Harsh Truth: Healing Isn't Always Gentle - - It's Grief Work in Disquise

🔥 Harsh Truth: Healing Isn’t Always Gentle — It’s Grief Work in Disguise You and I both know… The personal development world is obsessed with the light. Love and light. Manifest and move on. High vibes only. Vision boards and vagueness. But here’s the harsh truth no one wants to say out loud: ✨ You cannot heal what you refuse to grieve. Most women aren’t “stuck” because they haven’t journaled hard enough or saged their house. They’re stuck because they’ve never been shown how to honor their grief… their rage… their heartbreak. They’ve spiritualized their pain. They’ve intellectualized their trauma. They’ve bypassed the actual wound in the name of “positivity.” And yet — they still feel like something is missing. Because something is. This industry sells the high. But what I help women reclaim is their depth — and that means going back to where they first abandoned themselves. ⚡ Your inability to speak your truth? Not a mindset issue. It’s a loyalty to the women in your line who silenced themselves to survive. 🌊 Your constant burnout? Not poor time management. It’s the invisible labor of carrying generations of unmet needs. 💔 Your struggle to feel “good enough”? Not a confidence issue. It’s the echo of your mother’s unspoken grief — still living in your body. I don’t do anything with or for my clients that I haven’t walked through myself. And I know this is what breaks the spell. Because this was my mother’s truth. Francis gave up her voice, her truth, and her connection to Source in order to belong. To be loved by my father. And I unconsciously inherited that survival strategy — until I broke the cycle. Now, I help women see, include, and acknowledge what’s been silenced, so they can lead, love, and live in the now — no cord cutting, no bypassing. Just truth. 💥 The world doesn’t need more “high-vibe” women. It needs whole women. Rooted women. Honest women. Grieving, rising, sovereign women. That’s who I serve. That’s who I help rebirth. And if you’re feeling the pull — you already know this message was meant for you. 🕊️

The Real Reason Your Healing Isn't Working (and What to Do Instead)

💔 The Real Reason Your Healing Isn’t Working (and What to Do Instead) If you’ve tried talk therapy, journaling, or cutting cords with toxic people — and you’re still carrying the same weight — you’re not alone. Most women I work with have done all the things: ✅ Read the self-help books ✅ Said the affirmations ✅ Attended the yoga classes ✅ Tried to “just let it go” But deep down, they’re still locked in a silent loyalty to pain — especially pain that was passed down from their mothers. You see, there’s a bandaid that so many spiritual women are taught to use: “Just forgive and move on.” But what happens when your nervous system won’t let you? When your body remembers what your mind tries to forget? When silence feels safer than truth? Here’s the truth: Most women aren’t broken — they’re entangled. They’ve inherited the unspoken trauma, grief, and sacrifice of generations of women who had no choice but to survive by disappearing. They gave up their voice to be loved. They gave up their truth to belong. They gave up their dreams to be a “good” daughter, wife, or mother. ✨ This was true for me. My mother, Francis, gave up her voice, her truth, and even her connection to Source to belong… to be loved by my father. And in doing so, she unknowingly passed that pattern down to me — until I chose to break it. But healing doesn’t come from cutting cords — It comes from seeing, acknowledging, and including all parts of your story, even the ones that feel too messy or “unspiritual.” 🌹 Use this reframe the next time you feel stuck in resentment, guilt, or silence: Instead of asking: ✨ “How do I forgive them?” Ask: 💥 “What am I still carrying that was never mine to hold?” That’s where we begin. I don’t ask my clients to do anything I haven’t done. I walk this path with you — not above you. And as I expand into workshops this season, especially around Mother’s Day, I want to call in the women who are done trying to fix themselves and are ready to finally free themselves — in body, soul, and lineage. 🕊️ If this stirred something in you, you’re not broken. You’re remembering. And I’m here to guide you back to your voice. The one that never left you — just waited for the right moment to rise. 💬 Tell me — what are you still carrying?

Your Confidence Isn't Missing ... It's Hidden Beneath Hidden Loyalties

✨ When people come to me looking for clarity, confidence, or the courage to take the next step in life or business… What they typically don’t realize they need is to finally see and acknowledge the hidden loyalties, emotional entanglements, and unresolved pain they’ve inherited from their family system. 🧬💔🌑 They think their problem is: — Not feeling “ready” 🤷‍♀️ — Fear of failure or visibility 😨 — Trouble trusting themselves 🤔 — Lack of confidence in their voice, offer, or direction 💬🚫 But what’s really going on? 💥 They’re unconsciously loyal to the suffering that came before them. 🪶 They’re carrying emotional weight that isn’t even theirs. 🔁 They’re repeating patterns not because they’re broken… but because they’re bonded. You’re not stuck because you don’t know what to do. You’re stuck because your nervous system believes that healing, success, and joy — would mean betraying someone you love. 🧡🕊️ And until you see that, no amount of mindset work, business strategy, or manifestation hacks will get you free. 🔒➡️🗝️ 🌿 I don’t teach people how to cut cords. I teach them how to include, acknowledge, and honor what’s been abandoned — so they can lead, love, and live in the now. 🌺👣💞 And I want you to know this: I do not offer anything to my clients that I haven’t walked through myself. 🙏💫 This is not theory. This is embodied. My work is born from my own healing, my own breakdowns and breakthroughs. 🌊🔥🌈 If you feel like you’ve “tried everything” and still end up back in the same cycles, it’s time to look deeper. 👁️🧭 This is the work I do — and it’s the kind of work that sets your soul free. 🕊️✨ Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

What Parts of Yourself Had to Die in Order for You to be Loved?

🔥 What parts of yourself had to die in order for you to be “loved”? Was it your voice? Your truth? Your boundaries? Your joy? Most of us learned early that in order to belong, we had to betray ourselves. And now, as adults, we call that betrayal personality. You think you’re just “low maintenance”… But really, you were taught not to have needs. You think you’re “independent”… But really, you learned no one would come for you. You think you're just "a hard worker"... But really, you've been running from the pain of being unseen. 💥 Here's the kicker: The very identity that helped you survive is now the same one blocking you from thriving. But what if your nervous system could learn something new? What if you could include all the parts of you that were exiled… without burning your life down? What if “healing” wasn’t about cutting cords, but about reconnecting to what’s real? 🖤 I don’t do surface work. I work with the soul of the system — the invisible loyalties, ancestral grief, and patterns of sabotage that have you stuck in loops. So let me ask you again: What part of you are you still sacrificing to stay loved, safe, or chosen? And is it finally time to break the contract? 👇 I’d love to hear your answer.

The Harmful Healing Industry Lie: "The Work is Never Done"

🚨 The Harmful Healing Industry Lie: “The Work Is Never Done” Here’s the biggest trap I see in the healing world: 👉🏽 The idea that healing is a never-ending journey. If you’re still triggered, stuck, tired, or doubting, the assumption is you must need more healing. Another retreat. Another program. Another rabbit hole. You stay busy “fixing” yourself… While the industry keeps making money off your belief that you’re broken. But here’s what no one tells you: Healing isn’t about endless digging. It’s about finally seeing what you were never shown. It’s about including what’s been excluded. It’s about acknowledging the deeper truths buried in your lineage, in your body, in your story. The danger of this lie? ✨ It keeps you in survival mode — thinking you need to earn peace. ✨ It traps you in identity-based healing: “I’m healing from XYZ” becomes a full-time job. ✨ It bypasses the invisible contracts and hidden loyalties running your life from the family field. What people think they need: ❌ To cut the cords. ❌ To be “better healed.” ❌ To prove they’re spiritually evolved. What they actually need: ✅ To be gently guided to see, include, and acknowledge what’s been left behind. ✅ To let the hidden stories rise to the surface, so they can finally be witnessed — not erased. ✅ To come into right relationship with the past… So they can lead, love, and live fully in the now. This is what I do. I don’t teach endless healing loops. I guide you home to what’s been waiting to be seen — and I do it through systemic trauma resolution, self-sabotage recovery, and family constellations work. You’re not broken. You’re bound. And freedom doesn’t come from cutting away the past — it comes from welcoming it back into wholeness. 🌀 When you remember who you were before survival taught you to forget — everything changes. Ready to meet yourself there?

