My Personal

🔓 My Personal 3-Step Process for Ending Professional Self-Sabotage I want to share a pattern I lived in for decades: I was great at building incredible projects, getting featured on podcast,magazines and connecting with elite clients... but every time I reached a certain level of success, I would unconsciously self-sabotage my health or finances. I was always climbing a mountain, but the mountain always felt exhausting. I genuinely believed struggle was the price of success. But once I dedicated myself to tracing this systemic pattern, I realized the struggle wasn’t my destiny—it was a Hidden Loyalty. Here are the three core, non-negotiable steps I had to take to finally break that cycle and permanently end my own professional self-sabotage: Step 1: Locate the Hidden Loyalty (The Unconscious Vow) I had to stop treating the symptoms (like overworking, procrastination, or spending habits) and become a Detective of my own patterns. I discovered I was carrying an inherited vow that said: "If I succeed easily, I abandon my family who struggled." My success was directly connected to their pain. The Shift: I stopped looking at my behavior as a personal flaw and started seeing it as a systemic commitment. This shift takes the shame away and gives you a clear target for healing. Step 2: Trace the Systemic Root (The Foundational Healing) Willpower and affirmations were useless against this deep, inherited blueprint. I realized I needed a method to speak the language of my body, not just my mind. For me, that meant using Family Constellations to actually see the loyalty in action. The Shift: We aren't healing something that happened to us; we are healing something that happened in the family system. Once I saw the root event that caused the original trauma, I was able to gently release my obligation to repeat the pattern. Step 3: Integrate the New Pattern (The Congruent Life) The final step is integrating the nervous system. After disconnecting from the loyalty, my body still expected loss and rejection. I had to consciously, consistently choose success—not as a hustle, but as a safe, deserved outcome. The Shift: This is where we rewire the fear-based fight/flight/freeze response. My body and soul finally became congruent—what I consciously desired (success) now matched what my nervous system subconsciously accepted (safety). If you’ve recognized yourself in this story—if you know you’re constantly holding yourself back out of a deeply rooted, unseen loyalty—then you are ready to finally end that cycle. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Releasing Inherited Pain - How Family Constellations Free the Soul

Welcome back to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations ✨, the supportive space where we gently explore the wounds that hold the key to our greatest potential 🔑. I'm your host, Colli Christante, Doctor in Integrated Systemic Trauma, and a Detective of Hidden Wounds. Today, we are diving into a topic that is profoundly moving and necessary for true freedom: Releasing Inherited Pain: How Family Constellations Free the Soul. Have you ever felt like you’re carrying a weight that doesn't belong to you? A pattern of self-sabotage, struggle, or fear that seems to have no logical origin in your own life? That's the signature of inherited pain ⛓️—the unconscious contracts and loyalties we carry for our family lineage. In this supportive episode, we’re going to tenderly explore the systemic burdens—the Hidden Loyalties—that unconsciously govern your decisions, your finances, and your happiness. We’ll gently shine a light on 💡 how this unseen inheritance impacts your nervous system and keeps you stuck in cycles that aren't even yours. Join me as we unravel the mysteries of the mind, body, and spirit, offering fresh perspectives on the art of transformation through Family Constellations. It’s time to stop unconsciously serving the past. This is your opportunity to mend those broken connections, break free from inherited struggle, and allow your soul to finally be free. 🕊️ Let’s begin.

Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

You'll Never End Self-Sabotage Until You Have These 3 Things In Place

If you’re stuck in a cycle of frustration—making progress only to pull yourself back—the problem isn't discipline. It's an unresolved loyalty buried deep in your system. To finally break free and step into your fullest potential, you need to deliberately establish these three core elements: 1. The Willingness to Be the "Black Sheep" (The Courage to Disconnect) Self-sabotage is rarely about you. It’s often a Hidden Loyalty—a subconscious promise to stay small, broke, or sick to belong to your original family system. You must be willing to emotionally risk rejection, exclusion, or separation from the 'collective' (the family or culture that birthed your pain). The Problem: Your nervous system equates success with abandonment. The Solution: You must consciously choose your highest destiny over the safety of the herd. 2. The Map to the Root Cause (Systemic Clarity) You can't solve an ancient, inherited pattern with modern motivation techniques. Trying to 'think positively' or use willpower on a systemic issue is exhausting. You need a map to trace the trauma back to its origin. The Problem: You’re treating the symptom (the sabotage) instead of the inherited blueprint (the Systemic Trauma). The Solution: You need a methodology like Family Constellations to detect the exact moment and source of the wound so you can heal it at the root, not the branch. 3. The Language of the Subconscious (New Programming) The self-sabotage pattern is a highly successful program running in the background. To override it, you must communicate with your body and mind in a language it understands—the language of felt experience, emotion, and congruent action. The Problem: You are consciously asking for success while your nervous system is programmed for flight, fight, or freeze. The Solution: You must engage in deep work that integrates the unintegrated emotional responses and rewires your self-talk into a vibration of worthiness and acceptance. Invitation: If you are ready to be the Detective of Your Own Patterns and shift from frustration to lasting freedom, then you are ready for my systemic approach. Send me a DM with the word "DETECTIVE" to apply for a complimentary Breakthrough Session. #ColliChristante #SelfSabotage #HiddenLoyalties #FamilyConstellations #BreakCycles #SystemicTrauma #ReclaimYourPower

The Power of Your Next Step

✨ The Power of Your Next Step ✨ Life never stands still — - it keeps moving, inviting you to evolve, release, and begin again. 🌿 You can either stay anchored in what has already happened… or choose to rise 🌅 to move forward 💫 to meet the next version of yourself that’s waiting. We all stumble. We all fall. But every mistake, every heartbreak, every pause — it’s all part of your becoming. 🌸 The past can’t be rewritten, but its meaning can be transformed. The lesson is the gift. 💛 The moment you choose to respond with awareness instead of self-judgment — everything begins to shift. Your response — not the old story your mind keeps replaying — is what will shape your future. So take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the ground. From this moment on, give yourself permission to move in a better direction — one aligned with truth, peace, and possibility. 🌙 And so ... Who doesn't want to transform what once held you back into the very energy that propels you forward. If your heart feels the pull to step into what’s next… I’m here to walk beside you. 🤍 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs #Transformation #HealingJourney #InnerWork #SelfDiscovery #ColliChristante #SoulAlignment #SystemicHealing #MoveForward

Inner Transformation in Bloom

🌿 October 6, 2025 — Inner Transformation in Bloom 🌿 The beautiful changes unfolding around you aren’t random — they’re reflections of your inner transformation. 💫 Every moment you’ve faced with courage… every time you’ve chosen to trust instead of fear… has shifted something deep within you. You’re no longer reacting from old patterns — you’re responding from power, grace, and grounded intuition. 🌷 This is what happens when you do the inner work. When you honor your intuition — your quiet, steady guide — life begins to mirror back the truth of who you are becoming. You start to attract new experiences, new people, and new opportunities that match your frequency of clarity, joy, and purpose. 💖 Real change doesn’t begin when the outside world looks different — it begins when you do. This is the essence of the work I do — guiding others to move from fear to freedom, from self-sabotage to self-alignment, and from confusion to inner clarity. 🌟 Because when you transform the limited version of yourself, life expands in the most extraordinary ways. 🌈 Believe Breathe Transfrom Collitalks Love and soul hugs

“From the WHL to the NHL… and now training champions. 🎧🔥 Meet Tim Preston.”

🎙️ Welcome to ColliTalks: Transformative Conversations — the space where we explore stories of resilience, growth, and the power of transformation 🌱✨ Today, I have the absolute joy of sitting down with someone I first taught mind-body communication to when he was just in grade six 🙌. Now, he’s gone on to do incredible things. Tim Preston’s journey has taken him from playing in the WHL with the Seattle Thunderbirds 🏒 and Saskatoon Blades, to being drafted into the NHL 🏆, and playing within the Pittsburgh Penguins organization. But what’s most inspiring is how he’s turned his passion for hockey into empowering others — training players who’ve gone on to win Olympic gold 🥇, the Stanley Cup 🏒, and some of hockey’s most prestigious awards. In this conversation, we go beyond the game itself to explore the mindset, resilience, and inner drive it takes not only to perform at the highest levels but to inspire others to do the same 💪💫 So let’s dive in… 🎧 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Power of Loving Yourself First

💖 The Power of Loving Yourself First 💖 Love yourself so deeply that you don’t need anyone else to complete you. 🌹 ✨ You are a beautiful soul. ✨ You carry tenderness and compassion within you. ✨ You move through life with sincerity and heart. And the truth is ~ you will always have you. When you begin to give yourself the love, respect, and kindness you’ve been waiting to receive from others, everything changes. You stop chasing approval. You stop shrinking for acceptance. You stop letting people who can’t see your worth hold any power over you. Instead… you attract those who recognize your light. 🌟 People who meet you with respect, genuine admiration, and love that feels safe and true. 💎 Moving beyond the old wounds and self-sabotage keeps you seeking validation outside yourself, and so why not come home to the deep, unshakable love that begins within. Because when you love yourself first, you don’t settle for less than you deserve — and your life transforms in ways you never thought possible. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love 💖 and soul hugs 🤗, Colli