Ever Have the Urge to Control an Outcome?

Use this reframe the next time you feel the urge to control an outcome. Instead of tightening your grip, try this: “I can care deeply… and still let go.” There is freedom in allowing life to flow — to savor what’s good without needing to hold on so tightly. Detachment isn’t disconnection — it’s choosing presence over control. It’s being here, fully, without fear of what's next. Try this the next time you're clinging to certainty. You might find that peace lives in the release. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Truth I No Longer Dilute

🔥 The Truth I No Longer Dilute 🔥 For too long, I softened parts of myself to be more “marketable.” I hid the depth of what I see, sense, and know. But here’s the truth… ✨ Real transformation isn’t pretty. ✨ Healing isn’t a quick fix. ✨ You can’t bypass the hidden loyalties, the self-sabotage, or the ancestral pain you carry. That’s the truth my industry often avoids. I am here to serve those who are tired of surface solutions. The women (and men) who have silenced their voice just to belong. Those carrying burdens that aren’t theirs. Those who know they are meant for more — and are ready to reclaim their freedom, their truth, and their life’s energy. The circle, the tree, the sacred feminine — these are my symbols. Courage, freedom, compassion, and integrity are my values. And my gift? 🌙 To reveal what has been unseen, to name what has been unspoken, and to walk beside you as you reclaim what was lost. Because when you finally feel safe within yourself… no outside force can ever take away your peace again. This is my truth. This is my work. And I will no longer dilute it. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

From Care Giver to Catalyst - Turning Life Loss into Business Breakthroughs

Hello everyone, and welcome back to Transformative Conversations. I’m your host, Colli Christante — creator, director, and guide for this space where we uncover hidden patterns, explore systemic trauma, and shine light on the paths that lead us back to our true selves. Today, I’m honored to be joined by Lorna Scott. Lorna is a powerful guide for women entrepreneurs, helping them turn life transitions into business breakthroughs through her Identity to Impact System™. Known for her calm clarity and fierce compassion, she walks beside women who feel buried in overwhelm and self-doubt, showing them how to reclaim their focus, confidence, and create a business that truly reflects who they are now. With decades of experience across human services, online marketing, caregiving advocacy, and transformational development — plus her certification in the Canfield Methodology, where she’s even assisted Jack Canfield in training new trainers — Lorna brings a rare mix of strategy, lived wisdom, and heart. And today, she’s here to share not only her wisdom, but also her brand-new program designed to help women step into their true identity, reclaim their confidence, and expand their impact. This conversation is all about identity, resilience, and the courage to align your business with your authentic self. I cannot wait for you to experience what Lorna has to share. So let’s dive in. Here’s my conversation with Lorna Scott.

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Inside Out

✨ You may think that healing or transformation comes from what happens outside of you—whether that’s approval, love, money, or validation. But what if I told you that paradigm is on its way out? The shift I see happening is this: people are no longer willing to live in a world where their peace depends on everything around them being perfect. The new way is about becoming a safe space for yourself. Because no matter what’s happening out there—who leaves, who stays, what breaks, or what builds—when you feel safe inside your own skin, nothing can rob you of your peace. 🌱 Each day gives you another chance to begin again. 🌬️ To breathe, to feel, to simply be. This is where true contentment is born—not from the external, but from within. And once you anchor into that, you’ll discover that no one and nothing can take it away. This is the work I do: guiding you back home to yourself. 🦋 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

🚨 You’re not broken. You’re entangled — and no quick fix will untangle what runs generations deep. 🚨

