You Can't Heal What Isn't Yours Until You SEE That it Isn't yours

🌿 Popular Belief: “You just need to do more healing work to finally feel free.” 🔥 My Truth? Healing work without systemic inclusion is just another loop. We’ve been sold this idea that if we journal more, meditate more, cry more, process more — we’ll finally get to the root of why we sabotage, shut down, or feel stuck. But here’s the thing no one wants to say: 🧬 You can’t heal what isn’t yours until you SEE that it isn’t yours. Most people are running trauma loops they inherited. They’re holding grief that belongs to a grandmother they never met. They’re abandoning themselves over and over — not because they’re “not healed,” but because they’re loyal to an unspoken family contract that says: ✨ “Stay small so others don’t feel left behind.” ✨ “Don’t want too much — they couldn’t have it, so you shouldn’t either.” ✨ “Don’t shine. You’ll make someone uncomfortable.” I once worked with a woman who had done years of mindset coaching, therapy, and somatic work. She could quote every healing modality out there. But her business still wouldn’t grow. Her relationships still collapsed at the same point. And her body still held constant, low-grade panic. In one constellation session, we uncovered that she had unconsciously taken the place of a sibling who was stillborn — never spoken about, but energetically present. She had been living her entire life trying to make up for a space that was never acknowledged. And her nervous system? It was holding the grief of a mother who never got to mourn. ✨ One session, and she wept with recognition: “It was never mine.” And from that moment on - - her healing started to actually hold. 🌱 So no… You don’t need another layer of inner child work. You don’t need to “get over” your sabotage. You don’t need to push harder on your mindset. You need to include what’s been excluded. You need to see the system you were born into — and gently unhook from the stories that never belonged to you. Self-healing is sacred. But systemic liberation is foundational. This is the work I do. This is the work that sticks. Let’s stop circling and start unbinding. 🌀 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs