been feeling like you’re spinning in loops you can’t name… You’re not lost. You’re being called back to the truth.