🚨 You’re not broken. You’re entangled — and no quick fix will untangle what runs generations deep. 🚨 Here’s the elephant in the room: 👉 No amount of positive affirmations, mindset hacks, or quick-fix self-help tools will create lasting change if you haven’t uncovered the hidden loyalties and systemic entanglements that are running your life beneath the surface. This is the harsh truth my industry often avoids — because it’s easier to sell a shiny “3 steps to happiness” promise than to guide someone into the deeper work of facing what is unseen. But until you shine a light on those hidden loyalties - - the unconscious bonds that drive self-sabotage, burnout, and cycles of pain — you will keep repeating the same patterns, no matter how many workshops or books you consume. 🌿 Transformation requires courage. 🌿 It requires looking at the roots, not just trimming the weeds. 🌿 And it requires wisdom, not just knowledge. This is the work I do. This is why I became a Doctor in Integrated Systemic Trauma. Because when you’re ready to stop circling the same mountain, you need someone who can walk with you into the depth — and guide you back out with freedom in your soul. 🦋 Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Like a Sunrise

Heartfelt Gratitude

Today I am honored to share that I have officially received my Doctorate in Systemic Trauma through the University of Systemic Work. 🌿 This certificate represents not just an academic achievement, but five years of deep study, practice, and embodiment. I am filled with gratitude for: 💜 Rector Graciela Laura 💜 Dr. Anngwyn St. Just 💜 Nora, for her beautiful translations 💜 Lucia, for her tireless tech support 💜 All the visiting professors 💜 And my colleagues, who walked this path beside me This journey was never about collecting knowledge — it was about gaining wisdom. Living the work. Facing my own patterns. Healing the unseen. And now, carrying this forward in service to others. A certificate may be a piece of paper — but what it represents is a lifelong commitment to honoring the soul, uncovering what is hidden, and guiding others back to their truth. Thank you to everyone who has been part of this chapter. The journey continues… 🌟 #DoctorateInSystemicTrauma #EmbodiedWisdom #SystemicWork #HealingJourney #LifeWork #SacredPath

Knowledge vs Wisdom

✨ New Podcast Episode ✨ Today’s episode of Transformative Conversations is extra special… 💜 Not only do I dive into the difference between wisdom and knowledge — and how social media can distract us from doing the deeper work that leads to true transformation — but I also share a very personal milestone. After 5 years of dedicated study, I have officially become a Doctor in Systemic Trauma with the University of Systemic Work. 🌿 This is more than a title. It’s about embodying the wisdom that only comes from walking through the fire of life, doing the inner work, and carrying that forward to guide others. Tune in as I share why knowledge fills the mind, but wisdom transforms the soul. 🎧

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Embracing Life as it Unfolds

✨ September 13, 2025 ✨ There have been so many times in my life when things did not turn out the way I expected. Plans collapsed, relationships shifted, and the ground beneath me felt uncertain. In the past, I would fight against reality — trying to control it, fix it, or resist it. But what I discovered is this: the more I return to my heart’s calm center, the more peace I find, no matter what is happening around me. 🌿 It doesn’t mean the chaos disappears. But it does mean I no longer let unhealthy thoughts distort my perception of who I am or where my life is heading. Life is always unfolding — sometimes beautifully, sometimes painfully — but always with something to teach us. When I allow myself to embrace it unconditionally, I can see the glimmers of joy and hope that are always present, even in the darkest seasons. ✨ If you’re in a place where things feel heavy or uncertain, know this: peace isn’t found in perfection — it’s found in your heart. Come back to it, again and again. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

The Truth About Growth Most People Miss

✨ The Truth About Growth Most People Miss ✨ So many people try to “fix” themselves by adding more— 📚 more books 🎧 more podcasts 📝 more self-improvement tips But here’s the mistake: They believe that doing more will finally make the stuckness go away. In reality, piling on more strategies often buries the real issue even deeper. The truth? You don’t need more information - - you need transformation. You need to uncover and release the hidden loyalties, ancestral patterns, and old narratives that silently hold you back. That’s why I love what my client shared recently: “Could not have acheived this career milestone without you. If you are reading this and are serious about becoming better personally and professionally, then Colli can be your life coach to guide you and also help you to get rid of the issues that are holding you back! Contact her now"! Robert Ames CCM, PGA 🌿 This is the work I do. It’s not about quick fixes or band-aids. It’s about creating lasting freedom in your soul and your life. ✨ If you’re tired of trying to “add more” to fix yourself, maybe it’s time to release what was never yours to carry in the first place. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Challenges are Part of the Soul's Path

✨ Challenges are part of the soul’s path ✨ So often, we search for the perfect solution - - the one answer that will finally make everything fall into place. But what if the key isn’t in the solution… but in the perspective? 🌿 Fear narrows our vision, keeping us trapped in old stories. 🌿 A subtle shift in awareness begins to soften the edges. 🌿 And suddenly… what once felt heavy reveals hidden gifts, quiet opportunities, and lessons laced with wisdom. The truth is, you don’t have to know the way forward. You only need to hold the dream close to your heart and take a step. That’s when life moves toward you — wands waving, mysteries unfolding, and new beginnings quietly forming. What may feel like an ending could simply be the doorway into a luminous new chapter. 🌸 💫 For those who feel called — this is the sacred work I hold space for: guiding you to see the unseen, to uncover the wisdom in your challenges, and to step into the magic that has always been waiting for you. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Do You Feel Like Life is Happening to You Instead of For You?

✨ Use this reframe the next time you feel like life is happening to you instead of for you. So often we slip into the story: “This is unfair… why me?” But here’s the shift → What if life isn’t punishing you, but positioning you? Every challenge carries a hidden doorway. Every setback is coded with information about where you’re still entangled, repeating, or holding fear. When you pause, breathe, and ask “What is life showing me here?” you step into your power. Because you can’t transform what you keep resisting — but you can transform what you’re willing to face. 💫 Try this today: the next time you feel like a victim of circumstance, ask yourself: 👉 “If this is guiding me toward something, what might it be?” That one question shifts you from powerless to powerful — from trapped to free. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

You Can Never Defeat What You Are Afraid Of

🌑 You can never defeat what you are afraid of 🌑 Fear has a way of disguising itself. It shows up as procrastination, self-doubt, overthinking, or even the stories you repeat to yourself about why you “can’t.” But here’s the truth… What you fear most isn’t the outside situation. It’s the inside confrontation - - the hidden pattern, the buried memory, the unspoken loyalty to pain that keeps you circling back. That’s why surface fixes never work. Because you can’t out-think, out-run, or out-hustle what you’re afraid to face. ✨ The moment you turn toward it instead of away, everything shifts. You don’t just “defeat” fear - - you integrate the wisdom behind it. And from there, you finally reclaim your voice, your freedom, and your life. This is the work I do with my clients: I help you uncover the roots of fear that keep you stuck, so you no longer have to fight yourself — you get to transform. 💫 If you’re ready to stop being ruled by fear and finally step into your truth, send me a message. It’s time. Believe Breathe Transform Collitalks Love and soul hugs

Surface Problem vs. Root Issue

🌹 Surface Problem vs. Root Issue 🌹 When people come to me, they often say things like: 👉 “I just need to stop overreacting.” 👉 “I need to manage my triggers better.” 👉 “If only I could control my emotions, I’d be fine.” But here’s the truth… what they really need isn’t more control. It isn’t about silencing the reaction or pushing the trigger away. 💡 The real issue is this: those triggers are connected to hidden loyalties, unhealed trauma, and ancestral patterns that keep them repeating the same cycles — no matter how hard they try to “manage” it on the surface. ✨ When we get to the root - - decoding the language of the nervous system, unearthing the buried pain, and releasing what was never truly theirs to carry — everything shifts. Instead of battling their reactions, my clients begin to feel: 🌿 Grounded in who they really are 🌿 Free from the constant loop of self-sabotage 🌿 Open to create a life that feels safe, aligned, and truly theirs Because the truth is - - you don’t need more willpower or self-control. You need liberation from the unseen forces shaping your life. That’s where the real transformation begins. 💬 Tell me — do you find yourself stuck trying to manage the same “problem” over and over? Maybe it isn’t the real problem at all. Believe Breathe Transformation Collitalks Love and soul hugs