Guiding Principle: I Don't Build From Survival. I Build From Soul

✨ Guiding Principle: I don’t build from survival. I build from soul. For a long time, everything I created — relationships, work, even healing — came from a place of survival. Hyper-independence. Perfectionism. Pleasing. Proving. Producing. 🔥 That version of me knew how to achieve — but didn’t know how to receive. She could hold everyone else — but not herself. And her business? It was driven by “not enough,” “too much,” and “don’t mess it up.” Until I burned it all down. Walked away. Sat with the wreckage. And chose to rebuild from my nervous system, from my lineage, from my soul. 🌿 Now my business is built differently. I refuse to bypass the body to chase the bag. I won’t sell a quick fix when I know the roots run deeper. I don’t coach for compliance — I guide for liberation. And I don’t push people to hustle — I help them unhook from patterns they never chose. This guiding principle matters because you can’t build a life of freedom from a foundation of fear. And if your business, your purpose, or your healing path is still being driven by old trauma coding… you’ll burn out before you break through. Or worse — succeed and still feel empty. In my world, we rewire the root. We slow down to break cycles. We honor your nervous system. We call your soul back into the room. And then? We build something that actually feels like YOU. This isn’t for everyone. But it is for the ones who are done performing healing, and ready to embody it. The ones who want their business to feel like truth — not trauma. ✨ If that’s you, welcome to the revolution. Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks. Love and soul hugs

🧠 Popular belief:“Mindset work is the key to breaking through self-sabotage.”⚡ New paradigm:Mindset work is out. Nervous system + ancestral trauma repair is in.

🧠 Popular belief: “Mindset work is the key to breaking through self-sabotage.” ⚡ New paradigm: Mindset work is out. Nervous system + ancestral trauma repair is in. If you’re a high-achieving woman trying to “think your way out” of repeating patterns… here’s why mindset work is the last thing you need. 🧩 Because no amount of affirmations will override a nervous system wired for chaos. No vision board will protect you from the unconscious loyalty you have to your mother’s suffering. And no self-help book will break the generational pattern if your soul still believes that betraying your lineage means losing love. 💔 💥 Ever wonder why people keep doing the exact opposite of what they say they want? They’re not lazy. They’re not broken. They’re LOYAL. To unspoken family trauma. To childhood survival codes. To pain that became familiar. To success feeling unsafe because it means leaving someone behind. 🌀 I once worked with a woman who had done all the coaching. Inner child work ✅ Journaling ✅ Money mindset masterclasses ✅ But no matter how much she earned, she sabotaged every launch. Why? Because in her family, women who made money were shamed — or isolated. Making money meant becoming “other.” Becoming “alone.” And unconsciously, that was a death sentence. Once we mapped the family system and brought the pattern into the light, she wept. And her body exhaled. 👉 “I never realized I was trying to stay loyal to women who suffered.” That was her moment. And her launch tripled the next month — without a single new strategy. ⚠️ Here’s the real issue: Most mainstream coaching still treats sabotage like a mindset problem. But the root is deeper. Soul deep. Systemic. Generational. And unless you heal that, you’ll stay trapped in the loop. 🔥 My work with systemic trauma, family constellations, and sabotage isn’t about fixing you. It’s about freeing you from the invisible contracts keeping you stuck. Forget about rewiring your mindset. Start re-aligning your soul. 🕊️ You’re not broken. You’re just wired to survive. And now it’s time to remember how to live. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs