Born of Courage

I now know the experiences I have been through are not just messages rather they are gifts and that I am to share them with others but first, I had to search deep to come to discover it within my own uniqueness.

 I knew that it would be turned into a book, series and workshop, it would not not get done. In his Ode: "Intimations of Immortality,” Words worth writes about shades of the prison-house” that begin to close. As children, “trailing clouds of glory,” we “behold the light,” but gradually we lose sight of its radiance. Then comes a time when the only light we behold is that of “common day,” and we feel cut adrift. No longer a carefree child, we begin to hold ourselves in check, censoring those wild impulses toward creativity.


 Sooner or later, this shift occurs in each of us, thrusting us upon a lifetime journey of discovering and expressing creative self.


 The life that urges us to create, however, can never be concealed or shut away forever. Ever present, it simply awaits our recognition and expression. It is our very nature and being. The deep envelops us, rises within us. 


And so, I made a vow to again surrender and allow myself to be use as a vehicle of expression for this message that needed to be created and delivered. In the next weeks of posts these message will be delivered.

Ruling Love, Ruling Interest, Ruling Hope

There are three primary centers, or, let us say, one primary center with two others branching from it that form the spring board for success in life. The primary impulse of our nature we call the ruling love. The supporting inclinations we name the ruling interest and the ruling hope. The form these feelings take indicates what we might describe as the height, breadth, and depth of our natures. But whatever they may be, to discover and foster their function is the best guarantee for a satisfying future. To ignore or defy them certainly threatens the well being of anyone...in other words “Who am I?”

            A useful way to get back into the truth of who you are is first to find your ruling love, someone thing in life that you know you love. You can have more than one, however, one is a great place to start. Question yourself. Do you love being on the water, or do you deeply love stars or trees? Do you truly love sunsets? Do you actually love music? Do you love gain more than anything else, or selling, or research, or homemaking? Make that one thing that is absolutely real to you your  intimate companion.

           After you have found your ruling love, you need to discover a ruling interest and a ruling hope to back up your ruling love. Our ruling love, ruling interest, and ruling hopes, if we fully realize them within ourselves, gradually build a center of spiritual strategy that will help us to deal with situation after situation in our lives.

Surrender

It is a tragic thing that we have made such enormous scientific advance without giving a similar calm attention to the other side of life - a wise, sane command of emotion. When we say, “I’ve tried that,” we do not always realize we are carrying literally lugging the same old negative resistance around with us. We may try emotional therapies, the image making process and yet claim “it doesn’t do anything.” And why is that? Because we carry the negative imagery right into it, our fear patterns, our angers and jealousies, and greeds.

 Our whole attention process is occupied with old injurious habit patterns. We are victims of our thoughts...so there is no answer without surrender. There is no solution without being willing to have it so. Only when we give up egotism and find our true identity can we receive this guidance. In other words simply put, the secret of calm lies in the relation of your stream of consciousness to the stream of destiny. Our future depends on how we handle that great life relationship, how we are meeting it moment by moment. Are we resistantly putting our ego demands on life? Or are we acceptingly searching out and putting our focus on the positive values of experience?

         Ask yourself this question: Do I accept life nonresistantly, and with love; or resist it with the power of my ego? In order to attain calm is to surrender what we call the power drives in our natures, the determination to dominate creation, or a better way of putting it, you must make use of the creative power within you to fulfill the ends of love and wisdom.

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Relationship Between Mind and Emotions

In this thing called LOVE there are two ways to go in... through the heart or back brain. The back brain is false love and true heart love is in heart. The relationship is a true childhood fit. Both are very deep unconscious attraction (I can’t get out) and the only  way to get around it is you have to find out who you are ...keeping the good qualities. What is affecting the behavior? You want to disconnect, however, what is the law of your unconscious? If you are living by others laws you fall in love with people and things that fit their programming.

 Heart or Back Brain Love…What Our Relationships Teach Us When you fall in love the ANF - factor stimulates hypothalamus to tell pituitary to create hormones to try true love. Back brain love - medulla- tells brain to produce endorphin love. This lasts any where from 9 months to 2 years...then its over. For example with endorphin love , you see a guy, you have the hots for him...reminds you of? This is back brain love (endorphin), and it is dysfunctional back brain love (childhood love).

In there must be acceptance of trials and difficulties connected with the chosen purpose, self-discipline to fulfill the need, and relaxation of all resistance to its requirements. Surrender is right only  if  you have first stopped to consider and to make your own being the measure of your choice. 

The whole philosophy of self-mastery, essential as it is,  is dangerous unless you build it on purposes that are fulfillment’s of your own nature. If we don’t do that we lose ourselves in wrong ways of life, and in abnormal duties. If we don’t refuse purposes that are unsuited to us, we become the victim of externalism.

Expose yourself

You never have to prove yourself ... all you need is to expose yourself. Truer words never spoken.In light of the recent activities and unfolding of Tiger Woods life I feel compelled to speak from my my truth, through the work I do with peak performers and athletes.

