✨ Here’s Exactly What I Would Do If I Wanted to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Feeling Safe in My Own Life Again

✨ Here’s Exactly What I Would Do If I Wanted to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Feeling Safe in My Own Life Again Let’s be real — most people don’t even realize they’re self-sabotaging. They call it procrastination. Or perfectionism. Or burnout. They blame their schedule, their partner, their hormones, or their mindset. But here’s the truth: 👉🏽 Self-sabotage is often just loyalty to an old survival system that once kept you safe. You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re entangled. So if I wanted to stop repeating the same painful patterns and start building a life that actually felt like mine — here’s exactly what I’d do: 🌀 Step 1: I’d stop trying to fix myself — and start getting curious about who I’m being loyal to. Because behind every sabotaging pattern is a silent agreement with a parent, a culture, a system, or a story I didn’t choose — but still live by. 🌿 Step 2: I’d map the emotional inheritance. This is where I’d use family constellations to see what I couldn’t see before: Who was excluded? What truth was never spoken? What role did I step into as a child to keep love close? 🧬 Step 3: I’d work with my nervous system, not against it. I’d stop pushing for breakthroughs from a state of burnout. I’d create safety before I create strategy. Because the body will never let you become someone it doesn’t feel safe being. 🔥 Step 4: I’d bring the unconscious into the light — and break the invisible contract. I’d identify the outdated belief that says: “If I succeed, I betray someone.” “If I speak up, I’ll be abandoned.” “If I’m seen, I’ll be attacked.” And I’d release that bind — gently, somatically, and systemically. 🌺 Step 5: I’d start choosing from the version of me who already feels free — not the one who’s still proving her worth. And from there, everything shifts: Relationships. Work. Self-trust. Peace. ✨ This is exactly the kind of deep, liberating work I walk my clients through. Because you don’t need more hustle, more mindset hacks, or another strategy. You need to feel safe being fully you — for the first time in your life. 💌 If you’re ready for that kind of transformation — the kind that doesn’t just change your life, but your lineage —