You Can Never Defeat What You Are Afraid Of

🌑 You can never defeat what you are afraid of 🌑 Fear has a way of disguising itself. It shows up as procrastination, self-doubt, overthinking, or even the stories you repeat to yourself about why you “can’t.” But here’s the truth… What you fear most isn’t the outside situation. It’s the inside confrontation - - the hidden pattern, the buried memory, the unspoken loyalty to pain that keeps you circling back. That’s why surface fixes never work. Because you can’t out-think, out-run, or out-hustle what you’re afraid to face. ✨ The moment you turn toward it instead of away, everything shifts. You don’t just “defeat” fear - - you integrate the wisdom behind it. And from there, you finally reclaim your voice, your freedom, and your life. This is the work I do with my clients: I help you uncover the roots of fear that keep you stuck, so you no longer have to fight yourself — you get to transform. 💫 If you’re ready to stop being ruled by fear and finally step into your truth, send me a message. It’s time. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Surface Problem vs. Root Issue

🌹 Surface Problem vs. Root Issue 🌹 When people come to me, they often say things like: 👉 “I just need to stop overreacting.” 👉 “I need to manage my triggers better.” 👉 “If only I could control my emotions, I’d be fine.” But here’s the truth… what they really need isn’t more control. It isn’t about silencing the reaction or pushing the trigger away. 💡 The real issue is this: those triggers are connected to hidden loyalties, unhealed trauma, and ancestral patterns that keep them repeating the same cycles — no matter how hard they try to “manage” it on the surface. ✨ When we get to the root - - decoding the language of the nervous system, unearthing the buried pain, and releasing what was never truly theirs to carry — everything shifts. Instead of battling their reactions, my clients begin to feel: 🌿 Grounded in who they really are 🌿 Free from the constant loop of self-sabotage 🌿 Open to create a life that feels safe, aligned, and truly theirs Because the truth is - - you don’t need more willpower or self-control. You need liberation from the unseen forces shaping your life. That’s where the real transformation begins. 💬 Tell me — do you find yourself stuck trying to manage the same “problem” over and over? Maybe it isn’t the real problem at all. Believe Breathe Transformation Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Erotic, Sensual, Intimate

✨Erotic, Sensual, Intimate ✨ Welcome, beautiful souls, to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations. Today, we enter a space rarely spoken of with such honesty, reverence, and sensuality. I’m joined by the luminous Irmgard Rauscher, who brings her deep wisdom and presence to guide us through the intimate terrain of perimenopause and menopause. This is not just a conversation about change—it is about desire, vitality, and the erotic pulse that still flows through us as women. It is about touching the places where body and soul meet, where longing and liberation awaken, and where we reclaim our right to feel alive, sensual, and whole in every season of life. Because the body is not just biology—it is a temple of pleasure and wisdom. A place where our deepest truths live, waiting to be listened to, honored, and celebrated. So, take a slow breath, soften into your body, and allow yourself to be held in this conversation. Together, we’ll explore the mysteries, the pleasures, and the power of womanhood in its most intimate unfolding. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Have You Been Hurt by a Future You Haven't Even Arrived at Yet?

Have you been hurt by a future you haven’t even arrived at yet? So often, we suffer twice - -once from the wound itself, and again from the story we tell ourselves about what might happen next. Your mind, shaped by old hurts, is quick to project yesterday’s pain onto tomorrow’s possibilities. It fills in the blanks with fear, preparing for abandonment, rejection, or failure - - before life has even spoken. But here’s the truth: the meaning you attach to this moment is not fact, it’s a reflection of where you’ve been. When you pause, breathe, and choose to respond from the present—not from the ghosts of your past—you open the door to an entirely different reality. Sometimes the shift is subtle, like turning your face toward the light. Other times, it’s a complete reclamation of your story. Either way, it only takes one conscious choice to stop reliving an old pattern and start creating something new. 💫 What if your future wasn’t another repeat of the past? 💫 What if your next step was guided by clarity, not fear? 💫 What if you trusted life to unfold in ways you’ve never imagined? This is the work I do: helping you decode the hidden language of your fears, loosen the grip of the past, and create space for your future to arrive—free, fresh, and fully yours. Are you ready to stop carrying wounds from a life that hasn’t even happened yet? Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Let's Get Back to Basics

🌿 Keep showing up with unwavering belief in the goodness of life. Let's get back to basics, You live in a dreamworld where all things are possible. Your mere existence is the undeniable proof. You don’t need the perfect plan. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Life was never meant to be linear. The detours, delays, and obstacles? They’re not mistakes — they’re the very stepping stones shaping you. ✨ The truth is: courage isn’t about certainty. It’s about showing up for yourself, your dreams Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

“No More Silence: Sex, Truth & the Rise of Authentic Desire”

Who Shall I Help Next?

🌿 In the great adventure of life, none of us “get it” at the beginning. We stumble, we learn, and so… help is sent. Over time, some begin to understand, but understanding without living brings no real change. So more help is sent. Then, a shift happens — a few begin to live what they know, and in doing so, they inspire others to begin “getting it” too. An upward spiral begins to unfold. Eventually, a time comes when more and more are both getting it and living it. This is how collective transformation takes root. So the question becomes not “When will I arrive?” but rather: ✨ “Who shall I help next?” Because every time you live what you know, you light the way for another soul. 💫 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

SHAME

Shame Episode ✨🎙️ I’m Colli Christante — creator, director, producer, and host of ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations. Every week, I open a space where conversations move beneath the surface — where we uncover the hidden patterns, the ancestral ties, and the quiet voices inside that shape our lives. This week, we’re leaning into a theme many of us carry but rarely speak aloud: shame. Shame can silence us, keep us small, and tether us to stories that were never truly ours. It lingers in our language, our bodies, and even in the lineage we carry. But here’s the truth: when we begin to name it, explore it, and gently unravel it, shame transforms. What once bound us becomes the very doorway into freedom, authenticity, and deeper connection. With over 40 years of experience in systemic trauma, family constellations, and self-sabotage work, I bring not just expertise but lived wisdom. As your host, I don’t just talk about transformation — I walk beside you in it. ✨ Tune in to this week’s episode as we shine light on the shadows of shame — and discover together how to reclaim the voice, truth, and power that have always been yours. 🎧 ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations — where healing meets truth, and truth sets you free.

Meet Robbie Ames - - Celebrating A Client Success Story

✨ Celebrating Client Success ✨ It is with such pride and joy that I share this incredible milestone of my client and friend, Robbie Ames, who has just been selected as the new GM/COO at The Club at Quail Ridge in Florida. Robbie recently shared these kind words about our work together: “As one of my mentors and a dear friend of mine, you have played an integral role preparing me for this career role. You guided me every step of the way during the various chapters of life, and you have helped me to grow exponentially both personally and professionally. I could not have done it without you, and I just wish everyone had you as a secret weapon. THANK YOU.” Watching Robbie step into this prestigious role—succeeding an admired leader after 12 remarkable years—has been such an honor. His dedication, vision, and willingness to do the deep inner and outer work have brought him here. This is the kind of transformation I live for: guiding leaders to rise with clarity, confidence, and authenticity. Here’s to Robbie’s continued success as he begins this exciting new chapter. 🌟

over 2, Downloads

🌟✨ 2,000 Downloads! ✨🌟 My heart is overflowing today 💜 … because ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations has just passed 2,000 downloads 🎉🎧 This isn’t just a number—it’s a reflection of every single one of you who has tuned in, shared an episode, invited a friend, or simply taken time to listen. 🌿✨ To my inspiring guests — thank you for your wisdom, courage, and truth. 🌹 To my beautiful listeners — thank you for opening your hearts and minds. 💕 To those who download, share, and spread the word — you are the reason this ripple keeps growing 🌊. Here’s to the next 2,000 and beyond… because the world is ready for more transformative conversations that heal, awaken, and inspire. 🌟💫 With deepest gratitude,love and soul hugs Colli 💜

What Patterns Do You Carry?

We all carry patterns — some that empower us, and some that quietly hold us back. Here’s something I’d love to hear from you today: 👉 What’s a belief or story you’ve carried for years that you’re starting to question now? OR 👉 When you think about the language you use every day — the words you repeat to yourself — how do you think they’ve shaped your life? OR 👉 If you could shift just one repeating pattern in your family or in yourself, what would it be — and how do you imagine life would feel without it? Your answers not only open up your own awareness, they help others realize they’re not alone in the questions they’re asking themselves. 💫 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Reclaiming Your Voice

🎙️ I’m Colli Christante - -

creator, producer, and host of ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations. In this episode, I sit down with the unforgettable Dr. Rose Backman—known as Canada’s “truth speaker”—a woman whose voice, wisdom, and unapologetic courage have inspired thousands to break free from limitations and claim their personal power. Dr. Rose brings a fierce blend of insight, intuition, and truth-telling that will stir your soul, challenge old patterns, and ignite transformation. This conversation is raw, real, and deeply liberating—an invitation to rise into the fullest expression of who you are. Join me on ColliTalks as we explore what it truly means to reclaim your voice, your truth, and your freedom—with Dr. Rose Backman.

You Matter

💛 You give so much to others. 🌸 You often go out of your way to make sure everyone else is okay. As beautiful and admirable as that is… it’s not sustainable. 💫 🌿 Your soul needs replenishing, too — or you risk quietly burning out. It’s time to start honoring your needs first. 💗 Show up for yourself the way you so lovingly show up for others. 💬 Offer yourself the same kindness, encouragement, and grace you give so freely. Every step you take toward your own well-being nourishes not just you, but also the way you can love and serve in the world. 🌷 Your energy matters. Your heart matters. You matter. ✨ Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Your Words Are the Walls of Your World

🌿 Your Words Are the Walls of Your World Every day, you speak a language that quietly shapes your reality. It’s in the phrases you repeat, the stories you tell, the way you explain yourself to others — and to yourself. I’ve seen it over and over in my work: the language you use is not just communication… it’s a container. It can keep you safe, yes — but it can also keep you stuck. When you unknowingly speak in the language of your wounds, you replay the same old stories, and those stories become walls. 🔍 In my private sessions, I decode the hidden architecture of your language. I listen for the patterns, the inherited phrases, the ancestral echoes — the unspoken agreements you’ve carried, often for generations. And together, we break them open. From there, we plant new language — words that expand possibility, that align with who you’re becoming, not who you’ve been. Because when your words change, your world changes. If you’ve been feeling like you’re circling the same emotional track — repeating the same conversations, hitting the same walls — this is your invitation Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks' Love and soul hugs

Sunday August 17th, Dr. Rose Backman

The Problem You Think You Have vs. The Truth Beneath It

✨ The Problem You Think You Have vs. the Truth Beneath It When people come to me looking for a way to stop sabotaging themselves 🙅‍♀️ or to “finally get over” a recurring emotional pattern 🔄… they usually believe the problem is just a lack of willpower, a mindset block, or not trying hard enough. But that’s almost never the real root. 🌱 What they actually need is to uncover the hidden loyalties and systemic patterns 🧬 they’re unconsciously carrying from their family, ancestors, or past experiences — patterns that keep them repeating the same painful cycles no matter how many times they promise themselves it will be different. You can’t simply “think” your way out of these loops. 💭🚫 You have to see what’s been invisible 👁 — the unspoken agreements, the generational wounds, the deep-rooted stories living in your nervous system — and then gently release them so your soul can breathe again. ✨💨 That’s the work I do. ❤️ We meet the pain you can name, find the root you can’t yet see, and bring freedom to both. When you heal at the root, the self-sabotage dissolves, the weight of the past lifts 🕊, and you finally feel the spaciousness to live the life you’ve been craving. 🌸 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Power of Softness:Embracing Vulnerabilty and Accepting Fate

**"Thank you for joining me today on ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations 🌿🎙️. I’m your creator, producer, and host, Colli Christante — and it means the world that you chose to spend this time here with me 💛. If today’s conversation stirred something inside you — a recognition, a memory, or even a quiet whisper of possibility ✨ — I invite you to carry that forward. Let it soften the hard edges. Let it remind you that no matter how much pain you’ve walked through, there is always a way to meet yourself with more compassion 🌸. If you’re ready to explore the hidden patterns, the unspoken stories, and the deeper truths that are shaping your life, I’d love for you to connect with me 🤝. You’ll find all the ways to reach me in the show notes. Until next time, take gentle care of your heart 💖 — and remember, your softness is not a weakness. It’s a superpower 🌟."** Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Love has many faces - are you seeing all of them?

Love has many faces — are you seeing them all? 💫❤️ Love isn’t just red roses 🌹, stolen glances 👀, or handwritten letters ✉️ tucked beneath pillows. It’s quieter than that, sometimes. It’s the friend who checks in when your energy feels off 💌 The sibling whose hug unravels something tight in your chest 🤗 The parent who still shows up in small, steady ways 🫶— even if they can’t say the words out loud. But if you’re only looking for love in one place — a partner, a romance, a story told by movies 🎥💔 — you might miss the sacred ways it already surrounds you. ✨ What if love is already here… just in a different form? Stay open 💖 Let it find you in the ordinary 🌻 Let it remind you: You are not alone 🤍 You are already deeply loved 🕊️ You just might be looking in the wrong direction 🧭 What unexpected shape has love taken in your life lately? 💭 #LoveIsEverywhere #RedefineLove #HealingConnections #SoulfulLiving #EverydayLove

Question for the Wise Women, the Quiet Rebels, the Ones Remembering Who They are ..

🌿 Question for the Wise Women, the Quiet Rebels, the Ones Remembering Who They Are... What truth did you have to bury in order to be loved? Was it your voice? Your intuition? Your need for freedom, rest, wildness, or safety? When did you first learn it wasn’t safe to be you — and what would shift in your life if that story no longer ran the show? I ask this not to expose your pain, but to open a window to your power. Because this is where the roots live. This is the work I do. And this is where the liberation begins. 🌀 I'd love to hear from you in the comments — or feel free to message me privately if it feels more tender. You don’t have to carry it alone anymore. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

From Calcutta to Canada - A Life Told in Stories with Author Sam Mukherjee

🎙️ New Episode: From Calcutta to Canada — A Life Told in Stories with Author

Sam Mukherjee on ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations ✨ Join me in a heartfelt conversation with the gifted novelist, criminal defense researcher, and master storyteller — Sam Mukherjee. 🌍 From the streets of Calcutta to the creative corridors of Canada, Sam shares the winding path of his life — crossing continents, genres, and lived experiences. We talk about: 🖋️ The power of storytelling in justice and healing 👣 His journey from novice writer to published novelist 👨‍👧 How fatherhood transformed his voice 📚 Blending fantasy, thrillers, and raw realities 💫 The thread of compassion running through it all Whether he’s exposing human trafficking or weaving magical realism, Sam’s stories invite us to feel, reflect, and awaken. Come listen as we uncover how stories shape us, save us, and set us free. 🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts. #ColliTalks #SamMukherjee #PodcastPromo #StorytellingMatters #TransformativeConversations

Heartfelt Gratitude for the Birthday Wishes

Heartfelt gratitude to and for each and every one who wished me a happy birthday. I spent the day doing what I love, which is supporting others' journey, raising their platform to the highest level through my podcast, walking along the beach where I live, and best of all, spending time with my daughter and grandchildren and of course gifting my granchildren with nummy cake. And so ... Now my gift to each of you is what I most want you to dream of are possibilities that thrill you. What I most want you to feel is happy. And what I most want you to know is that you’re loved. Love and soul hugs Colli

Healing is Like Tending to a Twisted Necklace

🌿 Healing is like tending to a tangled necklace ✨ You know when a delicate necklace has been shoved in a drawer for years — knotted, twisted around itself and others? You can’t just yank it free. You sit down 🪷 You breathe 🌬️ You gently trace the threads with curiosity and care 🧵 That’s the work I do with my clients. We don’t rip at the pattern or shame the tangle. We listen. We trace it back — through language 🗣️, through lineage 👵🏼👩🏻🧑🏼, through the nervous system 🧠 — until what once felt impossible to unravel begins to soften. Each knot has a story 📿 And when we witness it without fear or force, what’s been tightly wound for generations begins to unwind. 🕊️ You weren’t broken. You were just tangled in what wasn’t yours to carry. And now, piece by piece, you’re coming home to yourself again. 🌸

What Would You Say Yes to, if You Trusted That Life Would Catch You?

🪞 “What would I say yes to, if I trusted that life would catch me?” So many women are asking themselves this — quietly. But instead of listening for the answer, they sign up for another “proven system,” another promise of “high-ticket success,” another formula wrapped in someone else’s voice. Here’s the truth that’s rarely spoken out loud in this industry: 🤍 The coaching and healing world has normalized disconnection. Disconnection from soul. From ancestral truth. From inner knowing. From your own language. You’re taught to override your body. Ignore your resistance. Push past your inner yes or no. All in the name of “success.” Of finally getting it “right.” But here’s the danger in that: You begin to repeat someone else’s path — a path that wasn’t built for your nervous system, your lineage, or your deep feminine intelligence. You mimic their voice. Their strategy. Their structure. And soon, your real self gets buried under performance. And what happens then? Your energy fades. Your gallbladder clenches. Your nervous system burns out. You think you are the problem. But the real problem is a model that teaches imitation over integration. 🌿 My way is different. I help you unravel. Unhook. Deconstruct. I decode the language you speak — the spoken and unspoken stories passed down to you. We listen to what your body is really saying. We liberate what’s systemically stuck. We replant truth in the soil of your own voice. Because when you return to your own frequency… You no longer chase. You choose. ✨ What would you say yes to, if you trusted that life — your life — would catch you?

From the Red Carpet in Hollywood to Real Soul Purpose: The Passionistas Journey

✨ What if the dream everyone chases… was never your dream at all? This week on ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations, I sit down with two extraordinary women who walked away from the Hollywood machine — from Oscar campaigns, post-production on Harry Potter and The Matrix, and high-powered success — to answer the call of something deeper. 🎙️ Amy and Nancy Harrington, the powerhouse sisters behind The Passionistas Project, share the sacred pivot that changed everything. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has ever: — felt out of alignment with “success” — longed to start over but felt afraid — needed a reminder that passion, purpose, and truth are more valuable than prestige ⚡ Hear how they gave up the spotlight to follow their soul’s calling — and why it’s never too late to begin again. 💛 Tune in and claim your permission slip to live the life you were meant for. #PassionOverPrestige #ColliTalksPodcast #SacredPivot #TruthTellers #WomenWhoStartOver #FromHollywoodToHealing #ThePassionistasProject

Time for a Cool Shift

✨ A Quiet Shift That Changed Everything For years, I believed that helping people meant giving them answers. Solving the puzzle. Fixing what was broken. But over time — and with hundreds of hours guiding clients through systemic work, trauma resolution, and deep pattern recognition — something shifted. I realized: 🌿 People don’t need fixing. They need to be seen in the systems that shaped them. They need someone who can decode what they’ve always carried — the invisible loyalties, the generational burdens, the patterns they couldn’t name. This was a pivotal shift in my work. From doing for to holding space with. From guiding through strategy to guiding through truth. Today, I no longer work from a place of urgency, reactivity, or surface-level goals. I work from the root. 🌱 The pattern beneath the pattern. The language behind the symptoms. And it’s changing everything for my clients — 💫 from long-standing burnout to relationship clarity, 💫 from self-sabotage to self-honoring decisions, 💫 from survival roles to soul-led living. If you’ve been working hard to heal, to shift, to grow… But something still feels stuck — It may not be you. It may be what you're entangled with. Let’s bring it into the light. 🌕 #FamilyConstellations #SystemicHealing #RootCauseCoach #TraumaInformedBusiness

The One Thing I'll Never Do

💡 Here’s one thing I’ll never do in my business — and why it might just change yours… I will never push people into transformation. I will never pressure someone to work with me. I will never force a breakthrough before it’s ready to bloom. 🌿 Why? Because real transformation cannot be rushed. It doesn’t respond to urgency — it responds to truth, to safety, to sacred timing. ⏳✨ After decades of guiding women through systemic trauma, ancestral wounding, and the heartbreak of self-sabotage… I’ve learned this: What’s forced doesn’t last. What’s revealed with love changes everything. 🕊️ This is why I don’t do hype. I don’t do manipulation. I don’t pretend healing is a three-step formula or a five-day fix. Instead, I listen. I hold sacred space. I trust the soul’s rhythm over the algorithm. 🌸 If you’re a woman who’s tired of being pushed, performing, or pretending… I invite you into a space where nothing is forced — but everything is revealed. This is my way. And if it resonates — maybe it’s your way too. Let’s walk it together. Your soul already knows. 🌙 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Anxiety Robs You of Your Present While Trying to Promise You of Your Future ~ Apostle Emmanuel Adewusi

“Anxiety robs you of your present while trying to promise you of your future.” — Apostle Emmanuel Adewusi We’ve been sold a popular belief — one that many high-achievers, leaders, and healers silently live by: 👉 “If you’re feeling anxious, you need to control more. Think smarter. Fix it. Plan it. Push through it.” But what if I told you the exact opposite is true? Managing anxiety is out. Meeting it is in. The more we try to control the future, the more disconnected we become from our present. And the more we “manage” anxiety like it’s a flaw to fix, the more we silence the part of us that’s simply asking: Am I safe right now? 🌀 A different paradigm: In my work in systemic trauma, ancestral patterning, and self-sabotage, I see this constantly: Anxiety isn’t weakness. It’s intelligence. It’s your nervous system whispering, “Something inside still feels unresolved.” And it often has deep roots — not just from your lived experience, but from inherited survival strategies, buried emotion, and internalized roles that were never yours to carry. 🔄 So let me offer this: Forget about controlling anxiety to create success. What you really want is nervous system safety so you can allow success. This is the foundation of true leadership, creativity, and impact. If anxiety is running in the background of your days, your relationships, or your work — not because you’re doing something wrong, but because something in your system is trying to keep you safe — let’s talk. My approach? I help you identify the hidden roots of your anxiety — from family entanglements to inner child wounds — so you can finally stop managing symptoms… and start living from wholeness. Let’s reclaim your now — together. #TraumaInformed #Anxiety #Leadership #SelfSabotage #SystemicHealing #EmotionalIntelligence #NervousSystemSupport #SomaticHealing #SelfLeadership #LinkedInTherapist #InnerWork #TransformationalCoaching

Unlocking the Body's Silent Language: Pain Carries Essential Information

In this episode of ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations, I,

Colli Christante, the ✨creator, 🎧producer, and 🎤host — explore the profound intelligence of the body and the hidden messages pain carries. Drawing from my own lived experience and the teachings of mentors who’ve shaped my path 🌀, I share how pain is more than just physical — it's often the voice of the soul 🕊️, speaking through the fascia, the tissue of the soul. We’ll journey into how our bodies hold ancestral memories 🧬, unspoken truths 🤐, and emotional imprints — and how releasing what’s trapped in the fascia can bring both physical relief and emotional freedom 💧. You'll also hear steps to help you access the body’s vibrational language 🎶, and I invite you to surrender 🫱🏼‍🫲🏽, breathe 🌬️, and come home to yourself. This episode is an invitation to embrace your body’s innate wisdom and begin a transformative journey toward inner peace 🧘🏼‍♀️ and soul understanding 🌿.

Why I Do This Work

Why I Do This Work I never set out to become a healer. I became one because I had to. Because the pain in my body, the ache in my soul, the confusion in my mind - - they wouldn’t let me go.I come from a lineage of women who gave up their voice to be loved, who abandoned their truth to belong. I was born into silence, into secrets. And as a child, I felt everything. I carried what wasn’t mine. I stayed small to keep others safe. I performed strength while inside I was breaking.No one taught me how to listen to my body. No one showed me how to speak the language of my nervous system. No one told me that what I was feeling — the panic, the tight chest, the spasms of pain — was wisdom trapped beneath trauma.I found Specialized Kinesiology, NLP, Touch for Health, Psych-K, Family Constellation, Systemic Trauma, and eventually my own soul’s voice through sheer necessity. I needed to remember who I was beneath the roles, the expectations, the survival.The deeper I went, the more I realized: The body doesn’t lie. The soul remembers. The patterns we carry are not always ours, but they are ours to heal.I’ve now spent decades decoding the hidden language of pain, tension, illness, sabotage, and stuckness — not from a textbook, but from living inside it. I’ve studied, practiced, cried, screamed, healed, and helped others do the same.And this is why I do what I do. Because too many women are still trapped in stories that aren’t theirs. Too many are repeating old cycles while wondering what’s wrong with me? Too many are listening to “experts” with no lived experience, just memorized scripts and pretty certifications. Too many are silently suffering, disconnected from their body, their truth, and their power.I don’t offer quick fixes. I walk beside you through the hard, the hidden, and the holy. I listen to what’s not being said. I hold space for what was buried to rise. I help you come home  - - systemically, ancestrally, spiritually, and somatically  - - to the you that was always there.This is not just work. This is sacred devotion. This is my legacy.And I’m here, when you’re ready. Colli#HealingWithColli #SystemicTrauma #FamilyConstellations #SomaticHealing #WomenWhoKnow #YouAreNotAlone #ComeHomeToYourself #GenerationalHealing #HealingIsSacred--

When Your Body Speaks What Words Cannot

Here’s the most common struggle I see among women who are awakening to their truth: They think they need to push through the pain, hold it all together, and “stay strong.” They keep showing up, smiling, supporting others… all while secretly unraveling inside. 😔💔 This is especially true for the ones who are sensitive, intuitive, and deeply wise — the ones others rely on. The ones who’ve held the family together. Who’ve kept the peace. Who’ve swallowed their truth to belong. And yet, behind closed doors? They’re having sleepless nights. Aching joints. Spasms in their back and heartbreak in their chest. Their body is speaking, and no one’s listening. Not even them. 😢🌀 Why? Because they’ve been conditioned to believe that “doing more” is the only way out. That if they just fix their schedule, get more clients, or hustle harder, the pain will pass. 🏃‍♀️💼 And when they do reach out for support, they’re often met with surface-level advice from people who’ve read the books, collected the certifications, and memorized the ABCs of transformation — but haven’t actually lived the deep descent and reclamation required to hold another through it. 📚🚫 Here’s the truth: The pain isn’t a problem to be fixed. It’s a pattern to be revealed. 🧬✨ Your body is the gateway to what’s been buried systemically — grief, guilt, unspoken vows, ancestral entanglements. These hidden patterns don’t respond to willpower or mindset hacks. They require reverence. They require deep, intuitive witnessing. 🌿🕊️ This is the work I do. 🔍🌀 Together, we decode the silent language of your body and your lineage. We untangle the systemic roots that have kept you loyal to suffering. We gently bring the hidden story to light… so your system can finally rest, realign, and reclaim its voice. 🧘‍♀️🌺 You’re not broken. You’re carrying too much that was never yours to hold. 💞 And you don’t have to carry it anymore. If this speaks to you, I see you. I honour you. And when you’re ready — we begin. 💫🤲

Disconnected From Your Desire?

