The thalamus (limbic) tells hypothalamus (heart representative), tells the pituitary you’re in love and you then secret hormones of love. If you are dominated by your back brain the person you should have loved, you will not like (until you have grown into your new self...you will fall in love with your old self-made up of genetics.
When you’re in CAT you accept reality.
If you are in CIA you accept fantasy, even if you are 40 (i.e.) you’re inner child falls in love with boy you sat beside in grade school. You are constantly living in the past. These memories should become living books...keep them on the shelf in the library.
We want to take off warriors suit (we are not at war)...if you keep your warriors suit on you’ll attract warriors. It is when you take off the warriors suit you will attract peaceful people. People sense when we are in survival and so they put on survival suit so they can be around you.
So ... ask yourself do I attract people out of my CIA or CAT? Am I living in reality or fantasy which means it is inevitable that one day I will go through a very large awakening that will be very painful?