Guiding Principle: I Don't Build From Survival. I Build From Soul

✨ Guiding Principle: I don’t build from survival. I build from soul. For a long time, everything I created — relationships, work, even healing — came from a place of survival. Hyper-independence. Perfectionism. Pleasing. Proving. Producing. 🔥 That version of me knew how to achieve — but didn’t know how to receive. She could hold everyone else — but not herself. And her business? It was driven by “not enough,” “too much,” and “don’t mess it up.” Until I burned it all down. Walked away. Sat with the wreckage. And chose to rebuild from my nervous system, from my lineage, from my soul. 🌿 Now my business is built differently. I refuse to bypass the body to chase the bag. I won’t sell a quick fix when I know the roots run deeper. I don’t coach for compliance — I guide for liberation. And I don’t push people to hustle — I help them unhook from patterns they never chose. This guiding principle matters because you can’t build a life of freedom from a foundation of fear. And if your business, your purpose, or your healing path is still being driven by old trauma coding… you’ll burn out before you break through. Or worse — succeed and still feel empty. In my world, we rewire the root. We slow down to break cycles. We honor your nervous system. We call your soul back into the room. And then? We build something that actually feels like YOU. This isn’t for everyone. But it is for the ones who are done performing healing, and ready to embody it. The ones who want their business to feel like truth — not trauma. ✨ If that’s you, welcome to the revolution. Believe Breathe Transform. Collitalks. Love and soul hugs

🧠 Popular belief:“Mindset work is the key to breaking through self-sabotage.”⚡ New paradigm:Mindset work is out. Nervous system + ancestral trauma repair is in.

🧠 Popular belief: “Mindset work is the key to breaking through self-sabotage.” ⚡ New paradigm: Mindset work is out. Nervous system + ancestral trauma repair is in. If you’re a high-achieving woman trying to “think your way out” of repeating patterns… here’s why mindset work is the last thing you need. 🧩 Because no amount of affirmations will override a nervous system wired for chaos. No vision board will protect you from the unconscious loyalty you have to your mother’s suffering. And no self-help book will break the generational pattern if your soul still believes that betraying your lineage means losing love. 💔 💥 Ever wonder why people keep doing the exact opposite of what they say they want? They’re not lazy. They’re not broken. They’re LOYAL. To unspoken family trauma. To childhood survival codes. To pain that became familiar. To success feeling unsafe because it means leaving someone behind. 🌀 I once worked with a woman who had done all the coaching. Inner child work ✅ Journaling ✅ Money mindset masterclasses ✅ But no matter how much she earned, she sabotaged every launch. Why? Because in her family, women who made money were shamed — or isolated. Making money meant becoming “other.” Becoming “alone.” And unconsciously, that was a death sentence. Once we mapped the family system and brought the pattern into the light, she wept. And her body exhaled. 👉 “I never realized I was trying to stay loyal to women who suffered.” That was her moment. And her launch tripled the next month — without a single new strategy. ⚠️ Here’s the real issue: Most mainstream coaching still treats sabotage like a mindset problem. But the root is deeper. Soul deep. Systemic. Generational. And unless you heal that, you’ll stay trapped in the loop. 🔥 My work with systemic trauma, family constellations, and sabotage isn’t about fixing you. It’s about freeing you from the invisible contracts keeping you stuck. Forget about rewiring your mindset. Start re-aligning your soul. 🕊️ You’re not broken. You’re just wired to survive. And now it’s time to remember how to live. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Reason

There’s a reason I do this work. It’s not just passion. It’s personal. It’s survival that turned into soul purpose. I was the woman who did everything right on the outside — Achiever. Strong. Capable. But inside? I was a tangled web of inherited pain, buried rage, and silent sabotage. I didn’t know I was living out the grief of women who came before me. I didn’t know the reason I kept choosing struggle was because struggle felt like home. That I was loyal to pain that wasn’t mine. That my nervous system confused safety with chaos. Until life cracked me wide open. The ending of a long relationship that mirrored my childhood wounds. Health challenges that screamed what I refused to hear. A betrayal that forced me to stop performing strength and finally feel. That’s when I found Systemic Constellations. It was like someone turned the lights on in a room I didn’t even know I was trapped in. I could see the patterns. I could name the loyalties. And — for the first time — I chose me. I stopped trying to fix myself and started listening to what my soul had been begging me to hear. And that’s when everything changed. Not overnight. Not cleanly. But truthfully. Fully. And forever. This isn’t just work to me. This is devotion. This is how I broke the cycle. And why I help others do the same. Because there’s nothing more sacred than watching someone remember who they were before the wound. And there’s no greater freedom than realizing you were never broken — just carrying what wasn’t yours. This is why I guide others to freedom from self-sabotage, inherited pain, and disconnection from soul. Not to make them “better”… But to help them finally come home. If you’ve been feeling like you’re spinning in loops you can’t name… You’re not lost. You’re being called back to the truth.

Here's The Biggest Struggle I See Amongst Ambitious, Heart - Led People

Here’s the biggest struggle I see amongst ambitious, heart-led people: They’re trying to build their dream life with a nervous system that’s still loyal to survival. They think it's procrastination. Or laziness. Or fear of failure. But what I see? Ancestral loyalty. Childhood imprints. Invisible contracts with pain. They’re carrying wounds that aren’t even theirs. Patterns that go back generations. Sabotage that whispers: “Who will I betray if I succeed?” “Who am I without my suffering?” “Do I even have permission to thrive?” Most people think the fix is more discipline, better habits, or another mindset hack. But you can’t affirm your way out of a lineage that hasn’t been healed. You can’t goal-set your way out of a nervous system still in exile. 🔥 What actually works? We go to the root. We make the unconscious seen. We release inherited trauma. We shift the story at the soul level. This is what I do through Systemic Trauma Resolution, Family Constellations, and Freeing the Self from Sabotage. Because the real breakthrough? It doesn’t come from pushing harder. It comes from remembering who you were before survival taught you to forget. Believe Breathe Transfrom Collitalks Love and soul hugs ✨ DM me “ROOTED” if you’re ready to break the pattern and finally feel safe in your own success.

Do You Remember Who You Were Before Survival Told You to Forget

Being able to finally break free from self-sabotage is simply a process of ripping off the blindfold society handed you — and finally seeing the invisible chains you inherited. You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re carrying wars you didn’t start. Healing means finally dropping the weapons you didn’t even know you were holding. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Welcome back to Collitalks Transformative Conversations — the space where real conversations crack the surface and healing gets raw. I’m Colli , your creator, host, director, and producer — basically, the one stirring the pot and asking the questions that matter. Today, I’m sitting down with the unstoppable Sharol Sommerville — a wild spirit from Moose Jaw, Saskatchewan, who’s no stranger to chaos and no stranger to conquering it. Sharol’s story is the kind that hits you in the gut and lifts you higher — a journey through abuse, homelessness, survival, and ultimate transformation. Now a Reiki Master, Wellness Coach, and Child Abuse Prevention Educator, she’s spent 45+ years mastering the art of breaking chains — both seen and unseen — and helping others find real freedom in their lives. This isn’t just an interview — it’s an invitation to meet your own resilience through her story. So buckle up — and let’s dive into "Finding Freedom in Chaos" with the fierce and fearless Sharol Sommerville. https://innerexpression88.podbean.com/e/finding-freedom-in-chaos-cheryl-somervilles-journey/

Why You Keep Feeling "Not Good Enough" (and How to Blow Up That Lie for Good)

🧨 Why You Keep Feeling "Not Good Enough" (and How to Blow Up That Lie for Good) Real talk: If you’re sick of achieving more but feeling less, you’re not crazy — you’re caught in a pattern. And it’s not even your pattern. Clients keep telling me: ➔ "I KNOW I'm capable, so why do I always sabotage it?" ➔ "No matter what I do, I never feel enough." ➔ "I’m tired of second-guessing myself to death." Spoiler alert: This isn’t a mindset issue. It’s systemic trauma and inherited family loyalty messing with your head (and your dreams). 🔍 Here’s What’s Actually Happening: Your nervous system is loyal to an ancestor’s heartbreak, loss, or failure. Somewhere deep inside, you believe, "If they didn’t get to have it, I don’t deserve it either." Thriving feels like betrayal. Visibility feels like danger. Success feels like abandonment. It’s NOT because you’re lazy, broken, or ungrateful. It’s because your bloodline taught survival > success. And your body is still playing by those rules. ⚡️ Why Now? Because we’re waking the hell up. You can’t keep cramming your soul into someone else’s survival story anymore. The old contracts are expired. You’re being asked to become the one who breaks the cycle — not by fighting your family, but by LOVING them enough to evolve. 🔥 My Method to Break This Pattern Wide Open: ✅ We spot the sabotage patterns hiding in your family system. ✅ We release the inherited trauma weighing you down. ✅ We rewrite your nervous system’s "default setting" to THRIVE instead of survive. ✅ We give you back YOUR permission slip to live massive, unapologetic, soul-lit success. I’m not here to band-aid your self-sabotage. I’m here to set you FREE from the invisible crap that’s been running your life behind the scenes. 💬 Truth bomb: You’re not failing. You’re being loyal. And once you see it, you can choose a different legacy. 👉🏼 You are the dream your ancestors couldn’t even speak out loud. 👉🏼 You’re allowed to be more. 👉🏼 You’re allowed to win. Ready to shatter the cycle? Let's do it. #SoulWork #SelfSabotageNoMore #FamilyHealing #SystemicTrauma #BreakingCycles #NotBrokenBonded #LeadTheLegacy #BigEnergyHealing