 All of us start with this inner conflict between the power drive and our inner nature. We all have a percentage of it. The stronger the personality, the more conflict there is between the love and power side of our nature. All that we do that is right and helpful for others, the whole foundation of a satisfying relation to your family, your wife, your husband, your friends, comes from the love side of your nature. But a determination to be dominant over others, to rule them, to decide how they shall live, is on the power side of self - deification. And until that is surrendered the protection of calm is denied to us.

It is in my personal opinion that what has happened and is happening to and in Tigers world has been coming for quite some time. He was raised by a very strong and powerful man with a military background. There may have never been much space for anything other than perfection. He seemed to always have to prove himself.  Perhaps, he could never just be who he really is.

When Tiger's father became unwell very few people knew this truth. There was a bit of disturbance in Tiger's performance. It was not always easy for him to get into the Zone. His values were shifting. In the work I do with athletes, assisting them in to the Zone, if there are any of the logical levels not aligned this cannot be attained. There are 7 steps into the Zone and if there is any conflict or any incongruence you cannot reach that ultimate state.

During Tigers fathers unwellness Tiger's values had to be shifting. How could they not? This was a man for good or bad whom he adored.Then came the passing of his father. Major shift. In some ways there would have to be moments of surrender and release. Tiger no longer had the pressure to perform up to his father's expectations but at the same time he had to learn to surrender to being his own person rather than who he had been raised to be BUT who was he? For the first time he may have faced this.

For a very short time the space may have been filled with his concern for his mother, his first child, the return to not only being in but Owning the Zone, pressure from media, sponsors, fans and if that were not enough then to learn of a second child coming may have pushed him into having to prove himself and be approved of in another way.

In speaking with male friends they tell me that when they have one child in their life they do not feel too left out but when another comes along shortly after the first they feel abandoned. There seems to be a need for a 3-4 year gap between the children. If not, the man may feel left out. It does not matter that a woman can afford a nanny, botox, liposuction, the best of the best. The man still feels left out.Call it being human.

The great poem of struggle of Prometheus and Epimetheus presents the temptation of the power side of human nature. It speaks of the inner urge we have toward spiritual expansion, and the constant conflicts our egos present in the desire to dominate the lives of others. Richard Strauss has put it into music and so has Listz in Les Preludes and so has Jan Arden in Insensitive

It is the basis of Greek tragedies, the spiritual center of Dante’s Divine Comedy. In his visit to Heaven and Hell, in the poem, Dante presents the two sides of human nature - the superconscious and the subconscious.

This is how I assist performers and athletes. In making the unconscious conscious. It is removing the psychological idea you carry about you. The beliefs that are not yours but rather the ones you have been subjected to by others. Those beliefs do not fit you but rather they are your ball and chain. I assist people in releasing that ball and chain so for the first time they have access to their own beliefs.In accessing your own beliefs you can create what is true for you - your truth - not the truth. That is true release.

In order to release some of this pressure he may have rebelled against all he suppressed for so many years.

We all have shadows. We all need the light to expose the dark. If we do not know how, then the universal intelligence and wisdom that flows through us will. It is for our best and highest good. It may not feel that way when we are in the eye of the storm but when everything settles it is nothing short of miraculous.

And so, when we have had a long history with someone, or something it is often challenging to release that relationship, perhaps person or position from our lives and yet, if we want something good to come into our life, we have to make a space for it.

Just like you, Tiger and his wife Elin is a valuable person. Tiger, Elin can design and create their own life, and they deserve the best that life has to offer! First, they must make surrender to exposing themselves rather than having to prove themselves and then accept space for it to happen ... Space is being created. How will Tiger fill it? How will his Elin, how will YOU?

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Wild Impulses

 When I first separated from my now x husband I was tested in many ways. The largest test was for me ... would I shrink back. Would I go against what I knew was not for my or my daughters' highest good. Would I return to what was no longer me. Or would I find the courage to peel off the layers and have the courage to create the new.

Alone I spent 3 weeks in a cottage in northern Saskatchewan (a return to my roots:) It was amazing. Every night I watched the northern lights swirl and paint spectacular colors across the sky while they talked to me through whispers and song leaving me wrapped in arms of heavenly protection.

 It was a very powerfully transforming time. One night I had a very powerful dream that awoke me in the middle of the night. Writing down what the dream told me, then waking up 7 hours later and reviewing what I wrote was an epiphany. 

I now knew the message was a gift and that I was to share it with others but first, I had to search deep to come to discover it within my own uniqueness. I knew that it would be turned into a series and workshop,  it would not not get done.

In his “Ode: Intimations of Immortality,” Words worth writes about shades of the prison-house” that begin to close. As children, “trailing clouds of glory,” we “behold the light,” but gradually we lose sight of its radiance. Then comes a time when the only light we behold is that of “common day,” and we feel cut adrift. No longer a carefree child, we begin to hold ourselves in check, censoring those wild impulses toward creativity. Sooner or later, this shift occurs in each of us, thrusting us upon a lifetime journey of discovering and expressing creative self.

The life that urges us to create, however, can never be concealed or shut away forever. Ever present, it simply awaits our recognition and expression. It is our very  nature and being. The deep envelops us, rises within us. And so, I made a vow to again surrender and allow myself to be use as a vehicle of expression for this message that needed to be created and delivered.