How Should We Set Our Goals?

How should we set our goals?”


The first thing to understand is that you are in this situation because of your present state of self. Your beliefs, your personality, your behavior, have made you in this present state of reality. If at all you want to change your situation, you must set a goal to change yourself first; you must change the state of yourself. In changing your belief systems your accepted reality changes, and when this is changed the outer changes automatically. So the fact is that the outer goal is secondary, the inner is the most important thing. If ever you want to change the outer reality or achieve some outer goal, first start with the self. Only then you will know what effortless achievement is.


For a long time effort has been introduced to us by many speakers and psychologists, simply because they believed that in order for the self to change, the outer must change first; some even consider that the self has nothing to do with the outer. This is why they have always emphasized effort and propagated struggle. You must understand, this struggle and hardship is not with the outside, it is because the self (the reality creator) can't be changed.


What I am discussing with you seems to be difficult but actually it is not. Remember, stop wishing and start seeing that which you are, and see that which you are is the same as your reality. Also remember that the self is not fixed, it is changeable. If you dare to go beyond the self and see that it’s not actually you, that you are something transcendental, then almost everything you want is possible, all goals are achieved; not by maddening effort but by spontaneous creation.

Demystify this thing

Over the many years I have been a coach one of the things I hear the most is "I don't know what I want so I will just settle for ????

My answer is we need to demystify this thing. For example the wine world reminds me a great deal of the art world. Far too many people feel unqualified to create art, insisting that they are not "the creative type." But when we leave art only to the artists we lose touch with our own artfulness, our own creativity and inventiveness, and block a portal through which we gain vigor and intelligence can make their way to us. We distance ourselves from art when we professionalize it, just as we disassociate from our own healing powers when we place total responsibility for healing only in the hands of a healer. This creates a system in which we do all the suffering and healers do all the healing.

We all possess creativity, however, although we may not all have the courage to act on it.

If you make discerning your callings your priority, then the "quality" of  your creative efforts is determined by how honest they are, how true, the EXPRESSIONS are to your INNER EXPRESSIONS. It is not determined by popularity, or marketability, or technique, or talent. Think of yourself as having a genius in the original sense of the word, which meant having a genie, a guardian spirit, which everyone possesses - even animals.