Still Circling the Same Pattern? Ready to Get Off the Not so Merry - Go - Round?

🔥 The Real Reason You Keep “Doing the Work” But Still Feel Like You’re Circling the Same Pattern Let’s talk about the most common challenge I’ve been seeing lately in session after session: ✨ High-functioning, self-aware women (and men too) come to me saying: “I’ve done the therapy. I’ve read the books. I’ve processed my childhood. I’ve forgiven. So why does it still feel like I’m looping the same emotional story — no matter how much I heal?” Why do they still: Shrink in the presence of their own power? Feel emotionally invisible in relationships? Numb out instead of setting boundaries? Sabotage just as something finally starts to open? Here’s the truth: ➡️ It’s not that you haven’t done enough. ➡️ It’s not that you need more self-discipline. ➡️ And it’s definitely not that you’re broken. It’s that your loyalty to an outdated emotional system is still running the show. 🧬 What’s Actually Going On Most of what you call “blocks” or “sabotage” are actually acts of unconscious loyalty to someone in your lineage. You’re not just repeating your own patterns — You’re carrying unfinished emotional stories from your mother. Your grandmother. Or a forgotten woman in your bloodline who didn’t get to have a voice, freedom, rest, or love. You’ve unknowingly inherited beliefs like: “If I shine, I’ll be alone.” “If I succeed, I’m betraying someone who never got the chance.” “If I set boundaries, I won’t belong.” “If I receive too much, someone else will suffer.” They’re not thoughts. They’re contracts. Invisible, inherited, and deeply encoded into your nervous system. ✨ So What Do We Do? We don’t mindset our way out of this. We go to the root: 🌀 In my work, I guide clients through: Systemic Constellations to map out and untangle generational dynamics Self-Sabotage Liberation to identify and break unconscious family contracts Nervous System Integration to build real, embodied safety in your truth Because you can’t evolve past a pattern you’re still protecting. And when we finally release the entanglement — The clarity comes. The weight lifts. The relationship shifts. The soul starts to move again. 💌 If this feels like your life… If you’ve done the healing and still feel like you’re living on emotional repeat — It’s time to stop managing the symptoms and liberate the system. Remember: You’re not circling because you’re weak — You’re circling because you’re loyal. Let’s give that loyalty back — with love — So you can finally move forward in your life. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Sunday, June 1st- New Podcast Series on Collitalks Transformative Conversations "You Cannot Compete With Your Younger Self" @ copyright Colli K Christante

Sunday, June 1st- New Podcast Series on Collitalks Transformative Conversations "You Cannot Compete With Your Younger Self" @ copyright Colli K Christante

Still Stuck in the Same pattern - - No Matter How much Work You've Done? Here's Why

💥 Still stuck in the same pattern — no matter how much work you’ve done? Here’s why. You’ve done therapy. You’ve journaled, meditated, vision-boarded, hired the coach, burned the sage, read the books. You’re self-aware. You can name the pattern. But nothing really changes. You feel like you’re dancing around the root, just managing your pain instead of clearing it. And you wonder, what am I missing? 👉🏽 Here’s the game-changing perspective that blows my clients’ minds every time: You’re not self-sabotaging. You’re staying loyal. To your mother’s silence. To your father’s anger. To the ancestor who never got justice. To the system that said: stay small and you’ll be safe. 🧬 What most people miss — and what I specialize in — is this: Most patterns don’t begin with you. They begin in the system. In the unspoken grief, shame, betrayal, or fear that’s been passed down through generations — and now lives in your nervous system like it belongs there. 💥 Here’s the shift: You don’t need more mindset work. You need to see the contract you didn’t know you signed. And when I guide clients through my work — whether it's Family Constellations or my Self-Sabotage Freedom Process — they often realize, "This pattern isn’t mine. I’m carrying it for someone else." And just like that… The grip loosens. The sabotage ends. The energy returns. The freedom begins. 🌀 If you want to break free, you can’t just upgrade your thoughts — You have to liberate the part of you that’s still protecting someone else’s pain. That’s where I come in. 📩 DM me “LOYALTY” if you’re ready to stop calling it sabotage — and finally set yourself free. Because you were never broken. You were just trying to belong. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

When People Ask What's it Like to Work With Me ...

🎭✨ What’s it like to work with me? Imagine deep soul work… with a side of dark memes and a whole lot of liberation. Let’s be honest — doing inner work can feel heavy. But with me? We don’t just dig deep — we laugh, we cry, we swear, we shift. I bring reverence and irreverence into the same room. Because healing doesn’t have to be stiff or sacred-only — it can be soulful AND wildly human. I’ve been told I’m like 🔮 a spiritual detective 🪄 a loving truth-slap 💀 and your funniest dark meme friend rolled into one. We go there. We uncover what’s been hiding in your lineage, your patterns, your bones. We find the invisible loyalty that’s been sabotaging your life — and we give it love, clarity, and the exit door. 🌀 As Gayle said after a session: “I saw things I didn’t even know were blocking me. Now I finally understand why I couldn’t bring my vision into physical reality.” 💥 And L.S. shared: “There were things in me I had no idea were running the show… It’s completely changed the way I look at my family and myself. I felt an enormous weight lifted. Mind-boggling!!” And here’s the secret: It works because we meet the heaviness with truth, safety, and even play. We don’t bypass. We don’t sugarcoat. But we don’t drown in it either. 🖤 I’ll probably send you a dark humor meme after you realize your sabotage pattern isn’t even yours. 🧬 I’ll help you track it back to the system, name it, feel it — and release it. 🕊️ And I’ll hold you the whole way through it. Because this isn’t just therapy. This is a return to your soul. And if we can laugh while reclaiming your power? That’s sacred too. 💌 Ready to experience it for yourself? DM me “SHIFT ME” and let’s get to the root — with soul, with safety, and maybe even a wickedly funny meme along the way.

3 Archetypes I See Most Often in My Work

🔥 The 3 Archetypes I See Most Often in My Work (Which one are you holding inside you?) Over the years, I’ve noticed a powerful pattern in the people who come to me — different stories, same root. Here are the 3 core archetypes I often meet in my work — women and men who are carrying more than their share, trying to fix what was never theirs, and are finally ready to come home to themselves. ✨ 1. The Silent Shape-Shifter You’ve spent your whole life being who others needed you to be. You’re the strong one. The responsible one. The one who holds it all together. But underneath that is a deep exhaustion… and a buried longing to just be. You don’t know who you are without performing. Your nervous system is wired for survival. And the thought of putting yourself first? Feels almost dangerous. What you need: To be witnessed — not fixed. To learn how to create safety in your body, not just in your mind. To release the loyalty to those who needed you to stay small in order to be loved. 🔥 2. The Loud Achiever, Quietly Breaking Inside On paper, you’re doing great. You’re successful. Capable. Respected. But there’s a voice inside that never shuts up. “You’re still not enough.” “No one sees the real you.” You’re burning out chasing validation that never sticks — and self-sabotaging the very things you say you want. What you need: To uncover the root agreement you made with your family system that says: “If I’m powerful, I’ll be punished.” “If I succeed, I’ll be alone.” To unravel those beliefs — and replace them with ones your soul actually agrees with. 🌿 3. The Healer Who Can’t Heal Themselves You’ve done the work. You’re trauma-informed, self-aware, maybe even a practitioner yourself. But there’s still something… stuck. Some grief that won’t lift. Some pattern that keeps repeating. It’s maddening — because you should know better. What you need: To stop trying to outsmart the system — and start feeling what lives beneath it. To see what’s been hidden in your family field — the silence, the secrets, the exclusions. To heal at the soul level, not just the cognitive one. 🌀 This is what I do. Whether I’m guiding you through a family constellation, decoding your sabotage patterns, or bringing ancestral truths to light — my work is rooted in liberation. Not surface change. Not mental gymnastics. But deep, cellular, generational freedom. ✨ When we work together, we: — Identify the invisible loyalty or trauma loop that’s running the show — Bring it into the light with compassion and clarity — Create space for the real YOU to emerge — grounded, powerful, and whole 💌 If you saw yourself in one of these — DM me “REMEMBER” Let’s talk about how to finally stop carrying what isn’t yours… and start becoming who you actually are. Because your truth is still there. It’s just waiting for you to turn around and say: I see you now. I’m ready.

✨ Here’s Exactly What I Would Do If I Wanted to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Feeling Safe in My Own Life Again

✨ Here’s Exactly What I Would Do If I Wanted to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Feeling Safe in My Own Life Again Let’s be real — most people don’t even realize they’re self-sabotaging. They call it procrastination. Or perfectionism. Or burnout. They blame their schedule, their partner, their hormones, or their mindset. But here’s the truth: 👉🏽 Self-sabotage is often just loyalty to an old survival system that once kept you safe. You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re entangled. So if I wanted to stop repeating the same painful patterns and start building a life that actually felt like mine — here’s exactly what I’d do: 🌀 Step 1: I’d stop trying to fix myself — and start getting curious about who I’m being loyal to. Because behind every sabotaging pattern is a silent agreement with a parent, a culture, a system, or a story I didn’t choose — but still live by. 🌿 Step 2: I’d map the emotional inheritance. This is where I’d use family constellations to see what I couldn’t see before: Who was excluded? What truth was never spoken? What role did I step into as a child to keep love close? 🧬 Step 3: I’d work with my nervous system, not against it. I’d stop pushing for breakthroughs from a state of burnout. I’d create safety before I create strategy. Because the body will never let you become someone it doesn’t feel safe being. 🔥 Step 4: I’d bring the unconscious into the light — and break the invisible contract. I’d identify the outdated belief that says: “If I succeed, I betray someone.” “If I speak up, I’ll be abandoned.” “If I’m seen, I’ll be attacked.” And I’d release that bind — gently, somatically, and systemically. 🌺 Step 5: I’d start choosing from the version of me who already feels free — not the one who’s still proving her worth. And from there, everything shifts: Relationships. Work. Self-trust. Peace. ✨ This is exactly the kind of deep, liberating work I walk my clients through. Because you don’t need more hustle, more mindset hacks, or another strategy. You need to feel safe being fully you — for the first time in your life. 💌 If you’re ready for that kind of transformation — the kind that doesn’t just change your life, but your lineage —

The Missing Ingredient Isn't Strategy - - It's Safety

🔥 The Missing Ingredient Isn’t Strategy — It’s Safety. 🧬 Everyone’s racing to fix the problem. Heal the trauma. Call in the partner. Grow the business. Set the boundaries. Find their purpose. Speak their truth. But here’s the thing no one’s saying: You can’t sustain the life you’re trying to create if your nervous system still believes that being fully YOU is unsafe. 💣 Let that sink in. Because most people come to me thinking they need another tool, another plan, another mindset hack… But what they’re actually missing is the inner foundation — The felt sense of safety in their body to be seen, to take up space, to say no, to receive love, to stop performing and start living. And here’s where it gets wild: Most of what blocks that safety isn’t even yours. It’s inherited. Systemic. Unconscious. It’s your mother’s silence. Your father’s fear. It’s the emotional loyalty you’ve carried your whole life without realizing it. You’ve tried to push forward — but your body pulls you back. That’s not self-sabotage. That’s protection. 🌀 This is why nothing sticks. You can script your boundaries, repeat your affirmations, launch the thing, go to therapy… But if your internal system still links success, love, visibility, or freedom to danger? You’ll sabotage it. You’ll shrink. You’ll find a way to stay small — because small once meant safe. 🌿 This is the missing piece. This is what I guide my clients into: A deep untangling of systemic trauma, hidden family patterns, and emotional contracts they never consciously agreed to — So they can finally stop managing their wounds and start embodying their wholeness. Not later. Not when they’ve “fixed” enough. Now. 💌 If you’re tired of skipping ahead and still feeling like nothing is working, DM me “SAFETY” and I’ll share the first step to returning to the truth of who you are. Because you don’t need to do more. You need to feel safe being more. That’s the real work. And it changes everything. 🔥