“Here’s What I’d Do to Stop Shrinking and Start Leading From My Deep Truth”

Here’s exactly what I would do if I wanted to stop repeating the same sabotaging pattern and finally step into the truth of who I am. This is for the woman who’s done the work. The healing. The journaling. The affirmations. The therapy. And yet— She still finds herself shut down, shrinking, shape-shifting, or lashing out when it matters most. Here’s how I would approach it, step-by-step: 1. I would stop trying to fix myself. You are not broken. You are loyal. Loyal to a system, a motherline, or an unconscious belief that’s running the show behind the scenes. This isn’t about “more healing.” It’s about revealing. 2. I would pay attention to my language. Language is the keyhole to the hidden room. What you say — especially on repeat — reveals what you're unconsciously committed to. “I don’t know…” “I’m fine…” “I always mess it up…” Each phrase carries a contract. I decode these phrases to track the pattern that’s really in charge. 3. I would map the system I’m entangled in. There’s always a system. A mother you still feel loyal to. A father you never got to grieve. A grandmother whose silence you’ve inherited. I use systemic constellations to reveal the invisible loyalties you’re entangled in — and bring the truth to light. 4. I would shift from coping to choosing. Most of us aren’t choosing — we’re surviving. Once the pattern is revealed and the entanglement is loosened, you get to choose differently. With clarity. With power. With soul. 5. I would reconnect to Source, truth, and self. This is the moment you stop betraying yourself to belong. You stop reaching outward to be seen. And start rooting into the woman you already are — the one who never left. This is where your voice returns. This is where you lead from. This is the exact journey I walk my clients through. From silence to sovereignty. From self-sabotage to self-trust. From the echo of the past… to the embodiment of truth. Ready to decode what’s really driving your pattern? Send me a DM and let’s begin. Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks Love and soul hugs