✨ What if you’re not broken… just disconnected from your desire? For the longest time, I thought I needed to work harder. Fix something. Heal faster. Do it all just right. But the truth is — I wasn’t broken. I was over-adapted. Over-responsible. So emotionally fluent in everyone else’s needs… that I forgot I had my own. And maybe that’s you too? 💫 You built a life that looks “fine.” You’re strong. Capable. Caring. But under it all… You can’t feel what you want anymore. Here’s what I know now: The return of desire is the beginning of transformation. But desire doesn’t come from pushing. It comes from remembering who you are beneath all the survival roles. 🌿 The mother. The good girl. The loyal partner. The peacemaker. All of them had their place ... But none of them are the full you. What you think you need: To fix, to manage, to shrink the ache. What you actually need: To be witnessed. To be met. To rewire the nervous system that learned love was only earned through sacrifice. This is the work I do ... And it’s not about “healing” as much as it is reclaiming. 🕊️ Your joy. 🕯️ Your sensuality. 🔥 Your truth. 🌙 Your sacred timing. If your desire has gone quiet — it hasn’t left. It’s waiting for a safer home inside you. Let’s build that together. 📩 More to come in late September. To stay close to this — email me: innerexpression88@gmail.com You don’t need to hold back anymore. You just need to come home. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Your Nervous System Was Never Taught to Rest

🌿 You Didn’t Fail at Regulating Your Nervous System 🌙 You didn’t fail at being calm. You didn’t fail at being strong. You didn’t fail at holding it all together. 💔 Your nervous system was never taught how to rest. It learned survival. It learned hypervigilance. It learned to read the room instead of feel safe in your own body. And maybe — like me — you grew up in a home where the adults were fractured. Where there was no space for your emotions, your magic, your voice. Where even joy felt dangerous. Where tenderness wasn’t modeled… and rest was a luxury nobody could afford. So your body adapted. You got good at carrying it all. At freezing the ache. At performing calm while your soul was screaming. And now… maybe you're feeling the flatness. The exhaustion. The tears that don’t even know where they come from. But hear this: ✨ It’s never too late to receive the repair you didn’t get. 🌸 It’s never too late to learn how to feel safe inside your own body. 🌿 It’s never too late to reparent your nervous system — with love, ritual, and slow devotion. This is the work I do. 🤲 I help women and men unhook from inherited trauma, invisible contracts, and systemic self-betrayal — so they can come home to their body, their voice, and their sacred truth. 🕊️ You don’t have to navigate this alone. If something in your soul whispered “this is me”… I invite you to reach out. 💌 🌀 Sessions now open. 📩 Email: innerexpression88@gmail.com Let’s begin gently. Let’s begin now. 🌙 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Hit Something Deep

Last week’s post "Nobody Has it Better Than You - They Just Present it That Way" hit something deep — Messages poured in from women and men, quietly saying: “This is exactly what I’m living.” “I thought it was just me.” “You put words to something I’ve never been able to explain.” If you’re feeling flat, disconnected, or emotionally numb — even while your life on the outside looks “fine” ... this isn’t a flaw. It’s a threshold. It means your survival self is tired. It means a deeper part of you — the real you — is ready to emerge. And yes, it feels strange, even painful, because no one teaches us how to unravel the systems and stories that taught us to mute our truth. But you don’t have to go it alone. This is the work I do ... I walk beside people as they release inherited roles, systemic loyalty, self-sabotage, and the old contracts that say: “Don’t feel too much. Don’t need too much. Don’t speak your truth.” If something in you stirred last week — if you felt seen — 💌 email me at innerexpression88@gmail.com More is coming in late September. And it might just be exactly what your nervous system has been longing for. You're not broken. You're waking up. And I’d be honored to support you in finding your way back to your feeling, your voice, and your power. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Sacred Terrain of Menopause: A Rite of Passage

✨ New Episode Release ✨ From the heart of “ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations” Created, produced, and hosted by yours truly — Colli Christante In this sacred conversation, I sit down with the wise and radiant Professor Irmgard Rauscher — a woman whose life’s work bridges clinical science, embodied wisdom, and ancestral knowing. Together, we journey into the often-unspoken terrain of perimenopause and menopause — not as a decline, but as an initiation. A crossing. A return to the wild knowing within. This episode is an offering — for the woman who feels alone in her symptoms, silenced in her shifts, or unsure of who she is becoming. We speak of the body as messenger, the soul as compass, and the seasons within that ask to be honoured, not managed. 🌕 If you’ve ever whispered, “Something is changing, and I don’t know who I am anymore,” this one’s for you. 🎙️ Tune in now to this truth-filled episode — where medicine meets mystery, and womanhood is reclaimed in full.

Did You Whisper "This is Me?"

If yesterday’s post made you whisper ‘this is me’… here’s the next truth you need to hear: “You’re not sabotaging your life - - you’re staying loyal to a system that told you love and safety had conditions.” 🧬💔 I want you to know something… ✨ You’re not stuck because you’re weak. ✨ You’re not sabotaging because you’re broken. ✨ You’re not failing — you’re faithful to a survival system that was wired into you through generations. As a Detective of Hidden Loyalties, Broken Connections Sabotage Patterns I decode language and ancestral patterns, I listen beyond what you say — I decode what your system actually believes about love, success, safety, and self-worth. Through the words you speak, I trace the threads of: Hidden loyalties to family pain Generational contracts you didn’t agree to Silent stories you've carried without knowing And I hold space to say: I see you. I include you. I acknowledge what’s been passed down — and what’s still running the show. 🌱 We get to the root. 🌱 We release what no longer belongs. 🌱 And we plant new seeds so you can finally blossom into who you were always meant to be. This is more than healing — it’s a soul retrieval. And you don’t have to do it alone. 💫 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Nobody Has it Better Than YOU ... They Just Present it That Way

Why So Many Women Are Feeling Emotionally Flatlined (Even When Life Looks “Fine”) 🌫️ Lately, almost every woman I’ve worked with has whispered some version of this: “I’m here… but I’m not really here.” “I don’t feel joy or grief — I just feel numb.” “I’ve worked so hard to build this life, and now that I have it… why do I feel nothing?” Here’s the truth: 💥 Nobody has it better than you — they only make it look that way. What you’re feeling isn’t failure. It’s a survival response. You’ve spent years doing all the right things — Showing up. Working hard. Keeping it together. Tending to everyone else’s needs while swallowing your own. And somewhere along the way… you got disconnected from you. Here’s why: 🔒 You learned to tone it down, shut it off, or overperform just to feel safe in your family or community system. 🧬 You inherited unspoken contracts like: “Don’t feel too much.” “Don’t need too much.” “Don’t shine too brightly.” “Don’t break the rules of our belonging.” So you got good at hiding. At surviving. At smiling through the ache. And now… the joy, the grief, the passion — it’s all behind a glass wall. But that flatness you feel isn’t the end. It’s the invitation. 💫 It’s your system saying: “I’m done surviving. I want to feel again.” This is the work I do. I help women unhook from inherited pain, systemic loyalty, and self-sabotage — so they can finally reclaim what they’ve been taught to fear: their truth, their voice, their feeling, their power. If you’ve been quietly thinking, “Something’s off… I just don’t feel like myself anymore” — You’re not broken. You’re waking up. And I would be honored to walk beside you as you come home to who you really are. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Ever Wonder Why?

Ever wonder why no matter how much “inner work” you do, certain patterns just won’t budge? 😫 You’ve journaled, meditated, affirmed, visualized… and still find yourself: Back in the same relationship dynamic 💔 Struggling to receive abundance 💸 Or feeling stuck in a loop of burnout and self-doubt 😵‍💫 Let me offer you one perspective shift I use with clients that blows their minds: “It’s not you resisting change. It’s your loyalty to what came before you.” 🧬 You might think you're stuck because you’re broken, unmotivated, or not doing enough healing. But more often, the block isn’t yours — it’s ancestral. Your nervous system may be loyal to an unspoken family story: “We don’t outshine others.” “Success isn’t safe.” "Success is punishment." “Love means self-sacrifice.” “Women in our family always…” (fill in the blank) These hidden loyalties are often unconscious, passed down through generations like heirlooms — and they’re protective, not punitive. But until they’re made visible, you’ll keep sabotaging your progress to stay in the system’s favor. The shift? We don't fix you. We free you — by honoring the origin of the pattern and choosing a new loyalty: to your soul’s expansion. 🌱 So if you're feeling stuck, ask yourself: “Who might I be betraying if I fully succeed?” “What family pattern would I be breaking if I truly allowed joy, wealth, or love?” That question alone has opened more breakthroughs than any affirmation ever could. Ready for more? This is the work I do — deep, systemic, sacred. And it changes everything. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Here's the Thing ...

✨ Here’s the thing about working with me... Yes, we go deep. Yes, we untangle ancestral threads, decode sabotage, and release systemic trauma. But don’t let the sacred work fool you — I’ll also make you laugh mid-breakthrough, swear like a poet, and remind you that healing doesn’t have to be heavy to be real. I bring a blend of: 🌶️ no-nonsense truth telling 💃 spontaneous movement medicine 🎭 mystical “WTF just happened” moments 🧭 and a deep intuitive radar for what your soul came here to do Fun fact? I talk to bodies. Literally. Your bones, your womb, your nervous system — they speak, and I listen. Sometimes I even dance while constellating your lineage… because trauma is sticky, and joy is the solvent. ✨ I’ll call out your patterns with a smile and a lot of love — and somehow, it feels like a cosmic hug and a wake-up slap all at once. Because here's the secret: Healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you are… and learning to enjoy her again. So if you're ready to laugh, cry, move, release, and finally stop tiptoeing around your brilliance… you’ll love being in my space. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Right Here Right NOW

✨ Just because the past shaped you, doesn’t mean it gets to decide for you. You are not bound to repeat what came before. When you release the weight of old stories, shame, or survival roles, you open yourself to something far more powerful — intention. This moment — right here, right now — is a doorway. 🌿 But if you're staring behind you, you’ll miss it. You don’t need a five-step plan. You don’t need to wait until you feel ready. You just need to be willing. A small intention… whispered from your soul… is enough to begin again. Let today be a moment of renewal. Not because the past is gone — but because you are choosing to meet yourself differently. Beleieve Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Welcome back to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations

Welcome back to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations — where we don’t just talk about healing, we embody it. Where truth is honored, patterns are revealed, and the soul is always invited to speak. Today’s guest is the radiant and real Zak Lioutas — a truth-teller, soul-seer, and fierce guide for women ready to reclaim their power, voice, and sacred leadership. Zak walks with women who are done performing, done pleasing, and done pretending. She invites them into raw honesty, divine chaos, and the clarity that comes when we stop hiding from ourselves. In this conversation, we explore: 🌑 The power of unbecoming 🌿 How spiritual truth meets real-world grit 🔥 The fire that burns through old identities 🌀 And what it means to lead from the inside out Zak doesn’t offer sugar-coated spirituality — she offers liberation. So wherever you are right now… driving, walking, curled up with a journal — let yourself drop in. This episode is a reckoning. A remembering. A homecoming. Let’s begin. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs https://innerexpression88.podbean.com/e/awakening-the-divine-zach-leotis-on-burnout-to-brilliance/

They Come to Me With Different Stories, BUT the Themes Are Always the Same

They come to me with different stories, but the themes are always the same. ✦ “Why do I keep sabotaging right before things get good?” ✦ “Why do I shrink around my mother, even though I’m grown?” ✦ “Why can’t I speak up in the moment — I always find my voice after?” ✦ “Why do I feel so damn tired, even after years of healing?” ✦ “Why am I still stuck in cycles of overgiving, silence, and shame?” These are the questions I hear week after week, session after session. Different women. Different lives. But the same thread running through them: 🌀 Unconscious loyalties. To mothers who silenced themselves. To fathers who didn’t see them. To ancestral trauma no one ever named. 🌒 Patterns of protection. Learned as little girls. Worn as women. Still playing out in business, love, and leadership. 🩸 Unspoken truths. That live in the body. That leak out in self-sabotage, burnout, and emotional reactivity. ✨ These are not random struggles. They are signals. They are invitations. And they are all pointing back to the system. The family field. The energy beneath the story. The root you can’t think your way into. But you can feel your way through — with the right guidance. This is the work I do. We don’t just talk about the wound. We track it. We untangle it. We return the pieces that don’t belong to you. And we reclaim the parts you had to abandon to survive. If this speaks to you — if you’ve done the healing, but something still loops — it’s likely systemic. Let’s reveal the root. Let’s return your energy. Let’s restore what’s been buried for generations. The work is deep. The shifts are permanent. And your soul already knows it’s time. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Three Archetypes of Women I Work With (And Which One Might Be You?)

🔮 The Three Archetypes of Women I Work With (And Which One Might Be You?) In my years of guiding women through systemic trauma, self-sabotage, and sacred reclamation, I’ve noticed clear archetypes emerge. These aren't labels — they’re living energies. And when you recognize yours, you stop fighting yourself… and begin reclaiming your power. Here are the three I see most often in my work: 1. The Shape-Shifter She learned early on how to become what others needed — to be liked, to belong, to survive. She blends in, shrinks down, and silences her truth to avoid conflict or rejection. She’s the good daughter, the spiritual seeker, the woman who can feel everything but rarely speaks what’s real. But inside? She’s tired of disappearing. 🌀 Her AHA: Realizing that her silence is not peace — it’s suppression. That belonging at the cost of self is not belonging at all. 🌹 What shifts in our work: She reconnects with her voice, stops apologizing for her truth, and begins to take up space in her own life — unapologetically. 2. The Fire Holder She’s strong, fierce, capable — the one everyone else turns to. She’s built a life, a business, or a career… but under it all is a rage she doesn’t understand and a fatigue she can’t shake. She’s holding ancestral grief and carrying the emotional weight of generations. She’s burned out from being the one who always holds it all. 🌀 Her AHA: Realizing her “power” was built on survival, not sovereignty. That her strength has become a shield, not a truth. 🌹 What shifts in our work: She learns to put it down — the patterns, the burdens, the grief. She rests. She softens. And she steps into true leadership: sourced from within, not from performance. 3. The Truth Keeper She knows. She’s intuitive, mystical, often the black sheep or cycle breaker. She sees the patterns, feels the energy, and knows something deeper is calling — but she’s stuck in sabotage, fear, or old trauma loops that pull her back just when she’s ready to rise. 🌀 Her AHA: Understanding that knowing isn’t enough — healing lives in the body, the family field, and the truth we haven’t yet spoken. 🌹 What shifts in our work: She learns how to land her knowing — to anchor it in action, embodiment, and liberation. She stops leaking energy and starts living the truth she came here to hold. Each of these archetypes holds deep wisdom — and none of them are broken. They are women who are ready. Ready to stop spinning. Ready to name what’s been hidden. Ready to reclaim their truth, energy, and ancestral power. If you see yourself in one of these, this is your invitation. Let’s uncover the hidden loyalties, break the contracts that no longer serve, and bring you back to yourself — the you that never left. Send me a message to my email at innerexpression88@ gmail.com and let’s begin. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

“Here’s What I’d Do to Stop Shrinking and Start Leading From My Deep Truth”

Here’s exactly what I would do if I wanted to stop repeating the same sabotaging pattern and finally step into the truth of who I am. This is for the woman who’s done the work. The healing. The journaling. The affirmations. The therapy. And yet— She still finds herself shut down, shrinking, shape-shifting, or lashing out when it matters most. Here’s how I would approach it, step-by-step: 1. I would stop trying to fix myself. You are not broken. You are loyal. Loyal to a system, a motherline, or an unconscious belief that’s running the show behind the scenes. This isn’t about “more healing.” It’s about revealing. 2. I would pay attention to my language. Language is the keyhole to the hidden room. What you say — especially on repeat — reveals what you're unconsciously committed to. “I don’t know…” “I’m fine…” “I always mess it up…” Each phrase carries a contract. I decode these phrases to track the pattern that’s really in charge. 3. I would map the system I’m entangled in. There’s always a system. A mother you still feel loyal to. A father you never got to grieve. A grandmother whose silence you’ve inherited. I use systemic constellations to reveal the invisible loyalties you’re entangled in — and bring the truth to light. 4. I would shift from coping to choosing. Most of us aren’t choosing — we’re surviving. Once the pattern is revealed and the entanglement is loosened, you get to choose differently. With clarity. With power. With soul. 5. I would reconnect to Source, truth, and self. This is the moment you stop betraying yourself to belong. You stop reaching outward to be seen. And start rooting into the woman you already are — the one who never left. This is where your voice returns. This is where you lead from. This is the exact journey I walk my clients through. From silence to sovereignty. From self-sabotage to self-trust. From the echo of the past… to the embodiment of truth. Ready to decode what’s really driving your pattern? Send me a DM and let’s begin. Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks Love and soul hugs

What You Say Internally or Out Loud is What You Serve: The Hidden Power of Your Language

Everyone wants the breakthrough... but few are willing to face what’s beneath the block. You want the clarity. The confidence. The thriving relationships. The freedom to speak your truth without shaking. You want to create, to lead, to finally feel like yourself again. So you journal. Meditate. Say the affirmations. Take the courses. But the patterns keep repeating. And here’s why: ✨ The missing ingredient isn’t just more mindset work. It’s not manifesting harder. It’s not healing faster. It’s this: Your language is revealing your entanglement — and you don’t even know it. Words like: “I have to…” “I’m stuck…” “I can’t because…” “I’ve always been like this…” These aren’t just phrases. They’re codes. They reveal hidden loyalties, inherited beliefs, and trauma still held in the nervous system 🧬. And until someone shows you how to decode the language you live inside — you’ll keep speaking yourself into the same container, over and over again 🕸️. Your language is the map. It tells me where you’re holding, who you’re protecting, what your body believes will happen if you actually heal. And when we decode it together? 💥 We find the root of the wound. 💥 We reveal the system you’ve been entangled with. 💥 And we begin to reclaim your true voice — the one that was buried to survive. Because you can’t create a new story while speaking in the language of your old one. And you can’t break free while your words still guard the cage. 🌿 This is where I come in. I hear what’s unsaid. I see the pattern in the sentence. And I guide you gently to the original rupture — not to relive it, but to release it with love. When that happens? Your voice changes. Your relationships shift. Your nervous system exhales. And you finally come home to yourself. The transformation isn’t in doing more. It’s in seeing what’s already there — hidden in the way you speak. And once we unlock that? Everything changes.

When They Told You That This is Just The Way It Is

They told you it was too late. That healing had to take decades. That breaking generational cycles was “just the way it is.” They told you to manage, to cope, to quiet your truth, to be “realistic” about your relationships, your voice, your wild desires. But what if I told you… The life you’re aching for? The freedom, the clarity, the grounded YES in your bones? It’s not only possible — it’s been waiting for you. ✨ I’ve seen women walk away from decades of people-pleasing and finally hear their own voice like a sacred sound. ✨ I’ve witnessed clients who thought they were “too broken” or “too much” unravel inherited trauma and find their power in the exact place they once felt shame. ✨ I’ve watched mothers, daughters, and partners unhook from trauma bonds — not by fighting, but by finally seeing the pattern, giving it back with love, and reclaiming themselves. This isn’t magic — but it is sacred. It’s the deep systemic, somatic, and soul-level work that unravels what’s not yours so you can remember what is. 🔥 Your inner knowing. 🔥 Your clean NO and holy YES. 🔥 Your ability to belong to yourself, without guilt. 🔥 Your clarity about why you stay stuck — and the permission to step out of it. You were taught that this kind of healing was a mountain. But what if it’s actually a door? 🚪 And all you need is someone who knows where the handle is hidden — because I’ve walked through it myself. Your life is not meant to be a loop. It’s meant to evolve, to breathe, to expand — and so are you. 🌹🌀

Breaking the Chains - - Unmasking the Truth of Trauma Bonds

ColliTalks: Breaking the Chains — Unmasking the Truth of Trauma Bonds Welcome to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations. I’m your Creator, Director, Producer, and Host, Colli Christante — a seer of hidden patterns, intuitive guide, and systemic trauma practitioner devoted to helping you remember who you truly are beneath the noise, the roles, and the inherited pain. In tonight’s solo episode, we’re breaking the chains — unmasking the truth of trauma bonds. These are the invisible threads that keep us tangled in relationships that hurt, patterns that suffocate, and identities that aren’t truly ours. They often feel like love… but are built on fear, survival, and unconscious loyalty 🧬. Together, we’ll explore: ✨ How trauma bonds are formed — and why they’re so hard to leave ✨ The nervous system’s deep attachment to what’s familiar, even when it hurts ✨ The ancestral and systemic layers woven into these bonds ✨ And the path to unhooking from what’s been binding you — with compassion, clarity, and courage This is a sacred unraveling — not to destroy what was, but to free what wants to emerge. Because you were never meant to live in chains. Let’s begin this journey — together. Welcome to ColliTalks.

When You STOP Trying to Fix Yourself, You Start to Meet Yourself

Here’s something that sounds counterintuitive — but I’ve seen it crack people wide open in the best way… When you’re stuck in self-sabotage, systemic patterns, or trauma loops, most of the world will tell you: Push harder. Fix it. Do more healing. Say the affirmation. Think positive. Override the fear. But I say the opposite. I say: Pause. Soften. Listen. Not to the story in your head — but to the voice underneath the silence. Because what’s running the show isn’t just you — it’s generations of unspoken grief, hidden loyalties, and inherited patterns 🔁🧬. When you stop trying to fix yourself, you start to meet yourself. And that’s where the real healing happens. Not by doing more… but by including what’s been exiled. By honoring what your system has always been trying to protect 🛡️. ✨ So instead of fighting your resistance… get curious about it. ✨ Instead of overriding the fear… sit beside it like an old ancestor with a story to tell. ✨ Instead of striving to be better… recognize how hard your system has worked to keep you safe. This work isn’t about doing more. It’s about unraveling the why beneath what you’ve been repeating — so you can finally choose a new path 🕊️. So no… I won’t push you to “just get over it.” I’ll walk you back into the room where it first began — and help you retrieve the part of you still waiting to be seen 👁️🤍. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Your Language Becomes the Cage

“I don’t need that kind of work. My trauma’s not that bad.” Ever heard that voice inside? The one that says: “I’ve already moved on.” “It wasn’t that big of a deal.” “It happened so long ago.” “Other people have it worse.” Here’s the truth no one talks about: Language becomes the cage. The stories you repeat — “I’m fine,” “I’m over it,” “It made me stronger” — aren’t just words. They’re bars. Reinforcements. Rewind loops keeping you inside the same emotional container — never fully free, just better at managing your pain. Continuing to believe that your story doesn’t need to be explored because it wasn’t “bad enough”… is exactly why you’re still exhausted from holding it all together. Why joy feels fleeting. Why deep intimacy keeps slipping through your fingers. The work I do isn’t about reliving your past. It’s about releasing the unconscious loyalties still driving your present. It’s about unbinding you from the language that has kept your truth suppressed and your nervous system loyal to pain you never chose. Systemic trauma isn’t always loud. It shows up in quiet places: 🧬 In the pause before you speak your truth. 🧬 In the need to apologize for taking up space. 🧬 In the smile that hides the ache. 🧬 In the same sentence you’ve told yourself for years: “I’m fine. This is just how I am.” But what if it isn’t? What if you’re not meant to keep managing it… But to finally release it — from your lineage, your body, your story? You don’t need to be in crisis to choose freedom. You just need to recognize when your own words have become a cage. And if this stirs something inside you — that something is your truth, ready to rise. 🕯️🦋🗝️ Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Liberating Your System

If you’ve tried to move forward by staying in your head… you were probably following a pattern that was never yours to begin with. ✨ You’ve done the reading. ✨ You’ve talked it through. ✨ You’ve journaled your heart out. ✨ You’ve tried to “understand” your way into change. But understanding isn’t transformation. And insight isn’t embodiment. Most people don’t realize this: The loop they’re stuck in isn’t because they’re doing something wrong — It’s because their system is loyal to something unseen. Something inherited. Something unspoken. Real change doesn’t happen in your head. It happens when you return to the body. To the places inside you that were silenced, excluded, or forgotten — not because you failed, but because your system was protecting what no one else knew how to hold. In my work — we don’t fix. We reconnect. We reorder the system. We reclaim what has always belonged to you. And when that happens… You don’t just shift your life — You shift the field for everyone who came before you and everyone who will come after. 🕯️ You were never broken. You were carrying too much, for too long, on behalf of too many. It’s time to return what isn’t yours and walk forward in the truth of who you really are.

The Ones Who Win Are the Ones Who Are Ready to Lose Who They Thought They Were

A key trait all my most powerful clients have is this: They are willing to lose who they thought they were. They’re not here for surface-level fixes. They don’t want a shiny mindset shift, a nervous system hack, or a productivity high. They want to go into the bones of the pattern — and listen. They understand that the pain they carry is not just theirs. It belongs to a lineage. To the women who were silenced. To the ones who carried what they weren’t allowed to speak of. To the parts of themselves that were buried under roles, rules, religion, and survival. ✨ They don’t need convincing. ✨ They don’t need a “guarantee.” ✨ They feel the pull because they know there is something ancient asking to be seen through them. And when we meet — in constellation, in field, in story, in somatic truth — they are willing to feel what was never felt. Not because it’s easy. But because it’s time. They’re not asking, “How fast can I be healed?” They’re asking, “How deep can I go into what’s real, so I don’t pass this on?” They come to me when the old ways no longer work. When the loop is loud. When their body is whispering what their mind can no longer override. And together, we do the work that sets not just them — but their entire bloodline — free. Because the ones who find me… Are ready to remember. 🕯️🌿🧬

How I Freed Myself From a Toxic Relationship — and the 5 Steps That Made It Possible

How I Freed Myself From a Toxic Relationship — and the 5 Steps That Made It Possible Years ago, I was entangled in a toxic relationship that was slowly eroding my soul. On the outside, it looked “functional.” On the inside, I was shrinking. I stayed far longer than I should have — not because I didn’t know better, but because of what I couldn’t see: Ancestral loyalty. Systemic trauma. The part of me that believed love meant abandonment of self. This is how I found my way back — not just to safety, but to truth. And it’s the same path I now guide clients through: 🪞 Step 1: I stopped trying to “fix” the relationship — and got honest about my entanglement. I had to see that staying wasn’t just about fear — it was about loyalty to women in my lineage who also silenced themselves to survive. Once I named that, everything started shifting. 🕯️ Step 2: I acknowledged the deeper trauma pattern. Through Family Constellation work, I saw how my nervous system was replaying an old script: “If I can just love them enough, I’ll finally be safe.” That wasn’t love. That was survival. 🧬 Step 3: I worked with my body, not just my mind. Through Specialized Kinesiology,yoga, I mapped the way my body was holding the betrayal, grief, and self-abandonment. I didn’t talk my way out — I released it through my cells. 🐚 Step 4: I included the exiled parts of myself — the ones I had judged and left behind. The part of me that stayed. The part of me that raged. The part of me that begged for breadcrumbs. I brought them in, not out. And I wept. 🔥 Step 5: I re-chose my life. Not as a performance. Not to prove anything. But as an act of devotion to the woman I truly am — and the work I came here to do. That relationship didn’t define me. But it did initiate me. Why does this matter to you? Because maybe you’re stuck in a loop that’s deeper than logic. Because maybe your trauma isn’t just yours. And because no amount of mindset work will free you from a soul-level bind. The process I walked through is the same one I now guide others through in my practitioner training and 1:1 work: 💠 Systemic clarity 💠 Somatic release 💠 Soul reclamation If this speaks to something buried inside you — I see you. And I’m here to walk with you to the other side. You don’t have to stay where it hurts. You can choose something different. And you don’t have to do it alone. 🕊️

🌿 New Episode | ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations 🎙️ EPISODE #2: “The Menopausal Threshold: A Journey Home to Self” with special guest Professor Irmgard Rausche

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🌿 New Episode | ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations 🎙️ EPISODE #2: “The Menopausal Threshold: A Journey Home to Self” with special guest Professor Irmgard Rauscher I’m Colli Christante — creator, producer, and host of ColliTalks — and this conversation is one I’ve been deeply honoured to hold. In this episode, I sit down with the extraordinary Professor Irmgard Rauscher to explore menopause not as a medical event to be managed, but as a profound initiation — physical, emotional, spiritual, and ancestral. We speak of the unraveling, the confusion, the fire — and also the clarity, the return, the reclamation. 🔥✨ Irmgard brings over 40 years of experience working with women and the body, and offers a grounded, wise, and empowering lens on what it means to walk this path awake. This isn’t just about hormones. It’s about who you become when the world quiets and your soul starts speaking louder than ever. 🎧 Tune in now wherever you get your podcasts — and walk with us through this powerful threshold. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

✨ 5 Things You Must Have in Place to Truly Heal Systemically (And Not Just Manage Your Trauma) ✨ Let’s be honest — we are way past the era of surface-level healing. You’ve done the breathwork, read the books, followed the somatic cues. And yet… you’re still stuck in the same loop. 😔 That’s not because you're broken. It’s because you haven’t been taught the real keys to systemic transformation. Here are the non-negotiables if you want to heal the root — not just regulate the symptom: 1. 🪢 Know Your Place in the Family System Until you can see what (or who) you're unconsciously entangled with — you’ll keep playing out someone else's pain story. 🌑 Hidden loyalty is one of the biggest saboteurs of growth. 2. 🧬 Listen to the Body as Truth — Not Just as Symptom Your body isn’t betraying you. It’s speaking what your lineage couldn’t. Through specialized kinesiology and somatic mapping, you can access what's buried — and finally release it. 📡 Your cells remember. And they want to be free. 3. 👻 Acknowledge the Unspoken & the Excluded In every family system, there are ones who were left out, blamed, forgotten, or shamed. Until they are seen and included, the field remains disordered — and that disorder shows up in your relationships, health, business, and inner peace. 🕊️ What isn’t included will be repeated. 4. 👁️ Stop Fixing Yourself — Start Seeing Yourself Most people are chasing healing to escape their symptoms. But real healing comes when you witness yourself with compassion, not urgency. 🪞 You don’t need fixing. You need remembering. 5. 🕯️ Work with a Guide Who Sees What You Can’t You can’t muscle your way through inherited trauma. You need someone trained in systemic trauma, somatic intelligence, and soul work who can walk beside you — without rescuing you. 🌿 Because this isn’t just about healing — it’s about liberation. If you’re reading this and your soul is nodding… I see you. I’ve been you. And I walk people through this work every day. 💫 You don’t have to keep looping. You don’t have to carry what isn’t yours. There’s another way — and it begins with remembering who you really are. 🦋🔥🕊️ Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

No Longer Enough

You may think that healing is just about calming your nervous system. But what if I told you that’s no longer enough? ⚠️🧠 We are in the middle of a massive shift — one that’s exposing the limits of mindset work, somatics, coaching models, and even trauma-informed practices. 🌪️ The truth is: you can regulate your nervous system all day long — and still be stuck in the same cycles. Why? Because what’s driving the pain isn’t just inside you. It’s behind you. 🧬🕯️ Systemic trauma. Ancestral entanglement. Hidden loyalty. We’re waking up to the fact that so much of what we’ve called “healing” is actually just rebranding survival. 😔🩹 We’re soothing symptoms without addressing the root. We’re learning tools but staying loyal to pain that isn’t even ours. We’re doing the inner work — but ignoring the family system we were shaped by. 🪢 Let me be clear: The old paradigm — the one that says healing is just about breath, mindset, or managing your triggers — is dying. ⚰️ Because our souls are demanding more. 🔥 They’re asking us to stop gaslighting our own pain. 🚫 To stop making personal what is systemic. 🕸️ To stop blaming ourselves for being stuck when we’re actually entangled. 🪤 And this is where I come in. I don’t just work with trauma. I work with the unseen patterns that live in your lineage. 👁️ The unconscious loyalties that override your logic. The soul agreements that have kept you playing small, staying silent, and living someone else’s story. 🤐 If you’re still looping, if healing feels like effort instead of relief — this is your invitation to go deeper. ⬇️ To stop patching up the surface. And start healing at the root. 🌱 There’s a new way emerging — and it doesn’t bypass your story. It honours it. 🕊️ It brings order to the chaos. ⚖️ And it sets you free. 🦋

What Your Body Knows - - What Your Lineage Holds

You and I both know that no amount of affirmations, breathwork, mindset rewiring, or trauma-informed language will truly set you free… if you’re still unconsciously loyal to the people, patterns, or pain that shaped you. 💔🔁 That’s the truth too many in the healing space avoid — because it’s easier to focus on tools than to tell the deeper truth: You can’t “fix” a nervous system or soul that’s still bound by invisible threads of generational loyalty and trauma. 🧬🧵 If you’ve read The Body Keeps the Score 📖 by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, or studied the work of Dr. Peter Levine 🐅, you already know: “Traumatized people so often keep repeating the same problems and have such trouble learning from experience. We now know that their behaviours are not the result of moral failings or signs of lack of willpower or bad character — they are caused by actual changes in the brain.” 🧠⚡ I’ve trained with both of these pioneers. 🌀 And here’s what I’ve come to see in my own life and in my work with others: The nervous system holds trauma — But the family system holds the entanglement. 🫀👥 You can do all the “right” things — EMDR, coaching, somatic work, journaling, breathwork — and still feel like you’re trapped in the same cycle. Not because you’re doing it wrong. Because you’re still carrying something that didn’t begin with you. 🧳🧓👩‍🦰🧒 This is the elephant in the room 🐘: Your system is loyal. It will hold your mother’s heartbreak 💔, your father’s rage 🌪️, your grandmother’s silence 🤐 — all to keep you connected. And until you see what you’ve been unconsciously loyal to, you’ll keep circling the same mountain, calling it healing. 🏔️🔄 My work? It’s not about giving you more tools. It’s about revealing the truth behind the trauma 🕯️— and helping you bring order where there’s been chaos. When you do, your nervous system exhales. 😮‍💨 Your body remembers who it is. 🕊️ And you finally start living your own life — not the one you inherited. 🌱✨ P.S. If your heart is pounding 💓 or your soul feels like it's been called forward — that's not fear. That’s recognition. 🫶 You’re not broken. You’re entangled. And you can be free. 🔓 This is the sacred, uncomfortable, life-giving work I walk people through. If you're ready, I'm here. Let’s begin. 🌿🔥

Trying to Think Your Way Out of Your Pain?

If you’ve been trying to "think your way out" of the pain, patterns, or self-sabotage that keeps showing up in your life — and still feel stuck — you’re not alone. There’s a common bandaid being handed out in the personal development world: “Just shift your mindset. Think positively. Say the affirmations. Push through.” 💪✨ And while mindset work can be supportive, here’s the deeper truth no one wants to say out loud: You can’t override ancestral patterns and systemic trauma with a good attitude. ❌🧠🚫 You inherited more than just your eye color or body type — you inherited your survival strategies, belief systems, and even your silence. 🧬👁️🤫 Most women I work with have been conditioned to cope by shrinking, pleasing, disappearing, or over-performing — just to belong, be loved, or stay safe. 🤍👣 They’ve tried all the usual self-help strategies, and still feel broken or disconnected. Why? Because they’re tending to the symptoms, not the source. 🩹➡️🌪️ The real work isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about remembering who you were before you gave up your truth to survive. 🔥🕊️ That’s the work I do. We don’t just talk about the pain — we track it to where it began. We honor what was inherited. We include what was excluded. We bring the unseen into the light so it no longer controls you. 🪞🌿🕯️ When you stop trying to “fix” the limited version of yourself and start transforming the wound where that version was born — that’s when everything changes. 🌹🌀 If that truth stirs something in you… you’re ready. 🤍🌑🌞

A Little Tool Can Go A Long Way

Use This Reframe the Next Time You Feel Like You're "Sabotaging" Yourself The next time you catch yourself procrastinating, pulling back, avoiding the thing you say you want… Pause. Before you label it as “self-sabotage” — ask yourself this: “What part of me believes it’s not safe to move forward?” This one question shifts everything. Because most of the time, what we call sabotage is actually a survival strategy that was wired in long ago. Maybe it was safer to be small than to be seen. Maybe being visible meant being judged — or rejected. Maybe success would have made you different from your family, and connection mattered more than achievement. Maybe “doing nothing” is how you protected yourself from failing… or from outshining someone you love. The key isn’t to shame it. It’s to get curious about it. 🌀 What was this pattern protecting you from? 🌀 Whose voice do you hear when you hesitate? 🌀 What might finally be possible if you could meet that scared part of you with compassion instead of criticism? This is the work I guide my clients through — gently, deeply, and systemically. Because healing doesn’t come from pushing harder. It comes from understanding what your system has been trying to do all along… and then choosing a new way with love. Try this reframe. And watch how your relationship to “self-sabotage” begins to shift.

What If It's Not Self - Sabotage?

What If It’s Not Self-Sabotage? 🤔🌀 So many of the women I work with come to me saying: “I just need to stop sabotaging myself.” “I know what I should do… but I never follow through.” “I always shrink when I’m about to rise.” 💔🌱 And while it looks like sabotage on the surface — missing the deadline, ghosting the opportunity, dimming the light — what’s actually happening is something far deeper… and far older. This isn’t laziness. This isn’t lack of willpower. This isn’t a mindset issue. 🚫🧠 This is loyalty. Loyalty to the unspoken rules of your family system. Loyalty to the women who weren’t allowed to speak, rise, rest, shine, or succeed. 👩‍👧‍👦🕯️ Loyalty to what kept you safe as a little girl in a world that didn’t feel safe. 🧸🛡️ And unless that loyalty is seen, acknowledged, and released, it will continue to override your highest intentions. Because your nervous system isn’t confused — it’s protecting you. 🧬💫 This is the work I do: Untangling the roots. Honouring what was. Liberating what wants to become. 🌿🕊️ So if you’ve been beating yourself up for “getting in your own way” — take a breath, and ask yourself this: Who (or what) might I still be loyal to? 🤲❓ You’re not failing. You’re protecting something that once kept you safe. But there comes a time when the survival story has to give way to a new one. 📖🔥 One where you get to rise — with your whole self intact. 🌹✨

What Did You Tuck Away to Be Loved?

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that being fully ourselves was… dangerous. Too loud. Too sensitive. Too wild. Too soft. Too much. So we tucked parts of ourselves away. To be accepted. To be loved. To belong. Not because we were weak — but because we were wise. We adapted. We survived. We stayed connected in the only way we knew how. But here’s the thing no one tells you: The parts of you that got pushed down are not gone. They’re waiting. Not to be shamed or fixed — but to be welcomed back. This is the sacred work I do with women: Uncovering what’s been buried. Reclaiming the truth. And becoming whole again — not in spite of the past, but because of it. So I’ll ask you this… When did you first learn that being fully yourself came with a cost — and what parts of you did you quietly tuck away to stay safe or loved? (You can share below or reflect privately. Either way, something begins to shift the moment we acknowledge what’s been hidden.) You don’t have to keep carrying what’s not yours. You don’t have to keep living in fragments. It’s time to return to yourself — fully, fiercely, and with reverence.

Healing Isn't A Spa Day. It's Gardening

Healing isn’t a Spa Day. It’s Gardening. So many people come to healing work expecting it to feel like a spa day — relaxing, soothing, and serene. But the kind of transformation I guide clients through? It’s not a spa day. It’s gardening. And not the glossy kind you see in lifestyle magazines. I’m talking about the gritty, knees-in-the-dirt kind of gardening. Where you sweat. Where you dig deep. Where your hands come up full of roots that have been choking the life out of your soil for generations. You don’t just plant pretty seeds and hope. You clear. You compost. You unearth the invasive roots that keep growing back no matter how beautiful the surface looks. That’s how self-sabotage works. That’s how ancestral patterns work. They live beneath the surface. And if you don’t go down and get your hands in it, they keep stealing your light, your energy, your dreams. But here’s the thing no one tells you: Once the soil is cleared, your garden becomes sacred ground. Things grow there that never had the chance before. Joy. Voice. Boundaries. Love. Worth. Soul work. You learn how to tend your inner world with reverence — not perfection. And the harvest is yours. Not borrowed. Not performed. Yours. So if your healing hasn’t “felt good” lately… maybe it’s not supposed to. Maybe you’re just finally doing the real work. Knees in the dirt. Soul in the game. And my friend — that’s holy. 🌿

Let's Talk About What No One's Naming

Let’s Talk About What No One’s Naming. 🕯️ There’s something happening in the healing, coaching, and self-development world that’s quietly causing more harm than good — and most people don’t even realize it. It’s the normalization of surface-level healing packaged as transformation. Quick fixes. Pretty language. ✨ Tools and techniques that dance around the edges of deep wounding without ever touching the root. Programs that promise empowerment while bypassing the very systems, family dynamics, and trauma imprints that keep people looping in pain. And it’s everywhere. People are being sold frameworks for success, wholeness, and clarity without ever being taught how to listen to their bodies 🧠💔, attune to their nervous systems 🌀, or understand the silent family loyalties that keep sabotaging their growth. This isn’t just ineffective — it’s retraumatizing. When someone is taught to manifest their dream life or visualize their ideal self while still carrying inherited burdens, unprocessed grief, and unconscious patterns… they don’t just “fail” to succeed. They often internalize that failure as a personal flaw, reinforcing the very shame they came to heal. This is why I do what I do the way I do it. 💫 I don’t offer surface solutions. I walk with people into the layers that most don’t want to touch — the unseen dynamics, the systemic entanglements, the deep roots of self-sabotage, ancestral wounding, and the parts of the soul that got left behind in the name of belonging. 🌿🧬 Because the truth is: you can’t mindset your way out of a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe. You can’t build sustainable change on top of unresolved trauma. And you can’t fully step into your purpose when you’re unconsciously carrying the pain, fear, or silence of those who came before you. 🕊️ What I offer isn’t quick. It’s not trendy. It’s sacred. ✨ And it works — because it honors the whole human, not just the parts that look good on paper. So if you’ve been doing “all the right things” and still feel like something invisible is holding you back — it’s not you. It’s the system you were handed. And together, we can untangle it. 🤍

Soft Power. Sharp Truth.Whole Life

There came a point in my business when I could no longer lead from the same part of me that had once survived. She—the one who had built offerings from necessity, who moved from urgency, who shaped her value through the lens of what others needed—was wise and resourceful. But she was not the one meant to take me into the next chapter. 🌙 The pivotal shift was this: I stopped building from pressure and started creating from essence. ✨ I let go of forcing, fixing, and fawning—both in my own system and in the way I supported my clients. And I finally owned the truth that I am not here to help you bypass pain or become more productive. I am here to help you return to yourself. 🕊️ This shift required me to burn away the parts of my business that were built on co-dependence, overgiving, and staying small to be loved. I used to teach systems for managing sabotage. Now I teach people how to listen to it. I used to focus on rewiring behavior. Now I guide you to the root, where the wound first whispered, “If I stay small, I will belong.” The biggest implementation I made? I built an entire body of work around the soul’s quiet longing to be free—from generational patterns, from the illusion of control, and from the unconscious contracts that keep us looped in cycles that are not ours to carry. 🔥 And the results? Deeper. Truer. More embodied. Clients aren’t just “feeling better”—they’re reclaiming their voice, their agency, their truth. They’re stepping out of family systems that kept them silent and into lives that reflect who they really are. 💫 If you're in the place I once was—overworking, people-pleasing, pushing to make it all happen—maybe you feel the ache, too. That holy tug toward something softer but more powerful. That whisper: There is another way. 🌿 And I’m here to walk it with you. 🤍 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Guiding Light Behind My Work

The Guiding Light Behind My Work ✨ There’s a quiet vow I made early on that shapes every choice I make in my business — a vow to never chase the dizzying heights of scaling a massive empire or wearing the CEO crown 👑. Instead, I choose to keep my work intimate, grounded, and deeply aligned with my soul’s values 🌿. In a world obsessed with “more,” “bigger,” and “faster,” I stand firmly in the belief that true transformation blooms in space — space to breathe, to feel, to grow without pressure 🌬️🌱. I’m here to honor the sacredness of your journey, not to rush it or fit it into a one-size-fits-all mold. This way of being might not click with everyone — and that’s the magic ✨. Because if you’re someone who feels called to slow down, to honor your truth, and to build something meaningful that’s about depth not just scale, then we’re already speaking the same language 💬💖. When you work with me, you’re not just getting a coach or a guide — you’re stepping into a container where your story matters, your wounds hold gifts, and your transformation is treated like the sacred unfolding it truly is 🌸🦋. This is my promise: to hold space for your truth, to move with integrity, and to remind you that sometimes, the smallest steps carry the greatest power 🌟. Believe Breathe Transform CollitalkS Love and soul hugs

You Can't Heal What Isn't Yours Until You SEE That it Isn't yours

🌿 Popular Belief: “You just need to do more healing work to finally feel free.” 🔥 My Truth? Healing work without systemic inclusion is just another loop. We’ve been sold this idea that if we journal more, meditate more, cry more, process more — we’ll finally get to the root of why we sabotage, shut down, or feel stuck. But here’s the thing no one wants to say: 🧬 You can’t heal what isn’t yours until you SEE that it isn’t yours. Most people are running trauma loops they inherited. They’re holding grief that belongs to a grandmother they never met. They’re abandoning themselves over and over — not because they’re “not healed,” but because they’re loyal to an unspoken family contract that says: ✨ “Stay small so others don’t feel left behind.” ✨ “Don’t want too much — they couldn’t have it, so you shouldn’t either.” ✨ “Don’t shine. You’ll make someone uncomfortable.” I once worked with a woman who had done years of mindset coaching, therapy, and somatic work. She could quote every healing modality out there. But her business still wouldn’t grow. Her relationships still collapsed at the same point. And her body still held constant, low-grade panic. In one constellation session, we uncovered that she had unconsciously taken the place of a sibling who was stillborn — never spoken about, but energetically present. She had been living her entire life trying to make up for a space that was never acknowledged. And her nervous system? It was holding the grief of a mother who never got to mourn. ✨ One session, and she wept with recognition: “It was never mine.” And from that moment on - - her healing started to actually hold. 🌱 So no… You don’t need another layer of inner child work. You don’t need to “get over” your sabotage. You don’t need to push harder on your mindset. You need to include what’s been excluded. You need to see the system you were born into — and gently unhook from the stories that never belonged to you. Self-healing is sacred. But systemic liberation is foundational. This is the work I do. This is the work that sticks. Let’s stop circling and start unbinding. 🌀 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs